Lost and confused!

dennis22554dennis22554
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I just got a message from a friend who temporarily deleted their account to take a break from the flood inappropriate pictures and veiled attempt to solicit naked pictures. Here is where my confusion lies----I may be naive-- but I don't know of any woman who opens their email only to mind various naked pictures and exclaims---"omg---it's so hot---I want him right now." I am wondering if anyone that is currently online would be willing to donate their brain so it can be studied as to where the circuits went wrong--next---you'll have men sending pictures to a woman's kitting club (never mind--its most likely already happened). I am not posting because my like has been squeaky clean--I have done some pretty wild stuff! But seriously--sending x rated pictures----what's up with that (I know there are avenues for reporting--but the reason such behavior is done in the first place is the real problem? I keep hearing the word respect---that's a vocabulary word obviously some need to learn.

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  • dennis22554dennis22554

    mind+find

  • dennis22554dennis22554

    excuse the typos--a little irritated

  • dennis22554dennis22554

    mind=find "wondering if anyone online who engages in such behavior would be willing to donate their brain for study"--------

  • Carrie_AnneCarrie_Anne

    Insecurity, immaturity, very little experience with women.
    Underdeveloped brain, in general dumb/clueless. Also sent by men who might think they are pretty hot (but aren’t in the way most women want)
    Typically, women connect with emotions first so those kind of pics Just reveal something boring and uninteresting about that man.
    My first thought would be oh is that all you’ve got? Low level man.
    .

  • dennis22554dennis22554

    i honestly truly don't understand the sick motivation---there are 10000 percent better ways to make an impression--assuming you have a functioning brain

  • [Deleted User]WriterGF (deleted user)

    Well, we already know women get catcalled on the street, harassed at work or when out, etc. ... it's all part of the same mentality - the idea that they are objects who exist for men's pleasure.

  • dennis22554dennis22554

    but honestly--whats the expectation with sending a naked picture---do they really think the recipient is going to "drool" with excitement?

  • dennis22554dennis22554

    sorry--a little pissed

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    @dennis22554 Getting pissed won’t do any good, but calling out men for their own bullsh$t when you encounter it will. Don’t let the Good Time Charlies get away with normalizing frat boy culture or rape culture.

    All apologies to @CharlieBear

  • [Deleted User]WriterGF (deleted user)

    @dennis22554 Maybe guys who have no idea what actually attracts a woman figure it's the same thing that would attract them, naked pictures.

  • PeopleLikeUsPeopleLikeUs
    edited July 2024

    Removed

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod

    A woman journalist once tracked down some of the men who had sent her dick pics, interviewed them and wrote up an article. They had various motivations, but the unifying theme was that, broadly speaking, they thought it was a good idea.

    The background to this is, of course, that a big section of society is obsessed with denying reality. This is just another corner of irrational belief.

    @WriterGF has pretty much hit the nail on the head.

    Maybe guys who have no idea what actually attracts a woman figure it's the same thing that would attract them, naked pictures.

  • SunsetSnugglesSunsetSnuggles

    @WriterGF has pointed out what I've heard other men explain. That most men are visual, and naked pictures are exactly what they want, so they very mistakenly assume that women want the same thing.

    Women are typically more attracted by other aspects than the visual. This is why, generally speaking, men watch porn and women read "romance novels" (AKA erotica). Obviously there is crossover, but I think this pretty well explains (but doesn't excuse), the issue at hand.

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  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel
    edited July 2024

    I don’t know, I think there are a myriad of reasons men send pics of the bishop and a lot of men use the excuse of that’s what I like so she probably likes it too as a deflection of their true intent. I think many do it for cheap thrills, others in hopes of finding an easy lay, and still others to unnerve women. Why do I say that? Because it sounds like the perpetrators do it to several women so obviously many women write back asking what their problem is, but I am sure there are a minuscule amount who write back in appreciation and probably quote a price for sexual fulfillment. I don’t think they would do it over and over again without some success of titillating, shocking or piquing the object of their phallic pride.

    But then again, I have come to never underestimate the stubborn stupidity of the human race. Maybe they get told a million times “no” but can only hear “yes”.

  • MorpheusMorpheus

    I was with my wife in the drive through at Starbucks yesterday, the barista asked if there was anything else she could get me. My Wife jokingly said, your number. She said it low enough to where the female barista couldn’t hear her. My Wife just meant it as a silly joke between her and I. I have never spoken to women that way. I’ve been a girl dad for a long time and I always think to myself, how do I want men to treat my Daughter. Ironically, both my Wife and Daughter aren’t overly sensitive in the slightest. Things I get offended at , they both generally shrug off and tell me I’m making something out of nothing. My whole point is, I agree, guys that send dick picks and things like that are absolutely stupid. It’s disrespectful and I just don’t get it.

