Has anyone else been stalked harassed or sexually assaulted by a user on the platform? I have about a year and a half ago. May 2018 and even though I’ve reported the guy who’s name is Andrew he has for the passed 1 year plus continued to make new profiles on the site sometimes without a photo sometimes with a photo and even messages me as if he’s a brand new user who’s never met me before Just within the passed 12 hours he was banned and created a new profile. Since the site doesn’t seem to be able to protect women against this kind of behavior I decided to make a forum post to see if anyone else has encountered this particular individual or a similar situation. Not to say anything is going to happen to me but in instances like this when no one does anything and ppl get hurt the police will want all the evidence that a person reached out for help and tried to make it publicly known I’ve Attached screen shots of just 4 different accounts where he actually put his picture but started messaging me like a completely different user. And even though he’s been told not to contact me anymore under any circumstance he’s done so through Instagram through what’s app he’s text me from different numbers asking to see me asking for inappropriate things cursing me out when I said no all of which screen shots have been given to the site moderators. I just want to put it out there. Cyber bullying sexual harassment stalking are all against the law and should be reported. I feel the site should start asking for drivers license and selfie before a member can join
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Incel written all over him. Be safe please
I totally concur with @thirdtimetry
I’ve been harassed on this site, he tried to blackmail me and made multiple profiles. It’s so horrible that this site does not protect us from people like that. There should be some sort of background check or make sure they can’t have more than one profile.
Thanks for the comments and the support guys. I figure the only thing I can do is make it public knowledge on here. I may have to file something with local authorities because were talking since May of 2018. It seems he doesn’t have plans of getting me off his mind
Wow, i am shocked by all of this, and this is scary stuff. I am naive and just assume people are honest and good but obviously this is not the case.
I guess you are going to have to do what it takes to make sure you feel safe and secure, even if it means losing some potential business. Some how find ways to screen clients well and insure your safety.
I have been on the internet, in spiritual groups, for over 15 years and have seen all kinds of stuff, including threats of physical harm to a person and or his wife. He took it seriously and contacted the police and filed a report. That is always a option, to go to the authorities. But it is sad when it goes that far. With that said, it was a rare occurrence. On here, however, i am starting to wonder how rare it is. It seems like some guys just have issues.
I am not computer savvy, but most internet sites block IP address i think and it is a little harder to get back on, create new profiles. Not sure what they do here, but it seems suggested that many are able to get back on immediately and create new profiles. That is scary, i have to admit and agree for those who have been stalked or harassed on here. Your only option is to block him on here, but he can just keep coming back with new profiles unfortunately. Talk to the moderator here as you have done and see what can be done to counter this.
One last thing, to the comment "to make sure they cant have more than one profile" In one of my spiritual groups i am on on the internet, this one troll has several made up accounts/profiles and when one is deleted, five more take his place. There is a moderator on the site and still this person finds ways to keep going and playing different characters. Unfortunately it is not so easy to stop, in that case, a troll, and in your case, stalkers.
Again, i feel for you ladies and definitely take this very seriously and do what you can to protect yourselves at all costs. Thanks for sharing this Thread.
Everybody, just use common sense in what you do to keep safe. If something isn't right, don't communicate with the person.
It’s very easy to say if something doesn’t feel right don’t communicate with the person. Just as easy as it is to say or type it is as easy as it is to do it. CLEARLY that’s not enough if the person keeps making new profiles WITH AND WITHOUT his photo and begins talking to you like a completely new person.
How many times within the passed year and a half (May 2018) do you suppose I have blocked his accounts and blocked his telephone numbers blocked his Instagram and reported his activity to site moderators... before taking to creating this post..?
It needs to be stated publicly who he is and what he looks like. Vetting users with a license and selfies would alleviate this issue immediately. This is an elite service or at least should be considered as such. For those emotionally and mentally healthy enough to respect the guidelines surrounding it
More so if a person like me who has no fear in being direct tells you outright IM NOT INTERESTED IN KNOWING YOU STOP CREATING NEW ACCOUNTS STOP CONTACTING ME AND DO NOT DO SO AGAIN UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE.
