Seems this site is the best one. The others either charge or don't have ANYONE in Albuquerque.
@DavesNotHere420 It looks like you're new on the site. If it's been a few days since you wrote to a pro cuddler (paid) and they've been online since then...you might be right. Ok, I'm joking!
Based on your profile, I'm assuming you're male. Men outnumber the women by a lot. Women tend to get tons of messages and have to filter through a lot of inappropriate requests. A lot of men don't pay attention to the women's information posted in their profile.
In my (very short) experience, the pros will usually write back pretty quickly. The non-pro cuddlers have lives and, like I wrote, still have to deal with a lot of crappy messaging. Give it time.
If you haven't read the FAQs, please consider doing so. I had the great fortune of messaging back and forth with a few people before my first session. Then, my first session was with a very patient and compassionate person who took time to answer questions and ensure we were on the same page.
Again, my experience has been that sending out very kind, inquisitive messages has been hit or miss. I've gotten quick responses and no responses. After a few weeks, I've sent follow up messages to a few of the no responses and then gotten some back!
Be patient, be kind, send low-pressure messages and I'd be surprised if you didn't start getting messages back. If you can afford a session with a pro with lots of karma please do so. They know what they're doing and have a good reputation. Once you have karma and/or friends others will write to you with fewer reservations.
I'm going to echo @ScottMelts - you've been here less an a month, and patience goes a long way. It takes time to build up trust and rapport for something as intimate as cuddling.
I highly recommend everyone (especially new users) read through the site TOS, the FAQ, the Help Center articles, the contracts for pros & clients, and all the stickied threads in the General and Pro Cuddling forums.
Preparing yourself by reading those will help answer questions and see potential areas to improve for better success.
Best of luck in your search!
I do apologize for seeming a little desperate. I was recently diagnosed with a depression related heart condition called TTS, or "broken heart syndrome". Therapist said I was "touch starved" due to lack of contact for twenty years or more. And I really cant afford the "professional" cuddlers. So, yeah, my doctors have me feeling a little desperate. I understand what I have been told; it's only been a week or two, there are more men than women in these cuddle groups, the women have lot of messages to sort through. And no matter how hard I try, I can't seem to take a decent selfie that I would want on my profile, and I know that would help. Any more advice would be appreciated. I have a large home and would be open to hosting cuddle parties, but would want to get used to one-on-one encounters, first. Thanks for the input.
I wouldn't recommend hosting a cuddle party unless you're already experienced in platonic cuddling and have some training in facilitating consent and touch. It can be a HUGE liability to take on. I actually carry liability insurance for one of my other careers, and have debated trying to extend the coverage to cover my ass for cuddling events. Inexperienced cuddle hosts are a recipe for all kinds of problems.
I absolutely love hosting events, but as a host I get almost no cuddling in myself because I'm on duty making sure everyone is safe and enjoying themselves. It's a lovely sentiment to want to open your home to people, but it sounds like maybe now would not be the best time for you 🫂
Please take good care of yourself.
@cuddlefaery solid advice for new visitors to the site.
@DavesNotHere420 Have you tried cuddle party.com?
I haven't used it, herd it on a podcast though.
@DavesNotHere420 I am sorry to read that you are going through this. I personally understand how difficult, frustrating, and isolating depression can feel. I have been battling it for 30 years. Thankfully though, through a lot of searching and trial and error, I have kept it stabalized and am able to manage it.
Do you ever get to the Phoenix area? I am a pro and would be more than willing and happy to host a session for you at a major discount, something affordable for you. I am 100% sincere about this.
Feel free to message me any time if you need an ear. I am a good sounding board and can sometimes offer some useful advice (I have done a lot of research on mental health). If not, no worries or pressure! I wish you the very best. 💕
@Velvet_Heart Thanks. I wish I could afford to travel; if i could, then I could afford the LOCAL professionals. I appreciate your generosity. My doctor has me very worried about this, and I guess I might be panicking a little, treating it like a medical emergency. I don't want to sound desperate because I know that is NOT helpful, but desperate is how I feel. I am glad there is some empathy and compassion left in Phoenix, because I can't find any here.
@DavesNotHere420 I enjoyed reading your bio. It comes across as very sincere. I’d like to share some coping advice, but my direct style can sound harsher in writing than it does in person, where my sincerity is easier to see. I also don’t want to risk it with your TTS condition, so the only thing I feel comfortable offering is lots of love and healing energy. 💛💛💛 Allow me to give you a big warm virtual hug and hold space for you for as long as you need. 🫂💖
@BellaAine Thanks. And I would appreciate your candor, as I know there is no ill intent behind your words.
@DavesNotHere420
Try not to worry too much about sounding desperate. It's completely okay to be vulnerable and in great need of caring, empathy, and understanding from others. We have all been there. It's only natural that you feel this way given a new medical diagnosis.
I am sad to hear that you aren't finding the support you are needing in your area. It sucks and should never be that difficult to find some basic tenderness and attention. Maybe I am pessimist and jaded, but it seems that more than ever people are so self-absorbed that they dont dare to consider someone other than themselves.
I, too, am sending you a big, loving virtual squeeze and positive vibes. I would love to hear from you again and know how much better you are doing down the road!
✌️ 😗🥰💗🫶
@DavesNotHere420 hey, medical diagnoses can often be scarry and confusing. And if you're already dealing with a lot, health anxiety on top can make everything feel so much worse.
Mental health IS physical health - it has real physical symptoms and should be taken just as seriously as issues that have obvious physical triggers.
That said - since you'd mentioned feeling a bit panicked about the diagnosis, I would recommend reaching back out to your doctor for support. Tell them how you're feeling, what your concerns are. Doctor's jobs don't end when they deliver a diagnosis.
And it'd likely be well worth it to also speak with a mental health professional. If your insurance won't cover it enough, there are usually local services that can help. I've had my fair share of health anxiety due to chronic health conditions, and sometimes the mental fall out is beyond the scope of a GP or cardiologist. They may mean well suggesting you see assistance with other specialists, but I know it can feel dismissive and unhelpful as well.