I'm with @dennis22554 the OP had a broad assumption that was very rude. Also, it does NOT help the cause of keeping things safe. On an aside, I can't tell you how many people on the forum brag about experience and make over-reaching statements that don't ring true if you take a look at their profile.
I have been wondering the exact same thing! I can't tell you how many people end up canceling after they realize I really mean what I say in my profile and only offer platonic cuddles. I used to just let it go and ignored or blocked them, but now I do not hesitate to report them. Those are not the kind of people we want on the site.
I can think of three reasons why people come here instead of going to escort sites: A. Bottom of the barrel sex work clients, who are too cheap/ broke to pay regular sex worker rates which are typically higher than the cost of cuddle services especially when comparing more high end escort sites. They are often pushy and don’t respect boundaries and seasoned sex workers probably won’t put up with them.
B. They enjoy coercion. It’s probably more fun to get someone who is not already offering sex work services and push them into doing something their not comfortable with for a predatory type of person than it is to hire an established sex worker.
C. Stigma & denial. I’ve also experienced clients that seemed to scoffed at the idea of hiring a sex worker and get really embarrassed when I suggested it, even though they clearly were looking for more than what I had to offer. They live in this weird denial bubble where they think if they hire someone who is not explicitly advertising themselves as a sex worker to do sex work type services it doesn’t really count.
If you want to PM me I’m happy to give you some tips on how to attract better clients.
I hope it was for humor purpose and not some attention seeking disorder.
@lilhugdealer despite all the bashing you're getting, I understand the frustration that's causing you to ask this and post as you did. Just had a conversation with my regular massage therapist recently that kind of echoes @xandriarain 's post. The massage therapist has customers sometimes solicit her for happy endings etc., and when she asks why they feel comfortable making such requests, some of the guys have said that it's very unlikely they'll be trapped in a police sting, charged with solicitation etc, because the therapist isn't a sex worker. It would be reasonable to surmise that the same thinking applies here.
@lilhugdealer I would highly suggest not stating you provide “massage” services in your profile for $130 an hour if you don’t want men propositioning you for more than platonic cuddles. If you’re a almost 40 year old woman in LA I have a feeling you know that offering a massage to people you’re lying next to usually implies a little more intimacy.
But no - you’re not the only one.
I had a client once tell me a similar estimate on how many pros were offering extras. But he also went on a tangent about how you can find those pros, like based on their pictures, and words they use in their profile, offering massages (which should not be happening unless they're a licensed massage therapise, and if they're licensed they shouldn't be offering it here). Basically he was saying he can pick and choose if he wants a platonic cuddle session or something else just by making some educated guesses on a profile. He also shared that clients find it exciting if a professional will make an exception and act unprofessionally. Which is creepy, but I think some clients find it more interesting for someone who is not explicitly a sex worker to be coerced into doing it.
I stopped seeing that client. And I also probably have way fewer clients than I could because I am intentional about communicating boundaries and take time to vet new clients.
I understand the impulse to feel like sex work is rampant on the site, because it is something we have to deal with regularly. But I will say, every single time I have reported a client who wants that, they have been banned which makes me feel safer. I wish there was more reporting of the pros who offer it, but the clients don't seem to have as big an issue with it. I have had multiple clients tell me they're fine with whatever is happening between consenting adults. 🤷♀️
I've come out just to ask a question, why do you assume sex workers are more expensive than this site? I mean I'm sure there are some but the vast majority charge about the same, and most often less. I've learned so much about sex work since joining cuddle comfort that i never wanted to know, i think that most of you are holding on to some ideas that just don't fit reality. Since joining I've learned of so many resources that provide these types of services and the one thing that i see is that CC looks better as a site than the others, also there is not the shadow of illegality involved. So keep that in mind as you cast judgement on those who participate in it. Just be honest with yourself about what you are participating in. But there is no need for me to raise these points again to be ignored, it will come up again any again. You guys be safe out there. I won't be and have not been involved in discussion any further, $.02.
@ReltvlyCanshes I had to research this for a book. If you're hiring a prostitute on a street corner, no, she likely won't be more expensive. But Xandriarain was specifically referring to high-end escort sites, which can easily run to five or even 10 times what a pro cuddler charges.
Lol love the way topic digresses over time. Can someone share these cheap and premium services sites please.
@alylauren Your client is correct. I am not here for more than platonic cuddling but I have friends who are, for many, many, years. In addition to the wording, pics, etc, their almost fool-proof method is finding profiles with dozens of karmas and when they see many raving karmas that include "can't wait to see you again", or similar, on the majority of them, YET there are few, if any, repeat bookings, that is their clue. The vast majority of these will book everything after that off-site, also. Granted, Las Vegas may be a different market but here there is a system that works most of the time. They say it holds true for LA and many other cities, too. Imho, it is highly unlikely a platonic cuddler who discovers a sex worker is going to report them. The reason is simple. My friends tell me that none of those here who offer more have any ads elsewhere on the net so it comes down to a conversation between 2 individuals that can't be verified. Also, those here are very selective, and careful, who they offer more to, as they wish to stay under the radar and only limit their activities to cuddling sites. With that said, I don't belong to any other cuddling sites but my friends do and they say that CC is the best at banning the obvious escorts which is why I am only here. Those that do offer more, but don't have other online ads, are here to stay, it seems, which is unfortunate for someone like me, but I have the luxury of getting confirmations of my concerns on a profile by simply asking one of my friends.
