Why is it that you tell a man that you don't do sex or making out.. he doesn't want to cuddle.. are you ladies have sex with these men?
Report those guys. They're at the wrong place and they get banned pretty swiftly. Many guys are truly here just to cuddle.
Heck naw we not putting out. They will gaslight you to think everyone is doing it. Report them to keep us all safe!
@CuddlingRed1970 Report them. You can do it right from the message page.
They will try to gaslight you just stand firm with your boundaries and tell them you only work under the rules of CC.
Although, I'll say it's still a surprise to me when I go to my inbox and see someone who was chatting with me and following all the rules are suddenly banned🤦🏼 but it happens pretty frequently. I'm just happy I didn't meet them.
I wish you luck!
Yes. Please stay safe and reinforce the boundaries and get these boundary crossers off the site.
@CuddlingRed1970 Just a suggestion so please take this with a grain of salt, but I had a look at your bio and this line stuck out to me as something that may be giving clients the wrong impression: “ P.S. I'm a curvy woman...I do offer an overnight session.”
While I totally understand that you don’t mean it suggestively, creepy men will absolutely see that as an opening to see what they can get away with. Not your fault at all, but it may be helpful to restructure your bio so that mentioning you’re curvy and offering overnights don’t seem related.
But yes, like everyone else said: REPORT!!!
@CuddlingRed1970 I am very sorry that such bad behavior (that would get any of us banned), has been part of your experience here. And sadly, that the women I have had direct interaction with here have all told stories of having had to report people for similar, or worse, infractions (you are not alone). You'd be doing us all a favor by reporting him. But if you're unsure, after reading the posts here, what the next best steps are for you, I invite you, sincerely, to send me a message (I have visited your profile, so you're welcome to do so), and we can walk thru your choices (and even solicit more feedback from additional members, who might not have had the time to read your post). If you think it would be helpful. While I will support you, whatever you choose to do, isn't it important for all of us, of every preference and gender, to support the CSA (here) and be explicitly clear in what we post and share, that we are here to have platonic experiences, and that any manipulation, overt or otherwise, to promote romantic or sexual motives will not be tolerated, by any of us? Because, at the end of the day, if we're not all safe, doesn't that negatively impact every one of us? Thank you for having the courage to be willing to share so honestly. 🙏
Thank you all for your help. I have went in a redid my profile. I hope it's better.
@CuddlingRed1970 I would like to believe the majority of the Pros are not including sex with cuddling services, BUT I have been chatting with a few Pros who have been banned which makes me suspect they weren't following the TOS and probably offering "extras". A Pro has never disclosed that she has, I am just coming to my own conclusions. I agree with others, that some clients want to push boundaries and make you believe that other Pros are breaking the rules which may not be turn. The best way to proactively keep this space safe for all is report them. I hope you meet better clients.
are you ladies have sex with these men
Oh God no, have you ever had sex with a human man before?
🤣🤣🤣🤣
That's one reason that I am holding out for Werewolf now! 🐺❤️
Lol 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣
Ahem...🧐
In all seriousness, definitely report the creepers who are requesting sexual favors from you, OP. 😁👍
@TattooSqueeze from what I've experienced the most common violations that result in a pro being suspended or banned are soliciting potential customers without them reaching out first and giving out their numbers without a booking in place and/or creating a booking but "cancelling" it just to avoid paying site fee.
Nah, Report them. I've had a guy once get mad at me because the whole time he was thinking he was going to get some and got upset when I stated no. Report them and keep the proof.
@wilderdude Are you a moderator? Are you getting this intel directly from the Pros? Are you reporting them for these reasons? I wasn't aware we're privy to the reason unless we're the one who reported the profile.
@TattooSqueeze Wilderdude has been banned, so he may actually know of a reason why you get banned now.
@TheFunCartel LMFAO
Well... that at was long overdue 🙃
im new on here
@TheFunCartel that's one way to learn! Sometimes, I prefer to learn from others mistakes but to each their own.
