@blackbear3 it might help if you also had your profile filled out. I am probably less likely to reply if the profile is empty. In my experience when I have, those folks don't usually pan out. I'm sorry you're feeling disheartened by the experience so far. But it does take time to find a good connection.
yes fair enough. I did actually have a more filled out profile before, but decided it was cringe and also pointless lol. platonic connection is actually harder to come by than romantic connections it seems!
from privacy perspective don't like having a photo with the current format, since it's open to everyone to see. also I'm not really disheartened, I just dont have much expectations from it.
At first I was on here to meet with Pros as a way of trying a kind of social interaction that felt low-risk to fight against depression and isolation after my marriage ended. That was really successful, and I met some amazing folks, but now some circumstances in my life are different so I’m more or less on pause from cuddling, and mostly come here for the song title thread 😂
@blackbear3 I hear you, but those romantic connections are often riddled with their own issues and drama.
You don't have to include a photo, it's not required, you can also just use any image that you like, And you don't have to put all your personal info on there, just why you're here and what you're looking for. give us something to go with that shows you're invested, because I get a lot of timewasters on here too. then they check out and ghost.
appreciate the advice, maybe I'll give it another go on here with the enthusiasts. I guess I'm just highlighting that I don't think it's really a great experience for male enthusiasts, for fairly obvious reasons. appreciate being a female enthusiast isnt a walk in the park too (sorry for men)
appreciate your apology for all 🤣 I think we all have a challenging go of it on here for different reasons sometimes. enthusiasts/clients/pros But I've found some great people on here, i had to weed through a lot of tall grass to find them but now I have. 😁
I came here after realizing there's a real need for non-sexual intimacy in many lonely people. I honestly just came here with the unconditional motive to help people - to be there for them However, after joining, I realized there's also dating potential here. I wouldn't mix cuddling with dating but I'm single so if the opportunity to date someone compatible arose, I wouldn't turn it down. @thereforyou26 Using or attempting to use Cuddle Comfort for dating purposes is not permitted and usually leads to an immediate ban. This is your only Warning. @CuddleDuncan
@thereforyou26 If you read the terms of service you’d notice that romantic entanglements are in fact against the rules. And stating publicly that you’re open to it is also.
You might want to take a long look at why you’re really here. Especially given your other recent comment.
@thereforyou26 I highly recommend everyone (especially new users) read through the site TOS, the FAQ, the Help Center articles, the contracts for pros & clients, and all the stickied threads in the General and Pro Cuddling forums.
Might help if you do the bare minimum to follow the rules.
@thereforyou26 Well damn, didn't take long for the admins here to swoop down on your comment like a hawk at a rat feeding frenzy. 😂I get the context on what you meant on your comment, but it's for the best to err on the side of discretion. Some things like that 2nd part of your comment would've been better left unsaid.
@Kara90 I browse around local and since you don't live nearby my parameters, it's highly unlikely we'll meet so you won't have to worry about me being one of the many men flooding your DMs with lame brained ice breakers. 😅Although I will simply state my purpose on here as per the title thread asks.
I just simply want some company, even if temporary. I live in NYC and one would be surprised how easy it is to feel alone in a metropolis of 8 1/2 million people. There is so much to do and experience in the city, but doing so alone feels empty. It's not like I can approach some rando to keep me company, that will be a very short conversation led with a quick dismissal and I can't blame any of them. There's a lot of unsavory people in NYC.
I digress, it would be cool even for a short and rare time to spend some time on an activity browsing around the city or even just chilling in one spot just to be familiar with one another. This site has been pretty satisfactory in getting those needs met. I've come to approach many things in a transactional/business mindset anyway and many of the pros seem friendly and charge fairly. I do admit that cuddling may seem secondary to what I'm looking for, but it doesn't mean it won't happen. It just feels good being in the company of one who shares similar interests or even someone who brings an entirely new viewpoint to your life, it's bliss on an ethereal level.
I have neurodivergence and ptsd
Im on here and found my perfect regular cuddler, its a wonderful break from an extremely busy life full of lots of stress and time limits. I only have 3 hours on a Thursday afternoon to do what I want and meeting up is a wonderful break. I've met some interesting people and experiences when looking for one cuddler to stick with ill tell you that haha 😄
I like the gifs 🤗🎉
Reason #2 - I need the distraction, I feel that I know many of the people here though most I haven’t met in person. It’s comforting (most of the time).
To share casserole and stew recipes
@pmvines I have a few I should share with you!
