Would you be willing to cuddle with anyone?

ImportanceImportance
edited January 2021 in General

—within the boundaries of law, of course.

Please think about your potential cuddlers: age, race, gender, biological sex, disability, cleanliness, smell, sexual orientation, status, career, kindness, intelligence, marital status, physical characteristics, financial situation, criminal behaviors, beauty or lack thereof, personality traits, or anything else you can think of that would encourage or discourage a cuddle from you.

Edit: I not asking for who you would cuddle if you are being paid to do so. Who do you prefer to cuddle if money is not involved?

Or, if you are the one purchasing the cuddle, who do you choose?

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  • Sheena123Sheena123
    edited January 2021

    Yup 👍🏻 As long as they are respectful of my boundaries, I don’t care.

  • cricket26cricket26

    I'm working on being that open! Eventually I would like to get to the point where I can feel safe, confident and generous enough to cuddle ANYONE. Truly, everyone deserves human connection and care!

    Right now, my preference is for people within about 10 years of my age, single, no criminal associations, that I connect with on a personality level (kind, intelligent, quiet, listeners, good conversationalists). What's absolutely essential: I have to feel safe around them.
    And everyone wants a cuddler who's clean and smells nice, right?! That's pretty basic. :)

    Other than that, I would want to know about things like disabilities but it wouldn't necessarily stop me cuddling someone.

  • pmvinespmvines

    I wont cuddle anyone and everyone and it has nothing to do how.their bio looks on paper, has to do.with whether we click as human beings

  • [Deleted User]Duryea (deleted user)

    I would cuddle with anyone. The only conditions I have are only that you both have to click. If both people feel safe and comfortable with each other then that's all that matters to me.

  • ImportanceImportance

    We will all cuddle with someone if we “click” with them. What is it that makes you not click with somebody?

  • ImportanceImportance

    I personally almost never click with men my father‘s age. It would take a very rare gentleman who is 70+ years old for me to have enough chemistry to want to cuddle him. However, I have a crush on Dr. Fauci and he’s 80.

  • cuddles_ndreamcuddles_ndream

    Really great question !!! I will answer in the order you’ve asked...

    Age - I don’t mind age but I would prefer if she’s younger than my mom (she’s 67 so 66 or under lol)
    Race - doesn’t matter
    Gender - female
    biological sex - female
    disability - I wouldn’t mind
    Cleanliness - very clean
    Smell - smells good or no smell at all
    Sexual orientation - doesn’t matter what her sexual orientation is
    Status - if she’s married or partnered I would want if her significant other knows
    Career - irrelevant
    Kindness - very much so
    Intelligence - smart lady but I don’t mind silly & ditzy : P
    Marital status - as long as their spouse knows & is ok with it
    Physical characteristics - doesn’t matter if they’re curvy / petite / tall or short I’m equal opportunity lololol a gorgeous smile would be awesome : )
    Financial situation - irrelevant
    Criminal background - j walking is fine nothing crazier than that : P
    Beauty or lack thereof - would be nice to cuddle with someone I’m attracted to but it isn’t necessary by any means , I focus more on the last one which is personality traits - kind / sweet / loving heart / wonderful / sense of humor / silly

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod
    edited January 2021

    No, I would not.

    And with the greatest respect to my friends who have posted above, I'm suspicious of claims of being willing to cuddle anybody. We all have prejudices and limitations, and it's better to be aware of them. And in a thread like this, open about them.

    age .................................... Under about 70, no problem. From there up, it would depend on the individual. I think once we are past 80 I would struggle.

    race .................................... Easy, don't care

    gender/biological sex ........ The biggie. I'm not cool enough to cuddle somebody I perceive as male for cuddling purposes. For a million dollars I could put my arms and legs in the right places, but I'm not sure it would feel like a cuddle to the other person. One day I hope to be comfortable with this, but it ain't gonna be soon.

    disability ............................. I like to think this would be fine. Edit: the more I think about this the more I think it would not be fine. I don't mean somebody missing the odd limb. But somebody who had lost all four limbs? Or had cerebral palsy? I'm not sure I'm good enough for that.

    cleanliness/smell ............... I would struggle with this. It's more about relative cleanliness than absolute - if neither of you has had a shower for a month it probably doesn't matter. But a homeless person stinking of stale urine? Beyond my powers I'm afraid.

    sexual orientation .............. Again, easy, don't care.

