Do I have to pay for all interactions?

jamesyboy005jamesyboy005
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Do I have to pay for every cuddle session on this website? I’m just looking for some human interaction that’s real. Money makes it feel forced in my opinion. I respect the money making aspect but I’m just looking to give someone the love and attention I want

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  • [Deleted User]creedhands (deleted user)

    No. Look for profiles on your search page that no more have the pink "P" in the corner. The "P" indicates they are expecting to get paid to cuddle. Anyone without a "P" is a client or enthusiast. These people cuddle for free.

  • ScrantonCuddlerScrantonCuddler

    I’ve been on this site for years and still haven’t met with a non-pro. Most (in my experience) turn out to be untagged pros that try to charge so I report them.

  • DrCUDLERDrCUDLER

    has anyone ever got successful with free cuddle exchange (mutual cuddle for the sake of cuddling) ?

  • Noi_CynNoi_Cyn

    @DrCUDLER Nope, and when you try and message the non-pros, freshly made, no response at all. It's very unfortunate.

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod

    @jamesyboy005 good professionals do provide real human interaction. They are, after all, real people. Do not neglect the opportunities and benefits of professional cuddling because of preconceptions. In many ways it is better than enthusiast cuddling, because the flow of care is one way.

    Men enthusiasts who message women enthusiasts are rarely going to get a high response rate, simply as a matter of statistics. However, if you never get a reply you're probably doing it wrong. This might help:

    https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/forum/discussion/10731/how-i-found-happiness-on-cuddle-comfort#top

    If you haven't read the Frequently Asked Questions sticky at the top of this board, then do that too.

  • Cuddle_RNCuddle_RN

    @DrCUDLER Yep, since Jan 1 I have cuddled with 9 different people and I have grown close enough with 4 of them that we have overnight sessions every other week. The two men that I am closest with have successfully met other women to platonically cuddle as well.

    Be open to any age (I'm more than twice the age of one of my cuddle friends), any race/religion/nationality (another of my cuddle friends is also half my age AND from another country AND a different religion), and be prepared to drive to her area if you want to cuddle with a woman without paying, if that is what the rest of her life requires. Be prepared to do what she needs you to do to make her feel safe with you. Enlarge your search area. Good luck!

  • [Deleted User]squeakytoy (deleted user)
    edited May 2021

    What @Cuddle_RN said - safety is paramount. If you are in a rush, and you want the session to be convenient and geared toward exactly what you want in terms of appearance, age, etc, you probably won't find an enthusiast to cuddle with. If you're polite, respectful, and willing to take the time to build rapport and trust with an enthusiast, you might have a chance with them.

  • MaullySterlingMaullySterling

    Checking in to agree and reinforce @CuddleDuncan , @Cuddle_RN, and @squeakytoy

  • [Deleted User]creedhands (deleted user)

    I have been here for about 3 years and have had free coddle exchanges with 5 women. But, like has been mentioned, there's a lot driving involved, and an open mind is needed in terms of age, ethnicity, religion, appearance, etc.

  • pmvinespmvines

    No

  • [Deleted User]CaribbeanCutie (deleted user)

    Yes, 3 times. 2 out of the 3 seemed to not have read the code of conduct and not understand what “platonic” means. After that happened, I stayed away from the site for a few years. I tried again last year, but the person I made plans to meet with gave me a hard time about meeting in a public place first which I saw as a red flag and blocked him. Trying it again this month and will see how it goes. I do respond to most messages, but if someone comes across as arrogant, entitled or otherwise unpleasant, I do not respond. After all, I want to cuddle with someone kind and respectful.

  • cuddleYouMecuddleYouMe
    edited May 2021

    I've cuddled with some people for free (non-pro), 1 woman and since changing my profile towards cuddling "everyone", I've met with a couple of guys. I'm sure it varies by area and how many people are available, but likely this is going to be the case, women will be harder to find per cuddling (though imo it's largely bc most of them don't interact much online or message back when I try to initiate). It's a bit sad that talking/messaging people about cuddling, on a cuddling website, is I guess seen as going too fast. But if you keep going you ~might eventually run into someone interested in cuddling for cuddling sake.

    Tbf, safety (especially for women) is a factor, but I think those concerned could be alleviated to some degree if they would message back, be willing to meet over video call, in public, etc. We'll see. Since I opened to cuddling with everyone, I've gotten a fair amount of interest from men, hopefully I'll get more feedback and be seen as more credible. But at the end of the day, it's up to people to get themselves out there and in some ways to take a chance.

    Otherwise, seeking pro cuddlers the going rate is like $80/hr, which is ~doable on occasion, but mostly out of reach of being a regular thing at that price range for most people I'd think. If you notice, while most pros are women, most pros also don't have any feedback. I think it's mostly they saw you could get paid, and so they are moreso here to make cuddling a side gig rather than being here more for cuddling for cuddling's sake. It's up to each person to decide how they want to do it though. No one is required to cuddle with strangers, and just cause you want cuddling doesn't mean it's your right. And women are more vulnerable and risk more to cuddle than men do, and men more regularly push boundaries than women do making women feel less apt to cuddle strangers. Sadly, men are more likely to be touch starved and to need touch more, and in part maybe they 'act up' and push boundaries some bc of that need.

    But at the end of the day, you can't control anyone's actions, only your own. Be the change you want to see in the world. And when you do get the opportunity, paid or non, be respectful. I paid one pro and I paid a few other people for cuddling (elsewhere), and while it was still pricey, it did give me the opportunity to cuddle with them where I wouldn't have had it otherwise, so I'm grateful for that. I think finding a regular cuddle buddy you get along swimmingly with is kind of the dream though, but that may just have to wait until you find a mate as different people like different amounts of cuddling. And some people it means a lot more to them than others (probably those with a love language of physical touch). I'm experimenting to see if other tactile/touch type activities could help alleviate some of that (ballroom, acroyoga, partner yoga). Another option is to get a pet, or cuddle a stuffed animal. Not quite the same, but helpful in ways. Cuddle parties back in the day were helpful for this, unfortunately I haven't seen any in phoenix lately, the two meetup groups whciih had it retired a few months prior to covid.

    (But as another post says, you wouldn't think paying a lawyer or a plumber is weird for their services, and so pro cuddling can be seen similarly. I think people lament how difficult it can be to find cuddle...enthusiasts? Or people who want to just cuddle for the sake of it rather than to make it a paid service/job. Which is fair. But yeah...what can be said. Another post talks about cuddle experiences, and for it to happen more organically, it sounds like it's mostly been girls initiating with guys in their lives who they were already good friends with. So the same skills you would need to befriend girls (good conversation and banter) apply to both platonic cuddling and dating it seems. I've casually brought up cuddling with a couple gal pals before, stating if we cuddled it'd be platonic and I don't see us as a romantic couple, with mixed results. But that's something that you have to decide on a relationship/friendship basis. It does seem like this kind of relationship is harder to foster the older you get, easier to get set in your ways as you get older, or just to not see the other people as regularly. We'll see. If anything, I'm hoping people here get more comfortable chatting and meeting up, cause at least here you'd expect more people to be understanding at least of the need for cuddles)

  • waynewvwaynewv

    I have a Pro that I cuddle with weekly to keep my cuddle battery charged and some time we go for ice cream or for a nice dinner before our cuddle and she does not charge for that time, her time starts with our cuddle. I think that is very fair, of course it's always my treat. I also have done the virtual cuddle thing, or I call it just a chat, which is a nice way to get to know each other better. I have only got to cuddle with 1 none Pro female and a few none Pro guys, which went very well also.

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