@g_w_t_w Thank you & Likewise.
Simple , ask for drivers license or linkedin profile and pass it on to your friend.
@roni56 this should be the standard Roni!! I know for a fact This is standard practice for most @ home services from maid service to in home massage.
I think a really important and Highly related question is: has lady who has hosted in their home ever had a serious issue and what was it.
I'm not a pro, but what a profesional cuddler at the Snuggle Salon in San Jose did is first and formost, have a phone call with me to get a feel for me (which, Btw, made me SO much more comfortable (yes, guys can be nervous about the experince too 🙂)) Second, she asked for my Drivers Liceanse. I would recomend this since it doesn't seem unlikely that anyone who might have bad intentions would try Anything after giving you there ID.
Let a good friend know you are hosting or as a guest with new clients. Check in before and after. That way if you don’t check in on time, they can call the police. Give the address if you are a guest.
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@Bear That's all my Safety Protocols entails for me to host from my home as a Cuddle Enthusiast. 😁👍
If said cuddler don't adhere to my Safety Protocols then, there will be no cuddling! 🚫🤚
No, I have not had any issues with stalkers (so far) by doing it this way because I take my time vetting out a lot of new cuddlers. Plus, I reject those who come across in my inbox as either "pushy" or simply "creepy". 😑🚫😌🚫😑
Oh, yes @bear, I also forgot to mention that the Snuggle Salon business also said that they will be expecting a call from the Professional, and will call the police if they don't get it
If I had to choose this as a profession, would never host (even though I am male). Forget about immediate personal safety, 1 hour into someones home is enough for a professional robber to map the place and conduct his or her business much later on. Already so much personal information is shared nowadays on social media, now adding this, its literally serving on a platter. Now it might not be that your 60inch tv will be missing the next day, theft can occur on different levels and scale.
It’s always good to tell a friend but that doesn’t prevent the dangerous person from hurting you or trapping you in their home. All it does is tell the friend where to find you, after the fact. I’m all about preventing a problem from happening. Requiring a DL in advance and sending that to a friend works as a disincentive to the cuddler/client to do something harmful. He/she knows that someone else has their info. @DavidJH I haven’t ever had a serious issue hosting and I explained above why I haven’t. It’s about planning and taking precautions. Implement prevention measures. Honestly, I’m old enough to know how to prevent problems. When i see 18 yr old young women on this site who admit they go into a complete stranger’s home, I feel anxious for them.
@DavidJH You would be amazed by the number of men on here who say they would absolutely refuse to show ID.
@WriterGF I don’t blame them.
I would hesitate to show my ID to a stranger far more than I would hesitate being a guest at a stranger’s home.
But my safety needs are likely not the same as anyone else’s.
I have no deep fear of being attacked, not that I think I am immune to physical danger, but I have the advantage of size, power, and experience.
But l do worry about my identity being “stolen”, especially online, and utterly screwing up not only my bank account, but also the various social programs that I use.
The old joke…
“Your money or your life!”
“I’m thinking, I’m thinking!”
@CharlesGrove I have seen a number of pros say they are perfectly willing to accept a redacted ID, showing only your name and photo.
As I have pointed out elsewhere, anyone who hosts at their home makes it easy for the cuddle partner to get their full name anyway.
Agreed
I don’t feel unsafe hosting at home, but I’ve also owned a pet sitting service for going on 5 years and it’s part of my daily job to sleep in others homes - and vett my clients. If anyone gives me any reason to feel uncomfortable - it’s a no from me dog. I am also a pretty strong lady and have no qualms with unleashing my female rage if a guy ever even attempted to harm me in any capacity. Don't mess with Texas Women!
Oh and yeah - good old ring camera! Rawr!
The short answer is get some training. Vetting clients is a big part of the learning process and you will have a support system in addition to the one here on CC
I want to HOST ! Hopefully by 2/2/25
AND your clients will have a pro that has been trained! Win-win
Be a smart person.
The pizza guy has your address The junk mailers have your address All the people at your last party have it
Your main concern is your comfort and the person that cuddles with you. If you are afraid of them based on how they look (I'm a tall black man) anyone afraid of tall black men? You can try as much as you can to change it but most people have biased minds.
If you're cuddling someone you're afraid of for money, you will consider every act as possibly aggressive and ruin the experience. When speaking of it, any details may show behavior paranoia.
"He picked up a glass for no good reason."
I've had someone say they were setting a timer and (it appears) set a phone recorder instead..they would ask me to repeat things as if to say, speak into the mike. I noticed but didn't say anything, I wanted to be a safe cuddler. BTW joking is a no no until you really know someone. (Alarm never went off..was it a silent alarm?)
