men do get sympathy, i'm in support groups where nobody cares about gender and everyone helps who they can. but because buying women stuff isn't really as bad as being treated like a second class human being, and because you're slagging women off you won't get any from me either.
anyway let's not concentrate on the hating of women/men/everyone and get back to the original subject of why are women unloving to men...
people can be loving, most people are naturally reciprocal and expect something in return for that and they tend to love you because you make them feel good. some people are messed up and can never be loving, these people might still be reciprocal and expect different kinds of exchanges. some people enjoy giving and some enjoy taking and if the two get to meet they're happy enough together. see, it's only when you're not compatible enough is when there are problems.
i'll tell you know what i've noticed personally over my lifetime: that most men expect something for nothing, that most men expect to have their cake and eat it, that most men want something casual and on their terms, that most men don't respect women because if they did they wouldn't be doing half the shady stuff they do behind 'their' womans back and bragging to other men about it, that a lot of men are comfortable introducing themselves to women sexually despite nothaving ever spoken to that woman previously and knowing nothing about her and that they don't care if you want sex with them or not, they just presume you do that they seem clueless about what women want or don't care that they think they can use/abuse you and you'll still be interested in them that most men aren't scared to go meet a stranger because they've never had any bad experiences with one
and you know why? because they can and there is literally no repercussion for them if they do. most of these traits are bordering on sociopathic, all are selfish. tell me why we'd want to love anyone like that and not think most other men are exactly like this.
also these men are definitely garbage and if any man has a problem with women saying they are garbage then he is probably garbage too. you can be a male and call out other men for their shitty behaviour, it won't make you any less of a man. you should acknowledge it at least as part of your meninist agenda.
i don't even hate men, but i do withdraw from them for my own safety. this is me slowly slinking (like a whirlwind) back into the realm of men btw, probably done a bad job of it but i don't care as i feel safe right now.
I rest my case.
@irene,
You are really ignorant. You can sub women in place of men and vice versa. I see you are from the UK. Women in the US that don't know that and think you are from the US are going to say, what planet have you been on? lol. If women are such angels in the UK I want to meet some of them.
Everyone back to your corners! This thread is out of control. We are all here for the same reason...to share cuddles. If that's not why you are here, go away. If it is, let's cuddle! Sometimes you need to agree to disagree and move on.
I can say that most women expect something for nothing. The woman who drove drunk like a maniac home was my "friend" off and on for about a decade. I wrote for boxing websites in my spare time. She was a female boxer and she went to Germany and she was taken advantage of. She was the challenger in a world title fight. The judges were corrupt. Her trainer was probably paid off by the German promoter. She was emailing me and we talked on the phone while she was there. To make a long story short, she lost because she was punched after the bell and the referee was also corrupt. She lost by technical knockout. She came back home and she was devastated. I helped her through the tough times. No one else did. Her haters spewed hatred on the Internet. I was a boxing journalist. I was under no obligation to help her. I was not her publicist. I wrote a long article about what happened and that helped her mentally and it also gained her many fans because I am a good writer. I explained the corruption and how I helped her. I wrote many articles for her. When her boxing equipment was stolen, I bought replacements brand new and better quality than she had before. I got used though. She would call me stupid and dummy sometimes. She eventually won a world title, but she would never have achieved that without my help. The fight after she lost in Germany, I traveled to Texas to film the fight in order to make sure that it could be recorded in case there were any shenanigans. Her trainer did not review strategy about the fight beforehand. I am the one who made the game plan. I watched her opponent on YouTube and I knew what she needed to do because I have been watching boxing since the 1980s. She did what I told her to do and she knocked the girl out. That wasn't a world title fight, but it made her ranked No. 1 so she could get another world title fight. I did more than any man would do for her. She is also a massage therapist. She gave me a free massage once because I asked for it, but it wasn't as good as the one that I paid for. Why did I help her? I felt sorry for her, but she did not feel sorry for me. When she was out of work, she wanted to go out to eat, but she wanted to go to the best restaurants in Miami Beach. Even when I was in debt and I said this to her, she said to me "What does you being in debt have to do with me being hungry?" That's the treatment I received from her sometimes. She was like Dr. Jekyll and Mr, Hyde. I looked up online the characteristics of a narcissist and she is exactly that. I never got paid from her. Her trainer was inducted into the Florida Boxing Hall of Fame. I'm still waiting for my induction. People don't realize that championship belt that she has is because of the time and money spent and work I did and I now regret what I did. I wish I never met her. The only reason why I met her is because I saw her fight and I believed in her when no one else did that she could become a world champion someday. I will repeat: Most women expect something for nothing.
Good morning everyone!
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Love has to come from within yourself. Your experiences with others are simply a reflection of you! If you want others to love you, roll up those sleeves and get to work on yourself...
@jrose.... Perfectly stated
Yeah, you’re right. If men don’t want to be taken advantage of, then they can’t allow themselves to be or else it will keep happening. My experiences such as the one I stated above are a reflection of me because I allowed it to happen by not working on myself and instead helped others. I agree with you JRose. People treat me bad because it’s a reflection of how they perceive me and even if I have done nothing bad to deserve that treatment, it is a reflection of me. If a child is bullied in school and wants to commit suicide because he or she is repeatedly bullied, it is a reflection on him or her. The bully is simply reacting to the bullied child’s reflection of himself or herself.
