Great discussion, gang! Fascinating stuff!!!
Iv set my cuddles to only women because I'm easily overwhelmed when it's set to everyone, so I get very few messages. probably very close to zero. But I do searches sometimes for everyone and am not against messaging first. I wish they had more options than women, men or everyone though.
It really depends on the week. If it's around a holiday weekend, I often get a ton of messages. And then the next week I'll get nothing. They come in waves.
@JusticeJane Love the wave, dudette! Lol
Per week? While I'm not a Pro or a woman, as a Mod investigating reports I've seen some new women who have joined the site, regardless if they've registered as a Pro yet, get between 30-70 individual people sending messages to them in the first 2-4 days of being on the site. Depending on location, rate, and how active they are on the site to show up higher in search results as being online recently, I've seen Pros get on average between 16-55 individuals messaging weekly. That number can fluctuate wildly though week to week
Sometimes I receive no message throughout a whole week
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I get a message about every 10 days. I get more visitors but maybe they’re reading my profile and I just are not what they looking for. But I’m content lol. I don’t think I would have the time for all those messages. I don’t know how people do it
@KozyKim I know that I've visited your profile because I've seen you on the forums a lot and was just curious--especially after you talked about being a pro. I've done that with several people from the forums just out of curiosity about where they live, or whatever. 🤷♀️
@jenluvzscooby Yes I know why people visit my profile I can tell that people visit more after I’ve posted on the forum. I’m not saying I get a lot of visitors either I’m just saying that I get more visitors than I get messages that’s all.
@KozyKim Yes when messages near the double digit range it can be a bit draining.
I make sure to message everyone in a timely manner. It’s okay to not reply immediately. Sometimes life can get busy and I even forget to reply. I’m a person who loves lists so I try to keep organized like that if needed. But I think within 24 hours is more than reasonable.
@SoftPetals But when you get one message every 10 days it’s not too hard to manage lol and half of those don’t work out.
I usually get about 10 - 15 a week.
I used to get a ton of msgs until my rates went up
@SouthrnCft One of the pros I was seeing increased her rates from 100 to 125 in order to reduce the messages. Two of the pros complained about men messaging then endlessly without an appointment and whining when they respond slowly (pseudo bf stuff).
I’ve been on the site for 2 days and have had 10 men reach out. I don’t know how many messages but 10 individuals in 2 days.
I get a ton of messages, but no bookings even when my rates were LoW
And now that they’re higher i dont get but 1-2 a week if that
One little trick if you dont wish to get slammed with messages is to put your account status as mute . You dont show in searches, and people can visit your profile and see you in forums but cannot message you unless you message them first.
I'm amazed by people who receive so many, I may get 2 a week, and I live in a bigger area.
Hrm... Mine pretty much varies within the range of 'underwhelming' to 'beyond manageable'.
This thread is an eye opener, I figured all female cuddlers were constantly getting slammed with messages.
What is the rate for a cuddle session
@Tabithia78 ~ Rates vary as they're set by the individual Pros.
@JBearz ~ I think one of the things thst may have been nice, were if those posting their numbers were asked to include some demographics for us all to consider too. I mean, keeping in mind that the majority of CC site users don't participate in the forums, I have a few theories that those who are "slammed" find themselves in that position for a few reoccuring reasons...
One is that those who have an actual photo of themselves are much more likely to receive messages than those who don't (hence a lot of Pros getting more hits as they are required to have one). Other factors include their visual appeal from said photo(s), their percieved or actual age/youth, the "type" of message(s) their photo(s) may be sending, where they're located, (if pros) the rates they charge compared with others in their region, the language used withing the first few lines of their profile, and if they host and/or will travel.
Of course profile visits are likely to get a bump when they post (especially when in the general forum because even though most don't participate regularly, when one does, even the 'lurkers' like to see who they are), but those wouldn't necessarily generate additional booking requests/messages because they may not be within a reasonable distance among other factors.
Additionally, if they aren't logging in daily or wait a week or longer, that too could make for a lot to sift through once they get around to it.
Basically, I don't find any of this surprising at all, and it's not a surprise that someone like myself isn't flooded by hopeful cuddlers either ~ My user pic isn't of me, I'm old(-ish), my profile skews toward unapologetically honest and is often chock full of weirdnesses and I'm not here to cater to someone else's cuddle whims. Add to all that I don't host and it really is no wonder.
Again, these are just my best guesses...
If my personal picture is made public, I get lots of messages, I tend not slow down in my responses when it’s obvious that’s they’re reaching out for small chat. I seriously believe they should bring back online chat room’s because majority use messaging as a chat communication .
Its probably over 9000
@HumbleBaron
It can vary. When I first joined three years ago, I would get dozens a day. On the other extreme, I have had slow periods on here where I didn't hear from anyone for a whole month. On average, I would say 2-5 messages per week where the other person starts the conversation. A lot of the time, I have to reach out to people who visit my profile.
I think when I first joined, I had an overwhelming amount of messages. I haven’t had much free time to truly engage in cuddle sessions lately and am just now responding to people I enjoy talking with.
I think I end up getting 4 messages a week now. But my presence in the community has died down due to my work life outside of here.
However, I do still read the forums to stay updated, even if I don’t respond to messages.
For me, it varies from week to week. BEFORE pandemic lockdowns when I was still in NY, I would get 40 to 60 individual messages per week. Now that I'm in Central Virginia, POST pandemic, I usually get 8 to 20+ individual messages per week.