I have never cuddled a stranger, and I’m finding that since exploring my curiosity with it - being single and living alone and not wanting a relationship (right now) due to past trauma, but feeling touch starved - I’m faced with all these preferences that I’m not sure are politically correct, but nonetheless pretty deal breaking...
Like I prefer to only cuddle a weirdly specific sexual orientation: straight person/or gay male (gay female is triggering in terms of being that vulnerable. Please note, I have friends from a majority of sexual orientations. It’s the thought of snuggling an unknown in private that makes me panic)
Or the fact that I’d prefer to be covered from my ankles to my wrists.
I don’t want to be little spoon.
And I can’t see myself enjoying a cuddle session with someone dont find to be pretty or handsome.
Strong smelling cologne also freaks me out.
Should I just scrap the idea? Does this make me a jerk? I kind of feel like one... but literally I walk around and my skin hurts sometimes because I just want a hug... it’s like my body is holding its breath for someone it (illogically) thinks is safe and consenting.
I don’t have ANY of these hangups in other areas of my life... I’m like, the chillest chick otherwise.
So new and confusing 🤷♀️🤦♀️