“Your experiences with others are simply a reflection of you.” That is called psychobabble.
i think part of the problem with understanding how this works is that men have many poor experiences with one woman and go on to tar all women with that brush, whereas women get regular disrespected by a lot of different men and actually are able to generalise on men.
it makes sense not to trust anyone of a certain type if you've had bad experiences with one of them as this is part of your thinking trying to make sense of why someone abused you (they never really tell you why so you have to try and figure it out yourself, main reason why is they are not kind people who enjoy the power that being abusive seemingly give them, they'll often blame you for their behaviour and so your brain ends up messed up trying to make sense of lies (which is impossible to do)), but it makes more sense that if a majority of a type constantly are abusive/disrespectful then you would generalise that type.
also, it's necessary to respect yourself to ensure that others will also. not everyone has to respect you but if they want to interact with you then they should, and you hold the power to that, you can say whether someone is welcome in your life or if they should stay out of it.
People are certainly welcome to argue for their limitations. No one is going to take away your right to choose the role of helpless victim. Just prepare yourself for experiences that will reflect that type of energy back to you. I've been there before, I get it. Timing plays a big role and suffering serves its own purposes. However, we do also have the choice to explore our TRUE power. It isn't realistic to expect to jump from feelings of powerlessness to empowerment though. It's more like climbing up a ladder. Gradually. Work your way up the emotional scale, rung by rung, and watch your relationships and experiences begin to change... I dare you to give it a try.
Sending lots of love and hugs to all of you sweet darlings!! Take good care of yourselves and watch the love roll in.
This thread is helpful to know what people to stay away from
Comedy GOLD.
@cuddlebugTM. You said it! Many of the pros on here have already blocked these people.
Looking fir love, go to a dating site . Also if those are only type of people you are finding maybe look at why you are only attracting people who use you . You are the common denominator .
Also relating it to children being bullied is rediculous children have less control , their brain isn’t fully developed they need protection and guidance . If you are grown you have the power to say , no I don’t he treated that way and leave the relationship . Need to figure out why you keep dealing with people who treat you bad . I had to start realizing many years ago you teach people how to treat you . If you accept bad behavior you are telling them it’s ok . Be alone and build yourself up , learn healthy boundaries and you will likely have healthier reciprocal relationships that love and support you while expecting the same .
@RScarf1 Ok, I am sorry. i do not generally post, EVER, but I enjoy reading the forums. THIS statement that you made:
"If a child is bullied in school and wants to commit suicide because he or she is repeatedly bullied, it is a reflection on him or her. The bully is simply reacting to the bullied child’s reflection of himself or herself."
In my opinion, this statement is completely inaccurate and ridiculous. It is as though you are saying, for example: there is a child who has autism and no one but the teachers know, and this child gets picked on by the children in school for the disability that the child has little to no control over. Those children who soundly made the decision to be cruel to the child with the disability are at no fault based on what you are saying. I sincerely disagree. Bullying is a choice. You can chose to be kind or you can chose to be cruel. This is an extremely obtuse and insensitive statement that you have made there.
@courageous1 - He's being sarcastic... (and comparing men to bullied children and women to bullies... xD )
@Lorelei, it is hard for me to discern his sarcasm. Thank you
Yes, I was being sarcastic. I’m speaking from experience. I was bullied not because of what I reflected. I was short and short kids tend to be bullied because they are perceived as being weak. I had to learn karate to defend myself and when I did, the bullying stopped because bullies do not want to pick on people who can fight back. Adults get bullied too in the workplace like I was. It makes no difference whether it is children or adults. As an adult, it was difficult to defend myself against female coworkers who were lying about me verbally and in writing because my employer was on the side of the women. I know some people on this forum will think that I did something wrong to deserve it. I’m not going to go through it here, but I was the victim and I was not treated as that. If men were against one female victim, that would have been swiftly dealt with by my employer and discipline would have been given to the bullies. Regarding the new statements made on this forum, I agree that I had to demand more respect and I did eventually, but I had to end the one-sided relationship which was me as the giver and her as the taker. I met another woman about a year ago and she was sometimes saying things to me that were derogatory toward men and through my previous experience, I just was not going to tolerate that anymore. She and I are on good terms now, but it’s still a friendship that I don’t really need or want. She wanted me to help her sell items on eBay, so I did and still do. We rarely talk unless it’s about what she’s selling on eBay. I still have my opinions on women that are not going to be changed by comments here. I spent my money on cuddlers. I’ve contributed my opinions and feelings on this forum. You don’t have to agree with me. If you knew me, then you would know that I respect women and would like to meet them through cuddling, but it does take time and money. I have other responsibilities in my life and goals to achieve, but I try to make time to improve myself and meet people.
Irene, Lorelei, Scarlette, et al. ——— CHECK YOUR DAMNED FEMALE PRIVILEGE.
I get blocked by people just because of my comments on this forum. Some people want to live in Fantasy Cuddling Candy Land. I bring reality to this forum and they don’t want to hear it.
@mrmountainlion Do us all a favor and stop posting. Nobody is interested in what you have to say. You are an idiot.
@RScarf1 Its not reality, its your reality, but that is not the reality of everybody. You have been on multiple threads with the same 2 or 3 stories about how you feel you have been wronged by a woman, or how the superhero movies are emasculating, or how 1 or 2 cuddlers have not worked out. There is so much more to your life than a few negative experiences. Why build your life around that, and allow that to shape your worldview in such a negative way? You share the same small handful of negative stories in pretty much every thread you post on. There must be more than just that?
@Rscarf1... I can't believe you are an actual writer when it takes you 600 words of mumbo jumbo to spit out one theory. @MrMountainLion... You state in your profile that you would rather cuddle a mountain lion than a woman... I'm begging you on behalf of every other annoyed cuddler here....go to the nearest mountain and find one!
@MrMountainLion - This is the funniest thing anyone has said to me all day. x3
@Lorelei does that mean your damned female privilege has been checked? Personally I would just lighten the travel load and take it as carry on as checking it is so time consuming and inconvenient but to each their own. Are you feeling privileged yet?