  • rob111rob111

    Did you like the fact that she asked the girl for her number?

  • MorpheusMorpheus

    It was hilarious in my opinion although the girl didn’t hear her

  • rob111rob111

    Yeah, I get it was an inside joke and great you two get on so well. How would you have felt if she had heard her and said yeah, ok?

  • CSnMUS87CSnMUS87

    While I agree with the ideas and reasons people mentioned above, I wonder if another factor could be laziness and low effort. Kinda like shooting randomly in the dark hoping someone will actually respond the way they're hoping and they don't want to put the effort to get to know a person and treat them with respect unless they think they're going to get what they want. None of it is right, but just a thought to add. I can't imagine most people would think it's going to be a good idea that has a good chance of working. Playing the lottery or running outside with a metal rod during a thunderstorm might have better odds. lol

  • magpie17201magpie17201

    I think most are trolling and not even real people. I can’t imagine any real men would do that on here. Knowing it’s not about that.
    On a different subject, I find it crazy how some pro cuddler would reach out and say $150-200 for cuddles. That is insane for some cuddles

  • cuudledragoncuudledragon

    @WriterGF i love that explanation! You are so right! They are only acting what they want to receive, their minds are not focused on context or substance of a human being, just release.

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel
    edited July 2024

    I worked with a guy that mentally operated with his little head 24/7 so much that he was fired for doctoring a hotel receipt to make it look like he was where he was supposed to be when in fact he was 300 miles away sleeping with the CEO of his largest account’s assistant.

    He was already on upper management’s radar because he was in Denver a few months before upset because his rental car was stolen along with his wallet and wanted the company to foot the bill. I called him because I was in country that week and I could drive out and get him or help him get around but he said no he didn’t want to trouble me or his wife. I knew then he was in an area he shouldn’t be in. A year after he was fired I ran into his wife at a store (she was Swedish born and raised with a thick Swedish accent to match). She poked her finger into my chest and was saying “Yoooo neeew!” drawn out in her Swedish accent. Turns out he slept with the next door neighbor and she caught him, then went through all his belongings and phone and he literally had hundreds of girls’ names in there along with dozens of pics of his manhood. I didn’t know. I had my suspicions, but no proof.

    Some men are feral dogs immune to house training and loyal only to themselves.

    Things worked out for him. He has a management position at the IRS.

  • [Deleted User]WriterGF (deleted user)

    @magpie17201 1) There are plenty of guys on here who want to push boundaries or think pro cuddlers are sex workers. I can totally believe guys on here would do this. Ask any moderator how many guys they have to ban for their behavior.

    2) Cuddlers charge what the market will bear. If a pro is charging $200 an hour and doing good business, why should she charge less? Keep in mind 15% of that goes to the site ... if she's hosting, she has expenses related to maintaining the space, if she's a guest she has gas money and wear and tear on the car, etc. The standard mantra on here is if you can't afford a given pro, find one you can afford.

  • dennis22554dennis22554

    I appreciate the responses---I knew this type of behavior occurred on occasion but never to the extent that was recently shared with ---I the point the friend deleted her account for awhile just t escape---despite being extraordinarily strong--it got to her.---iAdditionally it motivated me to call out the behavior as I truly don't understand given there are so many other ways to introduce yourself. To an earlier point---is this behavior acceptable for their wife and daughters if they have one----its something something obviously not thought about when the picture is sent. No discredit to the moderators who arre overworked and do a good job? Charlies---does this mean I am off your X-mas card list once again?

  • SweetPeaJenSweetPeaJen

    As an enthusiast, it happens WAY more than men on here realize. 🙄 That's why women quit so often, or why it's hard to get an enthusiast to respond.

  • BearBear

    @CSnMUS87
    I had a friend in high school that would use that approach. He would ask girls he came upon if they wanted to have sex but usually using the F word. His logic was one out of 100 would eventually say yes. So it’s probably a combination of everything.

  • rob111rob111

    Yeah and it probably worked for him

  • TxTomTxTom

    ...That most men are visual, and naked pictures are exactly what they want.... Women are typically more attracted by other aspects than the visual....

    Agreed. This is an interesting discussion in that it is exploring just one way in which men and women are different... but, wait, that can't be right.

  • rob111rob111

    There are women out there who like that and lads who don’t. Everyone different

  • IronicMaidenIronicMaiden

    @TxTom Why can't that be right?

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