I'm not a fan of unsolicited booking requests. I just had a cuddler in Vegas, whose PO profile I viewed send me an introduction. I responded by saying I'm not heading to Vegas anytime soon but maybe next time I'm going we can talk about maybe cuddling. She sent me a booking request for a virtual "verification screening" for which she charges a $20 fee and said that way if we ever cuddle the verification is already completed. I found it very distasteful and honestly grifty to charge a client to verify their identity. I'm cool with verifying who I am and what I look like but not cool with paying to do so. Really annoyed me tbh.
This is a non-issue to me. If someone is expressing they want to talk or meet with me, cool. I'll consider whether I'm interested or not and let them know. It's not like a contract was signed just because they reach out first. In fact I'd rather not have to do the initial communication half the time, and avoid the rampant ghosting and non-responding altogether. Aside from a few who disappeared after one of these instances, ... oh well.. I've had literally no problems with this.
@weluvcuddles I agree with your take here. Normally I love when pros interact with me. I turn around and chat with them without committing to anything. Some like it, others dislike me for wasting their time.
But if they ever send me a booking request without me saying I want a session, virtual or otherwise (unless it was a free session for verification), I consider that crossing the line.
I second @ProfHermes on this as well but in the sense of receiving a booking proposal from a client who hasnt even said hello to me or clearly hasnt read my profile or anything....more annoying when they haven't even read the client service agreement lol.
The annoyance comes in layers. I dont think I would ever cold message a member. I also didnt know about the muting option to prevent people you havent messaged to message you. I think that should be clearly stated somewhere when you first sign up instead of it being a hearsay rule that was grandfathered in by long time users.
I am hopeful the admin team is doing their updates with this website because there is SO much potential for enthusiasts and pros alike...but the interface of the website is chaotic or vague that it tends to just deter the good ones away too hence the blanket statements for either side.
But until these modifications are made...it seeks like simply updating your profile and saying "if i haven't messaged you yet or visited your profile yet dont message me." Or "i welcome all pro requests or only cuddler enthusiasts" that would simply add accountability for all members to do their due diligence and weed out the ones who clearly just dont read profiles.
@ProfHermes Thanks for your feedback. I was curious if maybe I was reacting a bit strongly to the situation. Just felt pushy for the wrong reasons. Frankly I think it's a pretty shortsighted tactic trying to fleece a potential client for a measley $20 when they're perhaps willing to spend hundreds on a cuddle session. So obviously I will not consider cuddling with her if I'm in Vegas. But I guess the flip side is I don't know her situation. I call $20 measely because I'm fortunate enough that $20 has very little impact on my life but maybe she's struggling and $20 means more to her and she's hustling to try and get by. Either way its not starting out on a good vibe for a potential cuddle. I naturally dislike profiles that are money-centric. Not a judgement - everyone has their own priorities and value for xyz, but just my preference that something so personal as sharing a cuddle is grounded in each other's well being first and foremost.
I'd agree that I don't have an issue really, but to each their own. I've had two ladies contact me after I've viewed their profiles. One I booked with and had a great time, and the other we haven't yet worked out a good time.
I have actually considered becoming a pro And i still want to cuddle with other people of my choice.
Ads on YouTube and TV and radio
What are ads? I don't think I've seen an ad on YouTube or anywhere else for decades now... I thought everyone used ad blockers by now?
@jdev25 - If everyone really used ad blockers, websites would cease to exist. How do you think they pay their bills? I don't like ads like the next guy but I'm not a cheapskate and pay for YouTube Premium.
@Mike403 I love YouTube Premium!
@Mike403 Yeah, I have all the premium/subscription/pro etc. versions of all the services I use as well. But I still use ad blockers lol. They're useful for a lot more than simply blocking ads. I actually have a ton of hosts hard blocked by my operating system which cuts down on all sorts of meta data traffic and other bs.
Also, "everyone" was hyperbole, obviously.
I definitely reach out, because a lot of guys are shy or don’t know I exist! I have been thanked multiple times for reaching out … some have said they thought I wouldn’t even be interested in cuddling with them!
I didn’t even know some guys found it distasteful, if you’re not interested no worries haha 🤣 just like if someone reaches out to me & I’m not interested I’m not mad
@Allure22 The professional cuddler contract states:
" 28. You agree to not initiate communication with our members unless you have reason to believe they will be interested in your services. Our membership includes enthusiasts (free) and clients. The website is designed for clients to reach out to professional cuddlers."
In plainer language, it's against the rules to message potential clients unless they message you first or unless they viewed your profile. Users can report you for that. First time infraction results in a simple advisory. Repeated infractions can result in a lengthy timeout.
@Allure22 I can't speak for others, but for me it's not that a pro reached out first but rather how they reach out. Subtle introductions are nice but it's when a pro immediately goes into sales pitch mode imo that's off putting. Personally I prefer a bit of small talk first even if it's just an exchange of pleasantries. Someone messaging me saying hey let's cuddle on Saturday just because I viewed their profile makes me feel uneasy. It's like if I walked into a store and greeted with "You going to buy something" instead of a friendly hello
I've had sessions with a Pro and an Enthusiast, who both messaged me first, after I viewed their profiles. I've seen them both more than once, absolutely tremendous.
Sign up in just a few seconds and instantly communicate with people looking to cuddle near you.