@TattooSqueeze I completely agree, and yet others seem to be quite unable or unwilling to do so. 🤷♀️
OK So how does this work
@bobby1011 this can get you started☺️
https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/forum/discussion/4232/frequently-asked-questions/p1
thanks
These are insecure men. Friendly cuddles are greatly needed for many reasons. Getting upset at a friendly woman that is offering to share cuddles sounds like a miserable person. I prefer friendly, happy, enjoyable cuddles. 🤗
I once booked a client but ended up canceling and reporting him because he kept asking for extra add ons when I told him I dont do that. And then he said he would pay extra for xyz again and wanted to avoid the ID verification process that I mentioned explicitly in my profile and on the platform before agreeing to a proposal.
He had one previous cuddling session before the one he would have with me, and I said to him, "if your previous pro cuddle did add ons, that's her personal business, but i dont do it." And then he went with, "well you know thats what gets the clients to return for more." Which at that point I just informed him I was no longer doing this session with him and then reported him to the mods.
It concerns me though because these "cuddlers" probably pushed her boundaries far enough to entice her with extra money, which is so predatory.
@AuthenticLucy The scuttlebutt also says that people will lie and say other Pro's did sexual things, as a peer pressure tactic. I'm sure all are true in various cases...sometimes it's downright offered, sometimes pressured into, sometimes lied about and didn't happen.
Maintaining our own boundaries is incredibly important, and should not rely on what anyone else may or may not be doing. Be careful out there, peeps! 🧸
~ Sunset Snuggles
Tell them to find a SW and stay off this site. Some guys get a kick out of breaking the rules for some reason.
@SunsetSnuggles Yes! This so much!
I actually had a similar experience with another cuddler who wanted to book a virtual session. I wish I had checked the pro threads beforehand because I later came across another pro describing an almost identical experience with what appeared to be the same guy, just under a different account.
During our session, he told me, "In previous sessions, we just go with the flow. I do most of the talking, and you just reenact the touch as if I were there."
That definitely set off some alarm bells, but since it was my first virtual session, I proceeded with caution. He kept pushing boundaries, so I eventually ended the session. I was also still fairly new to CC at the time, although I had previous cuddling experience from another site. This was actually my first virtual booking through CC, and I completely forgot to collect payment upfront, which was another lesson learned.
I distinctly remember him repeatedly referring to what his previous cuddlers supposedly allowed him to do, too. So I absolutely agree that using other pros as examples can be a manipulative tactic to pressure someone into questioning or compromising their own boundaries.
I think the Karma system can be useful, but I also wish there were a separate review section visible only to verified pros, where we could share our experiences with clients without worrying about retaliation.
Because even Karma can be misleading. Someone might have positive reviews but still have a history of pushing boundaries that other pros were uncomfortable publicly addressing.
I've considered reaching out to previous cuddlers directly to ask about their experiences, but even that has limitations. Some might not feel comfortable being completely transparent, especially if they previously agreed to something that could put their own account at risk.
So it's kind of a double edged sword. I just wish there were a safer, more confidential way for pros to communicate with each other about concerning client behavior without fear of retaliation. Especially when the same person might be approaching multiple cuddlers with similar tactics.
Ultimately, we each have to maintain our own boundaries regardless of what someone claims another cuddler has allowed, but having a better way to share safety concerns could help prevent others from going through the same experiences.
@Mike403 I think it's because they know they can come back and make a new account and hopefully target someone more naive or less experience to the concept of cuddling.
So unless there is an IP address ban (although they can just use an VPN), as long as CC doesnt require having identifiable information for registered accounts for their admin crm side of things, there is really no real consequences for these guys to take advantage of a really good concept for people who do use it ethically.
@AuthenticLucy - Yes but the issue is there are plenty of other places to go for that type of thing so why come to a site specifically for platonic cuddling?
@Mike403 Because it’s more fun for the creeps if they get to coerce someone into doing something they wouldn’t do for just anyone. I think in their sick little minds they think it makes them special. I was propositioned for more money by a client and he went on and on about how he’d never pay for sex, like he didn’t just try to stick his hands down the pants of someone he had just paid for a service. They’re delusional and I think they genuinely enjoy making women feel uncomfortable and trying to coerce them. That was very early on and I spent the session fending him off. Now, I’d just break his fingers and call it a day
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