Totally right @CharlesTwisted
@CharlesTwisted Your toxicity is on display.
I don't think it's unreasonable for somebody to not want their significant other to be physically affectionate with an internet stranger. I am more flexible and secure in my thinking and my feelings and don't get hung up on jealousy or have trust issues , but I know human nature and realize not everyone thinks like me .
@pmvines Exactly. I even said in my post regarding this that it is MY issue. I know I should not feel that way but I do. But some people read for an agenda so they can proselytize for a cause. I get that. I think it’s called passive-aggressive male toxicity.
@FunCartel jealousy knows no gender too . It's not just a matter of a man being jealous if his spouse or significant other is doing that . many women feel the same way about rheir man seeking a cuddle partner
@pmvines Fully aware of that. I have seen plenty of female profiles that say “No Married Men or those with a SO. “ It is a preference kind of like having to smell someone before cuddling being very important to some people.
@pmvines My ex felt that way if I even looked in the direction of another woman. Definitely goes both ways.
"Oh you know her? You want her? Go marry her!"
"okayyy........."
Now back to our regularly scheduled program...
I am the opposite because I know that for me to commit myself full force to somebody which rarely happens, it would go without saying that my trust for them would be solid. But as we know, not all folks are the same and not everyone is like me, thank the spaghetti monster in the sky for that lol
@phenom_xm - "Ladies, correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm sure on average your probably get 10+ messages a day. What makes a guy stand out to you? What makes you want to choose him over the other guys in your inbox, aside from the was he looks."
1) I hate to tell you but yes, you are wrong. 2) What makes a guy stand out is if he actually reads my profile, doesn't go immediately to cuddling in the first message, has a profile that actually tells something about himself, has a photo on his profile, and has something interesting to say. Unfortunately, that rules out about 95% right away. 3) ^^^^^ That.
Funcartel I think it is time you gave out that dealer in Las Vegas’s contact info... or at least confirm that she works at the Wynn haha
My lips are sealed.
@Brailleangel I agree
@Babichev More like 98%.
@Sheena123 , you are a wonderful cuddler that really understands. No wonder why you have a long queue of respectful cuddlers awaiting. It is exceptional how courteously you respond.
I wonder if anyone requires an unmarried masseuse when getting a massage.
This. Many of us don't even disclose our relationship statuses to our clients because it's really none of their business unless said person is going to be on the premises with us. I do disclose because a) I want to further pound in the message that there is no possibility of me ever starting a relationship with a client and b) I am not hosting anybody without someone else being in the house with me (for safety reasons), and 99% of the time that's my husband. If anybody has a problem with it, that's fine - find a single cuddler if that's what makes you more comfortable.
In a massage there is not mutual touching. A very lazy comparison to make! Some married couples maybe perfectly fine with it. Just as some couples are in a cuckold relationship and fine with it. I think it is safe to say many people would be uncomfortable cuddling with a married person. Fortunately, there is a search feature to segment that. I wonder if a lot of married pro cuddlers simply lie about their status because they know it would effect how much business they receive.
@oberon So what if they did?
It's mostly fine to have these preferences they are usually socially ingrained.
I just think it is important to be aware of them and ask ourselves where they came from, why do we have them, and what value we are getting from them. Maybe it's time to reevaluate some of them.
I love looking inward and understanding why i might be thinking a certain way.
Took writing to seven enthusiasts before I got a reply. Spent a few hours with lucky number seven yesterday!
The husband of the married pro I've had sessions with is cool with her cuddling. I've never had any qualms, and if I had, I could have missed out on a great pro!
@oberon I basically said that early on so I do not know why you brought it up. It is my peccadillo. Everyone has at least one and usually more. I am not going to cuddle a married pro for any sort of perceived social inequity. I have plenty of cuddlers pro and non-pro that I have seen that are not married so I can relax while cuddling instead of worrying about a married pro’s family dynamics.
This is not a social justice issue. It is a preference fueled more by the way I was raised and after a few decades on this planet it is still with me. There are no starving married pros that I need to save with a cuddle session.
And i was just wondering if it would extend another very similar professional service since other people also felt the same way. i didn't say anything positive or negative about your preferences.
@oberon: Yes, but your question revealed that massage isn't seen as intimate enough to maybe be cheating... revealing that cuddling is. And that's uncomfortable.
@JCat thank you! That’s so nice of you to say!
@boomerang86 - no mutual touching in a massage? Of course there is! When someone touches you, you are also touching them. I've both given and received massages so I should know.
How are you touching somebody during a massage when your arms are down by your side?
@Kense - because you can touch someone with any part of your body, not just your hands!
@UKGuy Ok, so you are just defining "touch" differently than most. Most people would describe a person receiving a massages as being touched but not touching the other person even though of course they are in contact. Remember, touch is both noun and verb, but touching is a verb.
@Tallandshyguy
"And I dont want any pros contacting me if they are not physically attractive. You just don't get $80 because you are a woman."
They are not getting $80 because they are a woman. They are getting that because this is their work. If they were getting for simply being a woman then we'd all be getting money regardless of whether we work or not. Perhaps you should write that on your profile, eh?
Thankfully CC is run by caring, and sensible people that don't determine the work people do, and how much they can make based on their "attractiveness". Nor whether someone is allowed to message, or not based on their appearance.
How do you define being "physically attractive"?
I think it's just semantics. Two bodies in contact are touching each other. A married person is touching someone non sexually, and getting paid, in either scenario. So, the discussion is pretty arbitrary.
This is interesting to me. I thought putting single would hurt me, because people might think you'll try to date them. A married person is more likely to keep it platonic and respect boundaries for sure, and that's what people are supposedly looking for. So, it's surprising to hear that single is preferred.