I repeated enough this last time for him to understand erase any warped idea you have about enough time going by or second chances. Respect what I’m stating. He was banned by 10pm and by 4AM had created another account and was at the top of my Visitors list.
That seems like a mental problem to me.
You have in your profile "If you visit my page multiple times or don’t respond to a friendly message I’ll assume it’s because you intend to break site rules & block you." I was not aware that visitng someone's profile multiple times was against the rules of this site. In fact, there was recently a thread about this very topic where most pros who responded welcomed anyone to visit their profile as many times as they liked.
What the heck does what’s written on my profile have anything to do with THIS TOPIC???
I’m free to write whatever I want on my profile and in MY experience those who have visited my page several times and never say anything when ever I initiate a conversation with a simple hello it has led tip me being asked if I would sell my worn panties? If I’ll cuddle in the nude? If I’m okay with heavy frisking during the session and also being propositioned for sex.
Where were you last week when my profile said that I was a director and video editor who works in the film and the music industry???
I adapt the text as I feel is necessary. None of which has ANYTHING to do with this man using multiple accounts to contact me against my wishes after sexually harassing me and being banned from the site
@bay111 , did you report those profiles to admin here?
Absolutely I sure did. And THEN I decided to put it in my bio like hey if you come to my page multiple times and don’t say hello don’t respond to a friendly message I’ll assume it’s because you intend to break site rules. Because that’s been MY experience with those who have. And then as you can see from the reviews well at least those who asked me if they could leave one that normally ppl don’t have an issue making their intentions plain. Hey bay id like to meet you or see you or set something up and if schedules permit we do. No need to come to my page 7/8/9 times without saying hello. That may be normal to others to me it’s weird and based on MY experiences case in point the one that led to me creating this discussion in the forum I’m well within my right to do whatever I can to alleviate weird behavior when I sense it.
@bay111 it is very unfortunate that people of that kind can join any site over and over , using different emails. One thing I totally agree with you is the selfie method, I'm a member of different sites and few of them require for the applicant to take a selfie through their platform, in other words nobody can fake it and they verify it because you have to agree to give them access to the camera on your phone, I'm sure many people will freak out over privacy . But at the end of the day if you have nothing to hide ? there's nothing to be worried about. That's my 2 cents. By the way, the selfie it's only for verification and you don't necessarily have to display it on your profile ** that also protects the member's privacy.
I hope your situation gets resolved asap and the law take matters into action immediately.
Best of luck.
@bay111 If the mods blocked his IP and he keeps coming back, he's using a VPN and there isn't anything that can be done except to stay vigilant with the blocking and reporting. However, if those profiles were being made just to get to users who blocked him, but his IP had not been blocked yet, perhaps when the mods do block it that will be all. That is to say, maybe he doesn't know about VPNs. In either case, it sounds like you aren't fooled by him so he's not going to have any info about you that isn't in your profile, unless you gave him any before blocking him the first time? Not really sure if he's breaking any laws that your local authorities would care about, but if you need a volunteer to chat with him to try to learn about him, and if mods here are ok with it, I'll do it.
He's already given us that he's a Texas Tech fan, so check some fan forums and see if his pic is there and maybe he has included his own personal details
I always ask for a photo of a drivers license before a session. No one has had a problem with it and it's an extra safety precaution if things go wrong. Hope this helps! Stay safe
Thanks for the supportive words guys. I truly truly appreciate it. While I can’t say I’m experienced with this personality type you’re right I’m not fooled. Each time it hasn’t been too long before I realize it’s him and I have been vigilant in the blocking and reporting. Last night Once I realized it was him I reported it and then asked him to tell me his name and he confirmed it was him. I decided to respond to each message respectfully yet making it clear that I have no desire to communicate with him again.
