Does 100$ an hour for cuddling seem like too much to anyone else?

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  • Cuddling is a service where your body, space, time, level of comfort, concern for safety, and emotional energy are all contributing factors that are unique to the individual. I dont take issue with people setting their price at what they feel they are worth. If others dont view you the same way, you will not get the business. However it is not something i feel i have a dog in the fight over and it is not my place to tell people how they should set their rate. If i become a pro cuddler, then i can wag my finger til my heart is content.

  • I cuddle for free but I offer half off discounts.

  • [Deleted User]grumpy_cat (deleted user)
    edited February 2020

    I cant bring myself to request pros at that price range, its a rediculously high number.

    I know cuddling isnt consistent and theres travel but it puts them at roughly the $180,000 mark lol.

    Lets not mince words , the cuddlers charging $100 are not doing so because some extreme cuddling skill, they are doing it because guys are attracted enough to pay that to cuddle with them.

    For reference I pay my housekeeper $40/h which is considered high by many and she cleans my toilets for that range.

    I cant fault anyone for getting what people will pay, but yes, it's still a rediculous number.

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    Honestly though there should be some moral imperative not to fleece lonely men for all they ar worth... but thats the free market for you.

  • "Honestly though there should be some moral imperative not to fleece lonely men for all they ar worth..."

    And that is one way to tell if a professional is the kind you want to use for services or not. 🤷

  • I would also implore not everyone that hires a pro cuddler is " lonely " they're just using a service that's available to them. Also never judge another man's wallet by the size of yours.

  • @hugonehugall so true. Not every cuddler that comes to me is lonely. They are happily married but they just don’t get the cuddling part. I’m never going to charge $100/hour but I don’t judge those that do.

    I’m wondering where the $180,000 mark is coming from. Most pro cuddlers don’t have enough clients to make this job a full time thing to survive on, let alone making that huge amount in a year. Some can make a living purely cuddling but I doubt they are anywhere near $30,000 a year let alone $180,000.

    The only thing I don’t like is when some pros charge $150-200 an hour only because they are so close to escort prices and I fear they get compared to them which means every pro cuddler gets compared to that. Just an opinionated fear. That’s all. But as long as they don’t let that price push them to do non-platonic things and they are able to have clients, all the power to them. If you don’t like their prices, move on. You can’t feel taken advantage of because no one is forcing you to hire the more expensive pros.

  • I would never judge anyone for getting into SW. There's this assumption that anyone that does is doing so out of desperation because they have no choice. Some do it because quite honestly it fits their schedule better than a conventional job and it allows them to make decent money in a limited schedule. And they also might enjoy it.

  • @hugonehugall I definitely am one to support legalizing sex work but I just don’t want that comparison in this platonic site.

  • @Sheena123 I understand that. The topic comes up pretty often around here.

  • No takers on my blue light special above? In the words of Yukon Cornelius—“Nothin’”

  • edited February 2020

    I charge $100 per hour. I feel like my skill set and emotional intelligence greatly contribute to how I value my time. If someone would rather book with a cuddler who charges less, that is totally okay! Many of my clients choose to extend our time and book again.. for me this is validation that my rate is appropriate for the platonic service I provide. If that means I draw less first time clients, that’s definitely okay with me. But I don’t think it takes certifications to make me better at what I do. I’m incredibly emotionally intelligent, and give my full undivided attention to every booking, and every client. I try to meet their physical need for touch as well as their emotional needs. Almost every single one of my clients has told me the I instantly made them feel incredibly comfortable, accepted, and cared for. For me, and my clients, that $100 is totally reasonable.
    To each their own, but I don’t think all unofficially trained pros give sessions of the same caliber, and my rate is meant to reflect that.

    I also think it’s important to note that $100 is only $20 over the $80 recommended rate. and after CC takes their cut, I walk away with $85. This also excludes the hours I spend talking with my clients/potential clients, as well as my commute time.

    And I really don’t think it’s fair to even compare escort prices to cuddle prices. They are two completely different realms of intimacy.

  • @saramajara It's not that not having training or classes makes someone not a good cuddler. There is definitely a natural element some people have, even without taking classes. However, in ANY occupation or line of work, I think it's important to be humble and always looking to learn. No one knows everything and everyone can make improvements. It sounds like you do just fine how you're doing things, and get enough clients, but I personally am put off when I'm looking for a professional, if someone were to say they're already awesome and don't need to learn anything. From what I hear, it's normal for cuddlers to not see the benefit of classes at first, to think they know enough, etc. Myself, I was just so excited about this work, I did cuddlist training, cuddlexpo, and cuddle sanctuary training all in my first year, ha. Then in my second year I took mental health first aid and ASIST training. I would love to find a class specifically related to working with clients who have PTSD or more complex mental illnesses (I recently had my first client with schizophrenia). I guess I'm the opposite of you. I do feel like I have the natural piece, but I never grow tired of learning more about something I love and am passionate about. It was an early sign that I found the right work. I just want to learn everything I can, so I can combine my natural skill set with as many tools as I can get my hands on. 🤷