@xandriarain 💯💯
I think you've posted similar before....but that's exactly what I was coming here to say too 😜
And yes, cuddlers can find "cheaper" SWers....but cuddler pros are fun to try and coerce PLUS we are have clean spaces already set up for laying down activities.... And us and our spaces are clean. 🧼🧽🧺
Also since we are NOT SWers .... they like to consider themselves "special" to get seggs, and from what I've heard and experienced, often try to get it for no additional cost. 😒🙄
Yes, I report...and on the other cuddle sites I'm on, I report too.
“Everybody’s doing it.” He’s gaslighting you so you give him what he wants.
@TheFunCartel Exactly! 🤣
Dudebro: Aww come on, EVERYBODY'S DOING IT!
Me: I don't wanna "do it" with You, Dudebro. Have a nice day! 😊
Am I really the only strictly platonic cuddler left?
@lilhugdealer If you are basing your "questionable topic of discussion title" on horny toad Dudebro ramblings then okay sure. 🤷😏
Some interesting statements in this thread for sure, ex. "...too cheap/ broke to pay regular sex worker rates which are typically higher than the cost of cuddle services."
Cross-listing super obvious profiles in the area recently as a sample, this is likely reverse.
There are sw agencies here that charge $200 an hour for women in their 40s and more premium agencies that charge $350-500 an hour for women in their 20-30s. Im not saying i use these services but the blame does not always rest on the client.
Just like when you get a massage at some places the therapist tries to upsell extra services for a bigger tip/fee there are also cuddlers that charge their site fee then offer add ons for a fee.
In the past ive seen a cuddler who is now deleted offer a blowjob for an additional $100. I declined and she got mad.
Ive also seen decent cuddlers here leave because they were platonic and kept getting clients overstepping boundaries.
In my opinion the boundaries of both people need to be respected, some might be completely platonic and be uncomfortable with certain positions. Communication and respect is key.
Maybe 90% of the women on here have the wrong intentions, however 98% of the men that join in the US are looking for this. I’d say like maybe 2% of messages I get are from men who are strictly platonic like me . You also need to be cautious, I know a few women , who will have 3 or 4 sessions with a person and they end up getting raped by that individual. Sadly we always need to be on our guard.
@lalaonie85 Thats true, there used to be a sister duo here that both offered cuddling they used to go by Bekkah and Justina here. Both platonic, one very feminine and busty while the other was more tomboy. They both left the site when a client that has seen one sister multiple times and been respectful and recommended to the other one actually tried to rape her.
Always be on your guard thats true.
@lalaonie85 always 🎯💯
90% is absolutely nuts to me, very hard to believe
however 98% of the men that join in the US are looking for this
Now I've been upgraded to the top 2% ... 😁😎
there used to be a sister duo here that both offered cuddling they used to go by Bekkah and Justina here. Both platonic, one very feminine and busty while the other was more tomboy. They both left the site when a client that has seen one sister multiple times and been respectful and recommended to the other one actually tried to rape her.
@sausalito
Wow, that's awful! 😞
Always be on your guard thats true
Or have some guards on standby for You. 😊👍
who raised the subject in the place? doesnt seem right that topic would just come up
I'm often on Reddit, and I often see questions that start off with "Is it me, or am I the only one who..." And I sometimes sarcasticly reply, "Let me check...yes, you're the only one."
Why would you discuss what other providers offer with a client? How does the topic of sex work come up?
People need to report these people. If reporting isn't working or not effective,, another solution is needed.
Why does this site LOVE TO SHOOT THE MESSENGER? !! Any female who asks a question about either how often male clients demand sex OR how many female pros are willing to provide sex is immediately shot down as a trouble maker, liar, wildly exaggerating. I am sick of it!! She is asking a question. If you can’t bear the question and feel it is an attack, please stop torturing yourself—find another thread that doesn’t threaten your fantasy that CC is all unicorns and lollipops.
These subjects amuse me. If a guy knows that he can get something from her why is he looking else where? Cheap or extreme? Why blow someone else's cover? Don't buy his innocent cover. This site is a blessing since the covid in many ways.
@MarigoldBloom 💯 Thank you for saying that.
@MarigoldBloom
Why does this site LOVE TO SHOOT THE MESSENGER? !!
All I know is that in two of my favorite movies, Gladiator and 300, one messenger was beheaded and the other one was kicked down a well.
So, I dunno. There's that.
@TxTom your hidden message is funny. And pathetic. I’m serious about the way anybody, especially females, who dares to ask how much sex work do people expect on here are routinely belittled, insulted, dismissed. And using movies set long, long ago kinda proves my point. Perhaps we should move BEYOND that behavior? Can we? is of course, the real question. Around here, apparently not.
@TxTom - sorry —that was too cranky—you were just being funny.
@MarigoldBloom No apologies, please. This is a serious topic and my comment wasn't appropriate. So, I am sorry.
Actually, I did DM the OP earlier today expressing hope that things do improve for her.