I would never book with anybody without a few back and forth messages. I need to get a feel on how they approach the booking process as a whole, as I think a couple of messages can help decipher if that person is strictly doing it for the money or not. If I’m going to cuddle someone, I’d like to go in with a thought of us both enjoying our time, and not the other person just being present for the sake of money.
The site is confusing about how to go about sending a message though. You really don’t know what’s happening the first time you click that “request booking” button. Will it notify the other person about a potential cuddler? Is it going to show me their openings they have listed? I can see why a lot of people think they have to request a booking to send a message
For what it's worth, there's a lot of pros who flat out say in their profile to make the initial contact a booking request and discourage "getting to know you" messages.
The website also encourages this with it's advertising
Good topic.
I see several comments I agree with. I don't know unless it's specifically stated in the pros profile if they prefer communication prior to requesting a booking or not. If they do specify , how much communication is enough until you can request a session ? If it's too much maybe she thinks you just want her time as a penpal. Which I have seen on several profiles.
I sometimes send a message to advise I'd like to meet for a session and anticipate or hope the pro will take it from that point.
Such as replying ; very well but id really like to get to know you better . Then she can ask a couple questions..I have no problem, happy to converse a bit online and I understand her perspective.
I guess I can also take the initiative to ask a question or two prior while asking to request a session.
Again good topic for discussion.
Probably just people who are unfamiliar with the cuddling community and think it's just like any other service, put in appointment request and see if it's approved.
I wouldn't put too much thought into it, or get upset over it. If you feel like doing so you can educate the potential client.
Way too many scammers on this site to just book and go. I need that conversation first.
Really happy to see Pro's leaning away from "ermagerd timewasters" and into proper vetting and caring about getting to know their prospective clients better. 👏🏻
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When people do this I normally follow up with a hey how are you? Not sure if that was for me message? That way I can get them chatting and feel it out. Sometimes when people have done that and I’ve accepted it was people looking for extra things others have been new cuddlers that are exploring the site. At least it opens a conversation before I accept that booking, to figure out if it’s a booking I’m even interested in.
I wonder if sometimes it’s because the requester is very nervous and doesn’t really know what to say so it comes out awkwardly?
I'm still kinda new, but when I do contact a pro I tend to send a formal message introducing myself briefly and inquiring when they're free before I request to book them for cuddling. I don't mind talking to them for a while to get to know them better. I won't knock a good conversation. I think half the time my booking them was a result of conversing with them for some time.
I've found that by selecting someone as a "favorite" it allows me to send a message without making a booking request. From there, I send an introductory message. Honestly, their response tells me a lot if I think we would be a good match. This has worked well for me.
Montague mentioned it but when it comes to Pros, the first and most forward option on the site is the button to book. The option to message doesn’t show until you click book.
Now, I’m not one to feel comfortable booking without getting a better sense of whether or not we even click. I don’t want to spend an hr minimum with someone I have absolutely no chemistry with.
That said, once you click the booking button to book, only then is there the option to message. So, I can see how the site having booking as the leading option that’s presented can throw people off.
Kind of a separate thing but I think I do feel a bit of pressure to book shortly after sending a message, so as to not feel like I’m wasting a Pro’s time. What alleviates that is when a Pro actually has substantive information in their profile and when their replies aren’t short.
Most of the time when they do that its for a one hour session, a last minute session, or a late night session even though I have a two hour minimum, don’t take same day bookings and set business hours all of which are stated at the top of my profile. Most serious client will send an introductory message.
I’ve gotten a handful of these booking requests, and they’ve all been for 10 or 11pm the same day, usually sent around just a couple hours before the requested times. I just decline.
I always send a message before making a booking. If they indicate that they don't want much chit chat, then I'll get to the point and ask when they're available, payment methods, etc and see if it aligns and we can schedule something. But otherwise I don't mind having a conversation for a bit first and even prefer it. I wonder if the pros who never replied to a message just expected me to send a booking request with zero conversation. That to me is strange to do, as I don't know if the proposed booking would be at a convenient date or time.
@CSnMUS87 That’s really the best way to do it in my opinion …. Everyone has schedules moving around… so coordinating timing first is the bare minimum.
