Guys, fill out your profiles or don't expect any hits!

ColourfulColourful
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So many guys are on here with empty profiles and are wondering why they're getting no hits, instead thinking this place must be empty.

I am not going to contact someone I know literally NOTHING about! And once I've checked out your profile and seen there's nothing on it, that's your one shot, GONE.

Cuddling is very personal. You want to know SOMETHING about the person you might be meeting for a cuddle!

I understand if you're shy about putting a pic up, but you will get less hits, there's nothing to stand you out from all the other guys on here. But putting nothing in the description and not even filling in all the profile questions/options - why would you expect this to work, or even bother being on here?!

Also, don't put sexy / topless / bedroom eyes shots up here, even if you're hot and want everyone to know it. This is a cuddling not a pick up site. If you want sex go elsewhere. If you just want to cuddle, present yourself like a friend, not a bed buddy.

-From a girl tired of looking at empty profiles of guys near and far... MOST guys on this site!

PS Oh and BTW - girls are far more likely to be filling out their profiles properly! If you want to connect with someone, minimum put in the same effort they have, or don't expect to get anywhere!

That is all. :-/

Comments

  • docgatorbdocgatorb
    It's true.
  • [Deleted User]FireFlySprings (deleted user)
    Well said, well said.
  • Grace_AnnaGrace_Anna
    Also, if you do contact someone, look at when they were last on the website. If it's a long time ago, they may be less likely to respond.
  • ColourfulColourful
    Good point! Not that that should be a deterrent from contacting anyway...
  • BruinBruin
    Have to say, your profile is the exception rather than the rule Colourful. Most people on here seem to have pretty Spartan profiles.

    Profile content doesn't really have any impact on 'hits' anyway. The profile can't be seen until it's visited.

    I've taken your comments on board all the same.
  • JoeSomebody2JoeSomebody2
    We are the few..the proud...the users of Cuddle Comfort who have fleshed out profiles. ;)
  • thalothalo
    I took your advice and filled out my profile - not because I want hits but in the rare case that someone does visit my profile, I would like to hear from them.

    The reason I hadn't filled it out was that there is virtually no one in my area, so I didn't see the point.
  • TantraManTantraMan
    "Oh and BTW - girls are far more likely to be filling out their profiles properly!"

    Errrrm - and how would you know this?

    Of the 16 matching Sydney girls I saw, only three or four had filled in their profiles - enough with the guys are scoundrels girls are saints stuff!

    Still good post anyway. I updated my profile. Probably not very well though - feel free to give me a private critique.

    Not a public one though - public humiliation does nothing for me!

    Mark
    xxx
  • ColourfulColourful
    Well when I did a search, all the girls I looked at had fleshed out profiles, some way more than mine too, so that may have skewed my perspective a little. To be fair though, the three days I tried online dating before I gave up in disgust at the quality of mysogynist male contacting me, the majority of men had spartan profiles and the majority of women had fleshy ones, so I didn't question it when it seemed to be the same story on here. Obviously I'm hoping for a less sociopathic experience on here lol as sex is out of the question, only genuine intimacy and friendship!!! I'm not man-bashing at all... most of my best friends are male, I am close to my brother, and know enough great dudes to redeem the male gender. But I haven't known a man to be forced offline because he had too much self-respect to put up with #ByeFelipe stuff (https://instagram.com/byefelipe/).
  • thalothalo
    That's so sad that people act that way. Some women do it too - but I've only been harangued by one woman I broke up with in my whole life. But all of my female friends have multiple stories to tell. Some are truly horrific.

  • Alex_TAlex_T
    What hits? In all the time I've been on Cuddle-comfort (which is a while) I have not received one _single_ reply, let alone actual cuddles, even given that there are not that many women from my area on this site. My profile is well and truly complete, with 2 pics, an informative non-creepy description, and I have never proposed anything other than platonic cuddles and good company. Since cuddlr shut down, this is my only way to find some platonic affection. I persist of course, but even a spec of interest, a crumb, would be something. So ladies (from anywhere in the world), give me some constructive criticism - is it my pic? My blurb? Any and all advice is welcome - bring it on.
  • cherryalexandracherryalexandra
    I just don't think there are many users here yet, so the likelihood of even finding people in your area is difficult, much less finding someone willing. Alex T- maybe a pic of you smiling would be helpful. Unfortunately, due to the culture and other men perpetuating an environment where women need to be suspicious of strange men's intentions, women are extremely cautious but will be more comfortable with men who appear friendly and harmless. Smiling may help portray friendliness.
  • JoeSomebody2JoeSomebody2
    "I just don't think there are many users here yet, so the likelihood of even finding people in your area is difficult, much less finding someone willing."
    If we build it, they will come. :D
    Movie quotes aside, I think we understand the direction we need to take: build an inclusive community that talks with one another, and understands a standard that not only provides satisfaction but safety for all. I'm down. B-)
  • [Deleted User]chococuddles (deleted user)

    Hi! I'm a dweeb and just for kicks I decided to look at the oldest threads on this forum and this was the oldest.

    Kind of slapped me across the face. I had a stupid one liner but now filled it out thanks to this thread. Gonna graze thru and see what other slaps I can find.

    One thing I noticed about current threads and threads from 2 years ago is that history definitely repeats itself.

  • [Deleted User]Greybeard (deleted user)

    Not sure how this fits into this discussion, but, READ that profile of the person you hope to meet. You can’t convince me that you’re really interested in meeting me if you ask me questions that would be unnecessary had you read my entire profile.

  • cuddleYouMecuddleYouMe

    I'd say likewise, since a lot of girls profiles I look at don't have anything on them.

    If there's still nearby I'll try messaging them at times anyway, and then (if they respond) learn more about them that way, but it helps a lot and saves some time if everyone would put some basic info about themselves, likes, etc.

    I know it's not quite like a dating site, but still, having info can help determine compatibility, whether you may have something to talk about (if later a meetup occurs), etc etc

    (On the flip side, I tend to give too much info in my profile, lol)

  • [Deleted User]chococuddles (deleted user)

    Join the club, Delta Delta Delta can I help ya help ya help ya.

    I either give too little or too much.

    Guess we're just expressive?

  • [Deleted User]knightandday (deleted user)

    My profile was a bit more sparse than I thought but should be good now :). Thanks!

  • curly_cuddlecurly_cuddle

    every time I filled my profile out I was actually messages that it has some errors and doesn't sound good, so I'd say having an empty profile is better than a bad one

  • [Deleted User]Sunflowerfield (deleted user)

    I think giving a bit of info in a profile is good (like maybe a couple of paragraphs), but when people start giving too much info it sometimes makes me wonder if they are using this as a dating site.

  • funandadventurefunandadventure

    Good on you Choco, This is a thread that needs to be revamped and help many new members make the process work.
    The profile is the start and some detail is necessary to start interest, pictures about you are good to show your personalty. I cuddle plants/Trees and lots of seniors ( I work in a hospital, Age care).
    Love peace and Happiness, John Auckland NZ.

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