Like anything online, approach with caution but as a female enthusiast I message people first all the time, and I’m the real deal and have no intentions beyond sending a compliment, getting to know, and/or hopefully cuddle with the person I’m messaging.
I wasn't going to say anything else on this thread but I'm a grown up who lives and leads with nurturing and kindness. Whose empathic nature makes me so grateful I get to do this work and make sure other folks feel seen. So @DarlingNikkii You saying that "I admitted to soliciting" like you just caught me committing a crime.... "and want to make some money" like it was something dirty. No ma'am. you do not get to speak to me & about me that way. I do not deserve that. I would appreciate an apology.
@TheMidnightOwl well said.
@Katota I'm glad to see I'm in good company. You have to have thick skin to reach out on CC to other enthusiasts for sure. I'm on hiatus from vetting new partners.
I'm thankful for the friendships I've made on CC. They have been invaluable to me. 🫂
@MTex well said.
@Jeremiaaahhh I personally haven’t been reached out to first by any local enthusiasts. It’s possible that changes by location or even just by person given the other responses I’m seeing in this thread, but that’s been my experience. With that said, I HAVE been reached out to first by a few non-local enthusiasts who have seen posts of mine in the threads, and we’ll often chat a little when that happens ☺️
@wilderdude thank you for being one of the cool ones 😎
I get messages first by some of the women here. It's not often, but I mean, girls do get lonely too, and some of them are trying to make a buck while doing this, so it's not unheard of. I've never been messages by someone trying to get me off site.
Hmm I do not recall if I’ve been contacted by someone first , enthusiast woman.
I think it is great for pro to contact me after I viewed their profile. We are usually in dif locations. But the chat is good. I travel. I’ve met great cuddle thus way.
I’ve also chatted local enthusiasts who we have met. Most great experiences.
I’ve also chatted local enthusiasts who blocked. We later met at meet n greet.
I would say approach with enthusiasm and positive vibes.
Most people are good. 😊
Prob enjoy some cuddle too.
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@sr182 that looks like one of the singing plants at the Enchanted Tiki Room at Disney!
I have never had a female enthusiast message me first just randomly now I have had both a female enthusiast message me first and a female pro cuddler message me first when I visited their profile and they message me to say hi and tell me they saw that I viewed their profile and to let them know if I am interested in doing a session together either in person or virtual session. I have noticed that their are some female enthusiast that are scammers that get banned pretty quickly. But I noticed that enthusiast never really talk to enthusiast and the enthusiast both male and female are only interested in doing sessions with pro cuddlers which I understand why
Plenty of pros will message me first after I've viewed their profile. As for enthusiasts, it's happened, but usually they don't have good intentions. I will reply just to see what they'll say and then see how long it takes before they are banned. I'm only talking about enthusiasts that have messaged first. Most of the time the ones I connected with were ones that I messaged first. However it HAS happened at least twice where they messaged me first and we became friends. I just haven't met these people in person as they've been in other states or countries.
As a side note I don't think I've ever been messaged first by someone who's profile I didn't view before they messaged me, or that didn't see something I posted in the forum. Like purely using the search function and messaging without seeing a thread I participated in or having me have viewed their profile. In fact I recently was messaged first by an enthusiast a few weeks ago who I was skeptical of(no profile pics and strange about me section that seemed off), but gave a text free number to just in case. (I hadn't sent a message first, but had viewed her profile). My gut instincts were right, because when they actually were talking about meeting the first thing they were asking for was "gas money". I see why their profile got banned.
I'm an enthusiast, and if a profile looks appealing to me and they are in the area, especially like if it's new persons in the area, then I'll definitely reach out first. Sometimes I'll have my profile hidden just because I may not be looking for a cuddle at the time or go unhidden like if I'm in a new area or something and that's when I definitely would reach out to people in the area say hey. Also I've seen someone visits my profile and their profile looks interesting then I'll say hey! But I'm sure there are scammers out there and I'm sure you can probably tell by the first response back or so.
@CoachJMan19 posted: "enthusiast never really talk to enthusiast and the enthusiast both male and female are only interested in doing sessions with pro cuddlers"
Enthusiasts definitely talk with, meet, and cuddle other enthusiasts. This thread already has posts expressing such. I've only ever hired one Pro, versus dozens and dozens of fellow enthusiasts I've cuddled.