Don't cuddle someone that fits a superficial description of things that you don't like or fear for money. Only cuddle those that make you FEEL safe. Otherwise you waste time and your fear just grows.
@Dance_Culture I can't speak about every state in the US, but in CA (where I live) it is illegal to record a conversation without the consent of all parties involved. I would have said something, but that's me. They have a right to feel safe within the limitations of the law and the limitations of the rules of this site. The rights (and safety) of all parties involved should be respected and honored.
Oh, a few other things Pros on CC do:
I would imagine this would give you a last minute option to cancel if you feel unsafe when you see them ("Sorry, something just came up...") and then don't reschedule
Vetting is important, no question. Keep in mind, though, that according to recent studies people are able to detect when they are being lied to less than 50% of the time.
@ArtsyHarmony I understand that you are uncomfortable hosting in your home. Personally, I think it is best if you avoid things that you feel could potentially be uncomfortable doing. Even if you are a pro, you also need to be relaxed for both to have the best experience. Just because others may be comfortable with it, doesn't mean that you should have to be comfortable with it also.
If I may, for the folks in the back…?
BOUNDARIES ARE NOT NEGOTIABLE.
BOUNDARIES ARE NOT OBSTACLES TO OVERCOME.
BOUNDARIES ARE NOT AN ARGUMENT TO WIN.
Please respect everyone’s boundaries.
Most especially your own.
There are some great contributions here.
Because I am aware that safety is always the first concern I address this in advance in my profile:
I much prefer hosting when I can. My situation is different as I host at my partners house and he is usually in the next room working. If I were to host at my own home I would never tell them that I live alone.
I am a bit wary of most men I encounter—a fear I’ve learned to reconcile, sit with, and swallow like a bitter pill. This isn’t to say there aren’t good men who make me feel safe; they exist. But I live in a world where it feels wiser to be vigilant!
Because of this, I’ve become fiercely discerning, carefully evaluating each person I choose to grant the safety of my body. Does he make me feel safe? Does he respect women? Can they hear me and truly listen to me? These questions guide me as I navigate this deeply intimate space.
That’s why I see cuddling as a privilege—a rare instance where I allow myself to lower my guard, even just a little. But it’s never fully lowered. Nope. There’s always a part of me that stays vigilant, acutely aware of potential risks and protective of my boundaries. It’s a delicate balance: offering warmth and safety to others while safeguarding my own sense of security.
That being said I’ve never had to end a session short and I’ve had wonderful experiences on CC so I’m sure my vetting methods do work well. I’m constantly tinkering and improving my strategies in hope of getting better at this work.
@brownglucose I don’t really understand the perspective of pros who focus the session on their safety and comfort - when I think it should be more about the client. It seems like you just described your sessions as people paying for the privilege to lay next to you. More about people paying to access you, than paying you for a safe space.
@NikkiFM Thank you for sharing your perspective! I was initially taken a back by your comment, “is she insinuating I’m a selfish Cuddler?” oh shit Perhaps I am. 😂 But I think this highlights how different providers approach sessions in unique ways, which is one of the strengths of this work—we all bring something different to the table. Now let’s find out why I’m centering my safety and comfort in a thread about “Female safety” . 😆😅🤦♀️
For me, creating a safe space for my clients begins with centering my own safety and comfort. This starts before the client and I are even in the same room. I believe I can only provide a secure and nurturing environment if my own needs as a provider are prioritized first. You know that quote, “you can’t love others unless you can love yourself?” My base line safety and comfort needs must be met so I can pour into my client. More importantly that means they need to FaceTime me, call me or chat w me prior to session. I have other safety protocols but those are the most Important. Sometimes that means, I do have to turn away clients who don’t meet my comfort and safety needs, because I’m not here to take any unnecessary risks.
When I say clients are paying for access to my body, my mind and my safe space, it’s not just about proximity to me—it’s about the intention, care, and boundaries I establish to make the session a positive experience. When I show up for others, it’s only when I feel safe doing so. My safety is the foundation for the trust and support I offer clients.
If we’re discussing professional safety, this is why I tend to focus on my needs as a provider in those conversations. I think it’s especially important for female professionals to prioritize their comfort and safety, given the physical risks we often navigate in this line of work that men are far less likely to come across. This doesn’t mean the client’s experience isn’t important—it absolutely is—but I see centering my safety as a non-negotiable part of ensuring that experience is truly meaningful and secure for both of us. Hope that makes sense. Feel free to message if you have any questions on vetting and safety tips.