Anybody else kinda regret moving??
I developed a really deep connection to the last place I lived, and while moving was definitely the right call, even after three years out here I still feel like a transplant 🤷🏼
I have been in the same city all my life. On top of that I’m in the second floor apartment above the apartment. I grew up in, lol.
Let’s see … I was just having this conversation with peeps … I’ve moved 15 times in my first 40 +years and for the last 20 + years , I have lived in the same house.
Hoping to retire soon and downsize … kinda looking forward to that. But I will miss this house 🏠! 😢
I bounced around a lot when I was younger. Since I’ve been married (29 years) I’ve lived in 3 places. I’ve lived in my current place around 14 years. I would love a change of scenery. However, I hate the actual act of moving.
I moved 3 times in the last 4 years! And regretted all but the last one. Still feeling like a stranger but finally comfortable and secure. I loved where I lived before the wandering but the end times vibes we had going in LA for literally years made me want to jump out of my skin. Keep going until you feel at home.
I moved towns several times. The last apartment was 25 years where apartment tenants have had complained of cockroaches’ infestations – when I do not - being OCD clean. As long I have good sized food pantry, a kitchen, and a dining room – new friends will return for delicious cooks and a sofa to recline on. But if the guests insist you to visit their place (and cook there) – you need to downsize for more floor areas. Which is the case where is am sitting the last two years. I don’t understand how busy couples can cope living in ‘tiny houses.’ I am not a hoarder.
I moved up to the bay area from San Diego, and I regret it every day. Luckily, I work very often in SD so the pain isn't overwhelming. In fact, I'm in San Diego right now enjoying all the good food and old friends that are still local. =]
I carried on my dad's nomadic tendencies. Ever since I was 16, I haven't lived in the same residence for more than 2 years. My current residence is the first time it has happened (going on 4 yrs same place) and I'm itching to get out. I turn 45 in a couple weeks....Moving was my "normal" but each city/state/residence does have different adjustment times. I think it was 5 years in AZ before it finally felt like home.
I sometimes miss people when I move, but rarely the places. When I move, there's usually a reason. Though I have to say, I do miss the summer nights in Phoenix sometimes (especially in the winter here). I don't miss the traffic there at all, though.
Right now, I'm back working someplace I worked 20 years ago. And I was a student here 30 years ago. So I guess this is the place that seems most like home to me.
I get bored easily. Right at this minute, I’m packing everything I own to put in storage and I’m moving overseas for a while. Movers are coming tomorrow.
My daughter is moving into a new place. She’s been on her own for 5 years. She’s incredibly happy and I’m nervous 😬 🤣
I had lived in San Luis Obispo, CA and I was really sad to leave because I love it there. But it’s always great to visit.
Regarding houses...
For nearly 15 years, I deeply missed the house I grew up in, and always wanted to buy it as an adult. I visited it now and then, and finding my beloved tree cut down due to a lightning strike one day caused a heartwrenching breakdown in the car, but seems to have ultimately made it possible for me to let go. ❤️🩹
The house has also been completely remodeled...new carpet, new countertops, new tile, new windows, even... So it really would be so drastically different, I'm not sure if it would make me happy, or more sad.
Our old swingset/fort is still in the backyard, though, and last time I was there, I was able to bring back some leaves from an off-shoot of my tree. 🌳💚
Beyond that, I did really love the layout of the first apartment my boyfriend and I shared, but I've not been sentimental about any place I've lived besides the house I grew up in.
Regarding states / cultures...
I grew up in Colorado, and loved it. 🌲🐿❄️ I never thought I would leave. I still visit multiple times a year, as I have family, friends, and loved ones there.
I lived on the road for two years, traveling the country while living in my SUV and working remotely. It was the happiest I've been in my adult life. 🌊 🚙 🏜 I was single, didn't know a soul in any but one place I visited, and tapped about 27 states.