  • edited February 2020

    @ubergigglefritz I did not say there’s nothing I could benefit from learning, absolutely there is always room for growth. I do not think and did not say I’m the best or I know it all - just that i don’t think cuddler classes are the only way to learn or improve ones skills. And to clarify I meant, “I don’t think I need certifications to make me better [than that some other cuddlers] at what I do.” Being humble is always a good thing, but so is being proud of the skills you do possess, and valuing your time accordingly. I guess I could continue by listing the education I’ve received throughout my life I believe contributes to my skill set, or the courses I’m currently enrolled in, but like you said, I guess I’m just the opposite of you.

  • edited February 2020

    hopefully Bernie gets elected and will either reform cuddle rates with the Fed as the single payor of something around $40 or subsidize cuddles for those left unable to cuddle due to income inequality

  • @MisterBlu I prefer the freedom dividend allowing people to better afford their life needs or more self-care. And would ease my stress a lot more to continue finding more ways to save people money (I already have memberships in my personal business to save most people 15-25%). Most people on here could do a lot of good with another $1,000 a month. Gives more power to the individual instead of keeping it in the government or employer's hands. I personally trust myself more than them, ha. 🤷

  • The original question of this thread was if $100 per hour was too much. I think this question is subjective. Too much for whom? It is definitely too much for me. But it may not be too much for someone else with a lot more disposable income. So if pro cuddler prefers richer clients, that's their business. Nothing wrong with that. Thank the gods for the pro cuddlers who aren't going for those richer clients....not everyone likes rich guys. Some of them are jerks.

  • [Deleted User]grumpy_cat (deleted user)

    I saw a nearby cuddler charging $160/h... who is their target audience?

  • Indeed, there’s a few $150 cuddlers I’ve noticed and sometimes a $200 one pops up. Hard to imagine why someone would pay that much when there are so many less expensive options available.

    Maybe if their profiles did a great job of convincing me that they are the all time greatest cuddlers in the world I’d give them a try just once... but nope.

  • @grumpy_cat and what’s crazy is some of the ones that have such outlandish prices actually have karma! I can’t imagine paying that!

  • [Deleted User]grumpy_cat (deleted user)

    @CreativeCuddles if it charges like a duck...

  • I've seen a few $150 and up Pros in my area that have karma so people are paying that.

  • Much ado about nothing. If they charge too much then do not hire them. If someone else is hiring them then good for them. None of our business.

  • [Deleted User]LucidDreams84 (deleted user)

    $100 for 1 hour cuddle is of course ridiculous. It should be at least half that. There are a lot of factors in play, but in general it’s Thievery. But the market is weird. Tell your friends you paid $100 an hour, and another $20 in travel fees for a cuddle session, and they’ll think you’re insane and you have money to burn. It’s a very short term fix to your much more under lying problem: you are lonely and very depressed. By all means it should be around $20-$30 with optional tipping, just like a lot of other services. There’s no cuddle school to get formal training. Get real. $100 should be good enough for the whole evening. But men are marks, especially for cute cuddlers, which clouds our judgement.

  • @LucidDreams84

    1. Good professionals are encouraging and supportive in helping people find long term solutions and changes in their lives to stop paying for cuddle sessions if that's what they desire. Not everyone dieys it for the reasons you state though. Some people just enjoy it once a month and are not even interested in finding non-professional relationship. There are lots of benefits to a cuddle session aside from just easing loneliness...

    2. Actually, there are lots of classes and programs to learn about cuddling. It's not required though, and there are plentiful professionals who have none of the education. Some people even prefer those without "training." I believe the best professional is a good mix of natural and learned skills.

    3. Personally, I think $100-125 / hour should be top of the line. New or inexperienced cuddlers should be WAY less. But like you said, people pay it, so... 😇

  • My girl friend makes $120 a hr a gets a lot of business. The other night she had a 4 hr cuddle session

  • It’s only too much if you do not want to pay it.

  • [Deleted User]Robert87 (deleted user)

    @LucidDreams84 100% agree with you!

  • If the professional provides a great experience 100 a hour sounds reasonable. It’s about 100 a hour to have a therapist with no ability to prescriptions medicine to simply listen to you go on about your problems.

  • [Deleted User]LucidDreams84 (deleted user)

    You can find therapists that work a sliding scale for way under $100 an hour. They are widely available. Of course they can't prescribe meds, but meds aren't always the answer.

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