Well I see we have gone slightly off topic but I wonder if you would like to share a recipe for 'poor mans meal' sometimes the finer things in life are something simple. The people either love me or they hate me. Doesn't seem to be too much in between. I have neurodivergence and ptsd. A lot don't understand me very well but I'm in DTA and learning new skills
@trysdet How could anybody hate you?! I don't believe it...IMPOSSIBLE! 🤔😗😲💖
I can understand your frustration and as one who is an enthusiast for the right reason, I would love to cuddle with you. However, your profile says that your cutoff is 50 years old and I am 51. Also, you prefer somebody who is not overweight which is understandable. Everybody has their own preferences, and that's cool. I will say thank you for putting that information on your profile so I can read it and choose whether or not to respond instead of having an awkward conversation about it later after getting to know each other.
As for me, I have trouble finding genuine cuddlers who live close enough for me to visit. I don't make enough money to pay for a professional anytime I need a hug, but that seems to be the main choice for my area. I use the "Hide pros" filter in a search and most enthusiasts near me have been months since logging into the site. Sigh.
I'm going to be real honest here. I'm here to try to make a few dollars on my days off as my job has been cut down to 3 days. No more flagging needed. He's been reported several times and warned. - BlueIris
So, if I could meet a few individuals that need some cuddle time and help fill in my free time, I would be happy to comfort the right ones. Cuddling is beautiful and I think it's therapeutic on so many levels. So, yeah... it's multi-layered, but I have my reasons to be on here.
@Sensitivity101 so you charge for cuddle sessions? You aren't a pro though. You need to apply for that or you'll be banned.
@mauvefox This scenario feels like my first interaction here where I was asked repeatedly by a potential cuddle buddy if I found him attractive could I be interested in something romantic with him and his partners in their current open relationship. He told me he found me very attractive and that he prefers to ONLY cuddles attractive women which i found odd to care if someone was attractive or not when the purpose of this is 100% non sexual. I thought nothing of it at the time but the messages to come included him telling me I was making him feel "comfortable enough to be open" about things and "with your permission of course" he would add to make his comments more suggestive and to seem harmless I feel, he even went as far as saying he gives erotic massages to some of his clients but "only if u are interested, no pressure" but it truly felt like pressure... he made a 2 day long joke about me doing his laundry in exchange for him to just sit "listening to you talking, or i could massage your shoulders" before revealing a weird admission about his dangerous past life identity... "I'm good at making people open up to me and trust me" saying in another life he used these tactics on purpose... looking back on it now I feel a little used because I was being vulnerable to him about deep emotions and he kept finding ways to keep harping on me possibly joining him eventually. (Hope this wasn't too long of a share, my apologies i shortened it quite a bit)
@Kokopantz Ick! I’m so sorry that happened to you. Unfortunately the creepers can be really subtle in their tactics. And it can make you feel so vulnerable. If you ever need to bounce something concerning off someone feel free to reach out. 🤗
@Sensitivity101 Spicy already said it but yes you have to apply to be a pro and pay the site to do it. There’s also not a tremendously large market for male professional cuddlers. But there are some forums about this in the past if you search for them.
Sorry you have a negative experience. I’ve had an underwhelming experience as well. I just want comforting cuddles, as the site name suggests.
I’ve been on here for six years, was very active for most of that. Two cuddles is all I’ve gotten. Hundreds of messages sent, rarely returned with any good faith conversation.
I open my inbox at any given time and it’s full of banned, paused or deleted accounts. The latest issue is enthusiasts trying to make money under the table and/or lure me off this site.
Very rarely does anyone have an actual conversation about cuddling with me. It’s usually pros initiating contact without my consent. Advertising. I get it, they want to make money, but cuddling has shifted from a comforting act to a money making scheme.
I think it’s safe to say a majority of messages I get go against site policies. Sure, many of the members get banned, but it’s a disturbing trend. It wasn’t this bad when I first joined, but over the past few years, it’s really gone downhill. (My experience)
Hehe. I can confirm, some pros can be quite overzealous in their unprompted soliciting. I don't report them because it would feel a bit mean-spirited (and some of them seem nice anyway).
I've also noticed that my inbox and outbox are basically a directory of banned, paused and deleted users. It's unexpected to see so many women seemingly behaving inappropriately (and unexpected to see them held to account for it, if we're being honest).
The other amusing phenomenon is the people who seemingly sign up as enthusiasts and fill out an enthusiast-appropriate profile, but then immediately pivot to "pending pro approval" with a new pro-sounding profile. I hypothesise these people sign up just to cuddle, but then learn that some people charge for it and then capitalism takes over. (The mods seem to do a good job of detecting and rejecting these applications, too.)
@Emmerich I'm honestly surprised to see anyone claim it's a surprise when women are held accountable. That's definitely not my experience or any women I've known...
We're SO often held accountable in this society even when we're victims.