When scheduling sessions, I tend to gravitate those who I interacted with in the forums the most because it feels more like cuddling an old friend and not a random internet stranger.
The forum plays a small role when I am considering reaching out to a potential cuddler. However, because people active in the forum are spread across the country, there are relatively few women in the forum I would have opportunity to cuddle with unless I am traveling to their area (which has happened) or they are traveling cuddlers.
I have used the forums to eliminate a couple of potential cuddlers from further consideration because of things they have posted that tell me we would not be a good match. I’m not saying they are wrong or that I am wrong, just that we wouldn’t be a good match.
The forum has no value to me when I am considering a cuddle. Some may place value in then which is the paragotive of choice. There is not issue at all with that. The one issue that to me seems like an abuse is if posts in the forum that are not excepted then become an excuse to pry into the friends and those that have left karma for the purpose of expressing disdain verbally or non verbally about the individual who is the center of the post. It is one thing to chide the person the forum conversation is with. Its a whole different thing to then visit or have correspondence with others said person has interacted with. The forum should not dictate using the site in the way it was intended outside of the forum platform.
To me here is no value for cuddling or too know about another individual on this site outside of the sage advice stickie and for everyone to understand so the site is functional in its purpose. Friends is a term each individual has the freedom to use as they see fit within the dynamics of this platform which is something I refuse to base a determination of who they are as a human being within the ideology of cuddling for comfort.
The forums have impact in the way I find someone. It gives me a look into their personality and I’ll go and look at her profile. It’s not the end all be all, but it does have an impact.
Yup! The forums can definitely be a great tool, but not my only tool. I have become friendly with some regulars here on the forums, some for cuddling and some just for sharing silly memes/LD friends. Like @JohnR1972 said, it's also stopped me from scheduling with a few because of their words and interactions, definitely not a good match. Not to say I haven't been burned by a few reg posters. LOLOL It happens.
Most people in my area aren't active in the forums which leads me to have a couple favorite cuddlers and schedule repeat sessions with them.
DARN IT! I didn't see there was a, "No, I just come to troll" option. LOL.
I don’t use the forums anymore as I was suspended without being given any explanation. That’s the thanks I was given for years of contributions. Not anymore. No thanks.
@dave31415 - That doesn't make any sense. You think they would tell you the reason so you don't break the same rule again.
I think it’s valuable as a tool to have people checking in more often to the site. I spend more time here because of the forums.
As a sensitive person, I get frustrated with the forums and find them with respect juvenile and quite hardish at times, but I feel the need to get my name out there to draw the female cuddlers. I find cuddle comfort easy to navigate, so I am here and choose to stay here. People tried me out but I enjoy consensual platonic cuddling with a female partner.
Let's me know who to stay away from.
@dave31415 you were wronged. I have always thought your posts were intelligent and well thought out. Those who opposed your arguments were often nasty to you and you took the blame just for being on the "wrong" side. It's a long standing issue I've had on here.
And he didn't "break" any rules. Some just fail to understand how this site truly works.
@dave31415 @jplemmon - I guess if there is a heated argument here, they might give the participants a forum timeout to give them a chance to cool down.
I don't enter these forums with hopes or attempts at striking a cuddle connection. I participate to be a part of the community, and read the different views on topics.
@Mike403 no the participants (plural) did not have a timeout. That's my point.
I use the forum for minor social interaction. I find it a little strange and restrictive but okay overall.
So far with my time here I've not had anything on the forums and rest of the site overlap so to me it may as well be a different site.
Anyways I will continue to pop in for posts I find interesting.
I feel the forums have very useful information, also I’ve been able to meet and get to know people who have posted or commented. Additionally I believe some people are more open or honest in the forums and it gives you a better sense of their character.
I think the forums are invaluable source of information and inspiration, especially when our community leaders and moderators chime in! I am always so looking forward to see what they have to say!
But nothing is more inspiring than a poop thread, which reminds me to stay regular thank you @pmvines
@lonelytauros - Does he make poop threads? I thought he just poops in other peoples threads.
Forum participants seem to be mostly consistent and far away from my location. Has had no positive effect (hopefully not negative either lol) on engaging a serious cuddler partner in my area. It helps me interact and attain knowledge, experience of others, and interaction to counteract my introverted lifestyle. ☺ I've noticed some cuddlers in my area are either banned, paused or mia. I never talked to or messaged either of them except for an enthusiast who asked me about payment and got paused like a week later and another who no showed but had positive post communications so idk. I rarely see locals in the forum. ..I am beginning to think trolling isnt just on the forums.
@dave31415 - Was it the thread about pros having karma first to charge? I saw a personal attack in there which you may have been timed out for.
@dave31415 Welcome back. and don't stay away. I love reading your stuff even when I disagree. and just be like me: kind, gentle, respectful and don't try to provoke people.
@Mike403 yea I bet that was the one.
Disagreeing with somebody is fine, but if you're going to tell someone "I bet you hate cuddling" or something along those lines, that's not okay.
Then the posts he was responding to should have resulted in timeouts as well because they were hateful and targeted. It has to work both ways....also I find no issue in saying that. He was responding to the sentiment of the post which definitely came across as someone who doesn't enjoy what they are doing.
It's been good for establishing friendships
@jplemmon - Some people are just blunt because they are tired of dealing with perverts, time wasters, etc... I appreciate those types who can stand up for themselves and other pros. That doesn't mean they dislike their clients who are respectful of their boundaries.
Almost all the people I have cuddled have had presence on the forums. Together with profiles it’s an amazing way to understand a few things about your cuddle partner before committing to a session!
Overall, I think the forums are great. It’s a town square certainly but I learn from this place.
@Mike403 that is not an excuse. Anyone can use personal feelings as an excuse to act a certain way. No one side has a monopoly on that right. Sorry but that is a double standard.
Sometimes. Many cuddlers are not on forums though. It probably did help in one case.
@jplemmon - I'm not gonna continue this conversation because I don't want this thread to go off the rails.