I moved to Las Vegas to be with my boyfriend, and despite hating the weather, being turned off by the culture, and feeling depressed by the brown, dead terrain, I never once regretted the move, because I knew I was walking into all of that, and I chose to do it because I loved my boyfriend more. 🌇 💙
We moved to the mountains of Wyoming for the nature and wildlife, and we've been extremely happy here. 🦌🦅 We do feel like the only vegans in a vortex of open-carry hunters and cattle ranchers, but the culture here has proven to be kind and non-judgmental. We are lucky to have gotten a place next to the mountains and the river, and are thrilled by our proximity to Yellowstone and Grand Teton. 🫎 🏞 🦬
I've never regretted moving states. 😊 There's always adventure and new experiences to be had. I absolutely love traveling, and moving to a new area puts me in a position to explore things and places I never could have, otherwise.
Since we're numbering places lived...
Grand total: 11 (not counting the two or three prior to my memory before age 3)
@Morpheus posted: "I would love a change of scenery. However, I hate the actual act of moving."
💯 Ain't that the truth! 😆
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@SunsetSnuggles my heart aches for the house I grew up in. It's changed a little, but not much and certainly not to the point of not being that place any more. I would buy it in a heartbeat if I had the money. My sister is of the same view.
Once, when it was for sale, I went and had a look round. It did give me a strong feeling of "you can't go back" and certainly the perfection of that time is not replicatable, due to small but not negligable changes in the immediate area. It was clear to my head that it shouldn't be bought unless I didn't care about the money. But my heart spoke differently.
@Runawaycuddles I’m curious about a couple things: 1.) What are some good things about where you moved? 2.) What are some obstacles to you making new connections?
Also, thank you for sharing this and being vulnerable. I think it’s easy to declare, “I have no regrets!” Even if that can’t possibly be 100% true.
I've been in my current home longer than I've lived anywhere else. Town is nice, neighbors are meh -- on one side is the town gossip, on the other a guy who mows his lawn four times a day, even in the rain.
I bounced around quite a bit during my childhood (always the new kid in school) and my early adulthood (did the same thing to my children that my parents did to me). However, I've lived in the same area for most of my life and in the same house for about 20 years. I figure I've got one move left in me when it's time to downsize.
@ShaneSchrute
1) Views and better medical care 🤘🏻 2) The health issues that make me need the better medical care 😂
It doesn't help that the culture out here is much less queer/alt/weirdo friendly and much more "burn the witch!!" cuz the former is (generally) better at being accepting of disability and the latter...isn't...to put it lightly 😅 Denver has a few cool queer/alt spots but there's just not enough square footage of city for it to feel like much of a haven, so I end up stuck home even when I am physically able to go out a bit.
@Runawaycuddles I lived near Denver half my life, so I'm a bit biased, but given what you describe, I wonder if you've ever been to Asheville, North Carolina? When I visited, it had a very funky vibe that sounds a lot like you described. It was such a fun and fascinating city! Another one which I'm sure everyone knows, is Austin, Texas. 🦇👽🎩
Curious where you moved from?
@SunsetSnuggles
I'll have to visit Asheville sometime! I couldn't move there or Texas, laws tend to get...restrictive...for people like me in places like that 😅
I actually moved here from the twin cities (Minnesota) 😍 It's a dream of mine to live on the skyway in Minneapolis
Moving sucks the older you get.
I was just in Asheville last week. Great little town, nice vibe, great beer scene, LOL. Wish I could have spent more time there.
It was less about where I moved and more about when I moved. I got a promotion and moved to a new state in mid-2019. Pretty much nose to the grindstone until things were more settled in March 2020 and I was ready to take PTO and explore more ... you can guess what happened next
I've had to move a lot while in the navy 😅 I think it's exciting ! There's a whole city/town of people you would have never met if you hadn't moved. I'm looking to move again, soon. I'm thinking of Texas 🤔
Moving stinks but I can't wait to get out of Milwaukee.