@tranquilheart short. @xandriarain Yeah those same-day late night ones pop up …. I decline but I’m always just curious… this post points out a lot .., I didn’t think of
@MJinPA63 Wow that’s actually a really good idea. Did you just randomly stumble on that? I didn’t even realize the favorite feature worked like that… thanks, that honestly gives me more to think about.
@AveryK84 That actually makes a lot of sense the way you explained it. The site flow is a little tricky and everyone kind of has their own idea of what “normal” is when they’re using it. Thanks for sharing that perspective… it helped me see that side a little clearer. Beyond just booking with not prior convo
I’m utterly confused by this thread. I’ve always been able to message pros without booking a session. Is it different for new users?
@Morpheus i don’t think so. I think some people just don’t understand that you when you click the request booking button, you can just type a message and scroll down to click the send button without actually sending a booking request. That’s my guess anyways
@Morpheus I’m not sure if it looks different for certain users or not, I was a little confused by it also. But I think it’s what @kydavid said about the message box being inside the booking request page and people not realizing you can just type a message and hit send without actually sending a booking request.
But I ask wonder if it looks different for different users
@shecuddless things on any website can look different because of different browers, phone/tablet/laptop, etc. In the particular case of this site, photos get cut off in different places depending on the device. And if I remember correctly certain photo formats don't upload or display correctly if you have the wrong browser, or something.
There's also a thing where if a page goes below the screen at just the right spot, it can look like it's the bottom of the page (so you don't attempt to scroll down) but it isn't. And of course that depends on what font size or magnification you have set ...... who'd be a webpage designer, eh? (I'm not.)
As an enthusiast, it comes off as being EXTREMELY desperate and is a MASSIVE red flag to me. It makes me question their intentions and scares me into thinking they’ll become dependent on me. Sometimes I think I’m too careful with this site, but then other times, I’m glad I follow my instincts. I don’t need a lot of back and forth first. This is something that’s supposed to be platonic and casual so approaching it as more than that sets off bells a whistles in my head.
If you're making cuddling a transaction, it turns into a business proposition, which then doesn't really require flowery prose or trying to be friends. They want to book a business meeting and you can talk from there beforehand while working out logistics. It isn't a big deal.
I won't pay for intimacy, and had a regular person i contacted freak out on me and block me for starting off with "Heya", so some people don't even appreciate hello's either.
If someone immediately sends a booking request with no conversation, I generally assume they are new or just didn’t read My profile requesting a photo, some suggested times, and a name. I generally decline and strike up a conversation and go through my vetting process.
The “transactional” conversation seems to come up again and again with regards to professional cuddling as an industry. I’ve always thought it’s pretty fair to compensate someone for their time, especially if they are trained and experienced at the skill I am seeking. I have stopped trying to convince people who bring up this objection to me in conversation. Perhaps we are just not a match then.
Saying something is a business transaction is not the same as saying you should not compensate someone.
Hiii @fluffy_gamer I hear what you’re saying about it feeling more like a straightforward service interaction once money is involved. That part makes sense.
At the same time I’d probably differ a little on the “trying to be friends” part. For me it’s not about needing a friendship beyond the session… it’s just that the moments we actually spend together still matter. I want that time to feel comfortable and genuine, not just like two people showing up for a transaction.
Even if it’s a service, the quality of the interaction is still kind of the whole point.
But you did reference something someone mentioned earlier about how people approach pros vs enthusiasts. I’m curious about that part… do you feel like the approach changes depending on which one it is?
Like is the value placed on developing what I’ll call a little “cuddleship” different when it’s a pro versus an enthusiast?
@CuddleDuncan Ohhh gotcha… so you’re saying sometimes people just might not realize they can scroll further down to send a message instead of actually submitting the booking request? Depending on on the settings That would definitely explain some of the confusion. Thanks ☺️
Enthusiasts cuddling Enthusiasts here.
If the msg is just Hey, and straight to booking mode/availability. I don't answer anymore.
I used to tell them to search for pros. And to use the forums for how to create a 1st msg/impression.
But people are grown and I don't have to answer any invite to conversations that only benefits them.
If I were a pro I would expect at least a couple of messages back and forth before considering booking.
My first time I asked about availiability and stuff before anything else. It worked out but thinking about it I sort of regret jumping in. Live and learn