What ever happened to free, amicable cuddle sessions? There’s 22 active cuddlers in my city and 21 of them are paid “pro” cuddlers.
Free? In this economy? 😜
Yet within a week you paid for two cuddles Just saying. . .
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Asking an honest, non-offensive question = Triggered responses! 😅 Got it ✅
Time to flex. My cuddle buddy hosts, sends pics of her garden/flowers, lets me play with her cats, AND gives me baked goods.
@durantpiano
@JustAGuy215 that's awesome! ☺️☺️ The world should be more connected♥️
@durantpiano one of the risks of posting in an open discussion is that you may not like the replies you get. 🤷
@SpicyNSweet with 1 million followers I totally OVERstand that all too well… thought it would be a different vibe here. But I get it. ☀️
@amber_stone let’s be nice… 😅
Nothing in life is free. I'm beginning to suspect that the problem isn't a lack of female enthusiast cuddlers, but a lack of male cuddlers willing to put in the work to make the connection a female cuddler needs before agreeing to cuddle.
Full disclosure: I only cuddle pros.
Also a lot of males believe it's wrong to cuddle another man.
Good point, @IronicMaiden I've seen that stated here as a hard line for many guys.
This economy makes a difference. Everyone is looking for a side hustle, especially for women. From what I’ve read and heard first hand. There is a pay difference in wages.
What I’ve noticed. There is a lot of work involved for caregiving. Some pros offer a very relaxing experience. They put a lot of effort into like a job. I’ve have had sessions that have been very therapeutic. Especially after the loss of my brother and then father. Cuddling was extremely helpful. I don’t like the term cuddle therapy, yet it was for me.
@Bob37Cratchit Yes! your comment explains a lot of the issue I experience on the site. As an enthusiast, most of the men who message me want the "instant" kind of cuddles that come with pros. it's not instant with pros either as there is still vetting but its faster than trying to cuddle with me as I require more of a connection to cuddle than they are willing to put in.
@Bear another excellent point, a good pro puts in a lot of effort to create an experience for someone and to cater to their needs. while I am not there to provide a 'service' but to engage in a reciprocal mutually beneficial hangout with a cuddle buddy.
@Bob37Cratchit I’ve wondered about the putting in effort part myself. I will reach out and talk to enthusiasts and also tell them some things about vetting when I meet new ones and I’m asked about vetting. Yet I don’t seem to get asked to cuddled.
@Bear Maybe the fact that on your profile you have "in a relationship" might have something to do with it.
@SpicyNSweet I’m ngl “in this economy” fried me 😂
@Caz_ 🤌😂
@BlueIris i didn’t think of that. Yet even before that there was a good 10 years I had issues connecting.
@durantpiano posted: "What ever happened to free, amicable cuddle sessions?"
Nothing, they're the only kind I have. 😋
@Bear You clearly state that you are cuddling with consent from your partners. I would definitely cuddle with you, as an enthusiast.
~ Sunset Snuggles
What ever happened to free, amicable cuddle sessions?
This is news to me, I didn't know of anything ever "happening" to them. Lol 😆
I switched to pro quickly because -cut down the huge, overwhelming influx into my inbox. As an enthusiast, a lot of men thought "fresh meat, " sadly. Ended up being on mute 90% or better. -I am a PMHNP and decided to specialize in trauma. Why should I not get paid? Also having to continually be on boundary alert is work. If men (cannot say women as have not had to boundary block any women). * I cannot cuddle with any clients, I see as a PMHNP.*
Now I do have a couple cuddle buds, I met as an enthusiast and continue those relationships. But those are for both of us and help me recharge. As a pro, the client is the focus. They are paying for it to be about them.
If people used this site appropriately, and safety/vetting wasn't so time consuming, I would of loved to remain an enthusiast. I believe we all need more touch.
The end of free cuddles ? 😳. Oh no !
@SunsetSnuggles Thank you. It always seems like the good people are the farthest away. I meet some really cool people online.
For some reason, I keep having problems coming back to this post. It’s like my phone doesn’t want me to reply, lol.
There is a filter you can use to hide pros if you want to look up enthusiasts in your area. My guess is that the pros are the ones who are constantly logging in so they show up first when you search for cuddlers.
Free cuddle buddies on dating apps if you spend hours and hours swiping, matching, and having small talk until someone decides to meet with you. Pro cuddlers are much more convenient than all that. Convenience is the number one commodity! Also pro cuddlers won’t cry and call you at work the next week if you ghost us haha it’s a very easy transactional service to get the cuddly touch you crave without all the games of the dating world and pressure of consistency.
Also, all of the admin work is pros do. Messaging, intro calls, vetting, scheduling, driving. And after some of the situations paying clients have put me in - I would never consider doing this for free. It’s a lot of work to balance an energy of being comforting, open, nurturing, understanding - while also preforming boundaries, establishing limits, and protecting oneself.
My cuddles will always be free. I've never paid a person for cuddles before. That feels wrong to me for some reason. I've paid for tickets to a group cuddle. That helps support the group and is usually a very small reasonable fee. Yet every day it seems harder and harder to find anyone who thinks the same as I do. For every hug I give, I gain equal value. For every cuddle, I am equally touched and held. Giving money removes the equivalent exchange.
@Atuday Pro and enthusiast are definitely two different types of relationships. If I could simply give free cuddles away, I would. But it's not practical. And unfortunately as an enthusiast, I had to be on mute because of the amount of people who aren't here for just cuddles. That makes me sad. Also after much time discussing with other pros, it seems having lower rates than the area standard increases the amount of unplatonic inquiries as well.