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I ignore those pros especially out of state miles away I'm not interested
@CoachJMan19 I’m an enthusiast and I have never hired a pro cuddler. And I have absolutely initiated messages with male and female enthusiasts.
@SunsetSnuggles I understand and I was just saying from my experience and talking to different cuddlers that is what I have generally seen. But I know that enthusiast cuddle with other enthusiast it is just from my experience
I am a pro and also message my profile viewers. It has become a standard practice for me.
I click on profiles of those who click on me because I'm nosy and want to read what they write about themselves. I often find myself clicking on the same profile because I have a terrible memory, especially if there isn't a profile pic, but I don't leave a message because I don't want anyone to feel like I'm soliciting them. I've had people leave some very endearing and heartfelt messages that have literally made my day!
Maybe I’m a little traditional, but I’ve never reached out first. 😊 I still appreciate a man making the first move. I also wouldn’t automatically assume a woman who does is fake, just verify like you would with anyone else.
I've had several pros message me first. I always respond with pics. But unless I feel an instant and mutual connection, I don't persist further. I know a pro's time is valuable. Enthusiasts have been very rare.
Take it as a compliment, but don’t let it go to your head. A lot of us are on and off this site for prolonged periods of time for various reasons (generalizing so I don’t “step on anyone’s toes”!) and “pop in” out of curiosity, then leave again. I’ve made several cuddle buddies that way. It feels more personal and “safer”!
From my experience, women enthusiast don’t reach out first unless they are scammers or it’s not in regards to cuddling. They usually don’t reply for at least 24 hours or maybe more unless they are scammers. It’s usually because trauma from men or similar from the ones that did reply back eventually.
Professional cuddlers are not supposed to reach out first, but they do occasionally.
People often think that their own experience is fact and true for everyone. It seems they can’t imagine that there are other people (even on CC!) who have very different experiences here, who think from a very different pov. There are so many differences in the way people think - just continue reading the forum. As an enthusiast I initiated contact whenever I felt the motivation, never occurred to me to wait. But again, we all have different levels of confidence. It’s easier to me because here we’re all strangers to begin with and if I don’t get a response, it doesn’t really matter because I haven’t attached any emotional expectations.
I’ve had pros reach out to me dirt, always after I’ve viewed their profile. They usually say something like “thank you for visiting let me know if you have any questions…” I usually respond with how I was just browsing profiles and came across yours….I'm far away from you. I’ve gotten a few very wonderful conversations that way.
Just recently I was contacted first by a non pro about 1k miles from me. We decided to take the conversation to another chat platform where she sent me “selfies” of herself. I spotted them as AI generated immediately. She then wanted me to “invest” and she would help me. Needless to say I blocked her. Scammers try a lot of different avenues to get to people. And yes I did report her on here.
@LivnTheLife Great job spotting the scam and reporting!
Yeah, I never reach out first, even if someone has viewed my profile. If I'm curious enough, I might take a look at their profile, but I'm not initiating contact—at all. Even with the best intentions, as a pro, it can unintentionally make someone feel pressured to meet or change the dynamic in a way I'd rather avoid.
Even with my regulars, we'll say hello from time to time between sessions, but I always let everyone know post session that I prefer they reach out whenever they'd like to meet again. It keeps things easy, low-pressure, and allows us to reconnect when the timing feels right. What will be, will be. 🧘♀️
Yes, I've had a couple of ladies reach out to me after I visited their profile. I thought it was fine, and showed some interest. I booked with one and had a wonderful session.
@Velvet_Heart I do something similiar and it has been well received. I even received a kind reply thanking me for the thoughtful message even though they weren't seeking a Pro. I also had one tell me how much he appreciated I initiated communication. He was unsure if he should because he was out of state but traveling to my area.
@Gracious "2 karmas written by 2 seasoned cuddlers is infinitely better than 10 karmas written by banned or deleted cuddlers. Be safe out here" this statement speaks volumes. Understanding the value in quality vs quantity will make the experience mutually beneficial.