    status .................................... Don't care.

    career .................................... Don't care.

    kindness ................................ Tricky. I suspect the absence of kindness would be manageable, but the presence of unkindness would not.

    intelligence ............................. I value intelligence, so if somebody is totally without it I can imagine it might be an obstacle to establishing the right kind of connection.

    marital status ......................... Not keen on being party to misleading a partner without good cause

    physical characteristics ........ Height, don't care. I would struggle with very obese people. I've never seen a profile on CC which was close to this though.

    financial situation .................. Don't care.

    criminal background ............. If debt to society paid, or crimes are minor in my view, don't care. If not, it might be an issue.

    beauty or lack thereof .......... It's a nice bonus, but no I don't really care. I'm not sure I've ever seen a profile which I would have rejected on the grounds of being too ugly, but I suppose it could happen.

    personality traits ................... I don't think I could cuddle you if I didn't like you.

    anything else ........................ Yes, self-awareness. People who are just not at all conscious of theselves or are completely unreflective might not make the cut.

    Or, if you are the one purchasing the cuddle, who do you choose? ........ That one is easy, I have approached most of the professional cuddlers in my area, and I used to have a vague notion of cuddling with them all. I think that's probably unrealistic, but there are none that I wouldn't be willing to cuddle based on their profile.
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    So if you are a male, 80-something, smelly, grossly obese, stupid, unkind, catastrophically ugly, unconvicted and unrepentent violent criminal, I would not cuddle you.

    If you claim you would cuddle everybody, then of course you would cuddle such a person as long as you shared a sense of humour and a couple of cultural references.

  • [Deleted User]DarrenWalker (deleted user)
    edited January 2021

    I've cuddled with homeless people in a Walmart parking lot. Didn't really know them. Didn't really care for the way they looked and smelled. Didn't really care for their stated opinions on various subjects. But eh. A cuddle's a cuddle, even if it happens on a dirty blanket next to a parking lot drain.

    ...I'm not joking. This happened.

    I'll legit cuddle anybody so long as I feel reasonably safe doing it. My bar is low. You can literally be an ugly, filthy Trump-supporting hobo who just got out of jail. Or @UltimateChungus.

    (Frankly I quite like UltimateChungus. He's much better than a hobo.)

  • Sheena123Sheena123

    I’m sorry if I come off as a bubbly, “I love everybody” too-happy-for-her-own-good kinda girl that makes some of you roll your eyes or want to click the doubt button on things I say, but I stand by it. As long as you’re respectful of my boundaries, I’ll cuddle you. I told someone earlier that if this wasn’t my job and I was on here because I wasn’t happily married, as an enthusiast, I would cuddle anyone.

  • parkwayvisualparkwayvisual

    No. No I wouldn't.

  • ImportanceImportance

    Could you elaborate @spuds ?

  • littermatelittermate

    I love you @Sheena123.

    I prefer Wookiees.

  • LyleLuvsHugglesLyleLuvsHuggles

    Well I've BEEN homeless so that's a thing I've done more than once.
    My job is literally cleaning the garbage out of machines at a recycling facility so smells aren't the biggest issue for me. Age is an issue if too young if your under 26 (presently) then probably not gonna happen.
    There are certain criminal histories that will have me more likely to hurt then cuddle some one....

  • cuddles_ndreamcuddles_ndream

    @Importance you have a really nice/ unique/ & interesting profile & you emphasize on something I’m really big on ... I have no idea what you look like & I soo wanna cuddle with you based on your profile alone ☺️

  • Sheena123Sheena123

    @littermate thanks chicky 💖💖💖

  • littermatelittermate

    Mmmmm hmmmmm. <3

  • quixotic_lifequixotic_life

    Ditto to the sentiment posted by others...

    No. I won't cuddle anyone and everyone! We need to click as human beings!

    A perk of being an enthusiast is getting to be picky and choosy, and waiting for those who, in some way "click" with us (if that's what we need).

    "What makes one click or not click?"
    My answer to either could be so sooooo many different things!!

    Ultimately though, if there's good communication flow, we're feeling good vibes from one another, we have similar cuddling interests, and our schedules align ~ then, Whoot! Let's freshen up and get cuddly!

  • [Deleted User]DarkLordChungus (deleted user)

    @DarrenWalker

    Thank you. By the way, got any spare change?

    I'd be willing to cuddle anyone, provided that I respected them.