I don’t want to do anything to incite his behavior or curiosity. I just wanted to let it be known at this point because I’ve had other cuddlers come over and ask me if I feel safe to do this or have I had any experience with a cuddler that rubbed me the wrong way and he’s always the one that comes to mind especially since the communication continues after I have made it clear I no longer wished to be contacted.
I don’t think anyone needs to reach out to him. Just be aware
So sorry you're going through this. I think it happens to all of the pros to some degree or another eventually. My last one followed me from one site to another as well. Fortunately his communication style was easy to spot, so I never met him, but I felt sick and uneasy the whole time, and didn't accept any appointments for weeks. I agree there should be an option for verification here. It would make everything much easier for everyone with good intentions. There should also be a searchable database people can access. This is just a website, and playing on the internet has these hazards. All they can do is keep deleting his accounts, which often just angers the troll. I hope he doesn't know where you live. If he does, you should probably go to the authorities. If you know where he lives, or anything else, that's better, and you're welcome to message me to elaborate. Stay safe.
@bay111 , can you trace him in any respects as to he really is?
I also don't know if verification or a drivers license would help...let's say the person doesn't have a record of any type....????
If he is reading this thread, i would suggest you let this go, stop harrassing Bay, she is not interested. You might even find yourself dealing with the authorities, which you do not want, i would think. She has made that clear, she is not interested in meeting you under any circumstances. This is not healthy behavior on your part, this is crossing boundaries, lines. This site is for platonic non sexual cuddling only. If you desire something more, please go to another site where they offer sexual services. You will never find that with Professional Cuddlers on here. Stop this obsession, stalking, harassment, games, lying, creating fake profiles after being banned. Just walk away before this gets too out of hand for you. Seek professional help too, if you have some issues (mentally). This is a vicious not healthy cycle you are in at the moment, it is not healthy in any way for you or beneficial.
One more thing, this can happen anywhere. Years ago I worked at a college, and part of my job was to hire interpreters for the deaf and hearing impaired. One of my students who is deaf and an interpreter had a cup of coffee together in between classes. The student took it the wrong way.
She made the mistake of telling him where else she worked , at a pizza parlor, and he started coming there all the time. after she told him that she wasn't interested that way, he wouldn't take no for an answer and started to e-mail her, come to the restaurant, etc. whenever he could get there.
At the end, he unfortunately got away with it, and she had to leave the school. He got his degree and she had to find employment elsewhere. Even after talking to school officials about it.
Just be careful out there!!
Alan (LEV 136)
The guy was probably dropped on his head as a child. Why else would he choose Texas Tech as part of his troll profile?
Does he have a profile up right now? I thought he was deleted, banned again?
If he assaulted you please call the authorities, if his behavior is escalating please call the authorities.
@BashfulLoner Did she say anything about him assaulting her? I agree if he is harassing her she should contact the authorities. I'm not sure if discussing further here will do any good. She had her say and others chimed in with comments and advice.
@snugbuddy respectfully, i believe in the first few sentences on her post she did. If I’m mistaken it still stands, as i began both of my sentences with the word “If”. Sorry if my statement offended you in anyway pal. Carry on
@BashfulLoner it didn't offend me. I just wasn't sure. That's why I asked. And I agreed with you that whether assaulted or harassed or both the best thing to do is contact some type of authority.
@BashfulLoner and @snugbuddy , it's more important that we give her some support and try to help her than fight with each other.
@Lev136 I'm not sure how your story helps give her support or helps her in any way. So its interesting that you're lecturing others in what's important here...
@bay111 I think its good that you're getting his picture out there, that will help other pro cuddlers avoid him. Everyone else definitely should ask for photos before meeting someone in a public place..and if they don't match the photo don't meet them....have them wait outside a starbucks or something and drive near by and look for them from a distance...if they match the photo and don't look like this creep then meet them, otherwise take off and ghost them or block them etc...
@melancholy , I was offering my story because it does happen in all places. Not just this site. My point is that wherever you are you need to be careful in what you do and say....I agree, that it's good that she's coming out with this story, but just want to add that it can happen anywhere.........in this case, this guy's a real creep!!!