    I don't respect most people due to ideological differences. Knowing that a person believes in some deity, or ghosts, or that they identify as republican/democrat, or that they don't think masks do anything (these are just a few examples), immediately prevents me from taking them seriously in any capacity—in my free time, I wouldn't even want to be in the same room as them.

  • [Deleted User]StLJim (deleted user)
    edited January 2021

    No. I don't have a lot of rules about it. Some people just give me bad vibes. That can go both ways. Obviously nothing personal. It doesn't happen often, but it happens.

  • TouchSanctuaryTouchSanctuary

    As a professional, I'm happy to cuddle anyone over 18, as long as they have good hygiene and are respectful of my boundaries. However, in my personal life, I am a lot more choosy about who I cuddle with. I generally only cuddle with romantic partners or close friends I have known for quite a while. I'm much more interested in building deep relationships that last over a long period of time than having casual acquaintances as a warm body.

  • xandriarainxandriarain

    I am open minded about many of the things on the list but I am pretty sensitive to someone with a strong unpleasant odor, and I don’t think I would be comfortable with certain criminal backgrounds like murder, sexual assault or robbery. I do prefer to cuddle with people who are friendly and talkative. I get nervous around people who are too closed off and quiet. Cudding is so up close and personal so I feel a lot more relaxed once I get to know the person. My most important thing is just that the person I cuddle with respects my boundaries and makes me feel safe (or doesn’t make me feel unsafe).

  • pmvinespmvines

    The notion that people.here will happily and willfully cuddle with anyone and everyone they see is the root of misguidance that often leads to a plethora of posts complaining how nobody will.return their messages or cuddle with them . The reality that total strangers aren't knocking down your door to cuddle site unseen with minimal effort is.a broken fantasy for many a person on here

  • sunnysideupsunnysideup
    edited January 2021

    @pmvines I suspect that professionals will be much more open-minded than enthusiasts. Enthusiasts seem to generally be more selective, as they aren't being compensated monetarily for their time, so as enthusiast we would prefer to maximize our cuddling enjoyment rather than cuddling with several people where the dynamics aren't quite as magnetic. Additionally, in past threads, we had reached a conclusion that male enthusiasts on here generally prefer to cuddle women only. There do seem to be exceptions, as @Sheena123 pointed out she said she would cuddle anyone respectful if she weren't a pro. And at @DarrenWalker

    @DarrenWalker That's very kind of you and amazing. I like to think of myself as a kind person (whether that's true or not is for other people to decide), but I don't think I'd be comfortable enough to do that!

  • [Deleted User]DarrenWalker (deleted user)

    @sunnysideup: Oh no, it wasn't kind at all. I was still getting used to living on my own, working two jobs, all that, and I really needed the physical contact. So when these bums in the Walmart parking lot started yelling at me to come over and have a beer with them, well. And it was cold out anyway, so.

    [shrug]

    It's not as though anyone had the idea that a few hours of hanging out was likely to turn into a beautiful long-term friendship between the lot of us, is it? And in fact I never saw them again. Worked out just fine all around, I think.

    Anyway. I'm never really comfortable around people (any people), so this wasn't terribly different.

    I'm not picky.

  • SuperManCuddlesSuperManCuddles

    I am open to cuddlers from diverse backgrounds and characteristics (many different ages, races, genders, religious beliefs, political parties, disabilities, cultures and socioeconomic statuses. What helps me decide on who to cuddle are respect levels, connection, shared interests and expectations for the cuddle experience.

  • ryechipsryechips

    Yeah sure any woman that practices good hygiene. Even if they’re not physically attractive to me

  • AngelPendavezAngelPendavez

    You can literally be an ugly, filthy Trump-supporting hobo who just got out of jail. Or @UltimateChungus.

  • AngelPendavezAngelPendavez

    Only things on this list that matter to me are Cleanliness/Smell and Criminal Background.

    I'd prefer if said partner smelled nice or neutral, otherwise I may not be comfortable and it will affect the quality of our session together. And criminal records are fine, if it's not for specific or repeated assault charges.

    And as far as "kindness" goes, I don't know if I could cuddle with someone who didn't respect me, but they don't have necessarily have to be kind to me, I suppose ~

  • hawker69hawker69

    YES with only Two stipulations
    Must be younger than my mom. She is 85
    Must be older than my Daughter . She is 27

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