In high schools were you popular 🏄🏼‍♂️ nerdy / cool/ to yourself/ geeky ect

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Or what crowd were you a part of? Have you changed since than or are you still the same? Some people start out as introvert & end up extroverted ... others start out extroverts but later on carry on a introverted life ... those who were unadventurous are now the most adventurous & vice versa... what about you : )

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  • Sheena123Sheena123

    I was always the art and music girl. I was an introvert then. Always spent lunches eating ramen with my art teacher while painting or drawing. Other times I would be in the music room singing or playing drums.
    Now, I’m a big extrovert! Totally changed but still into music. I was shy back then whenever I went onto a stage to sing. Now, I relish it. I’m possibly narcissistic at this point, loving the praise after I sing at karaoke or when I do a gig. Lol

  • cuddles_ndreamcuddles_ndream

    That was really cool!!! I was definitely an introvert than & most definitely still an introvert now 😅 but ive definitely have come out of my shell a bit, I like to be very silly around my circle or those I’m very comfortable with, & online I’m definitely an extrovert (but that’s pretty easy to do online right? Lolol 😂) so I guess it doesn’t count 😛

  • valkyrievixenvalkyrievixen
    edited December 2020

    I was middle of the road and friends with most. Not popular...just me, I guess. I hung out with nerds, jocks, musicians, geeks, cheerleaders, pretty much whomever. I didn’t subscribe to cliques. I was equally awkward in all groups. Haha. I lettered in three sports, played in the band, sang in choir, organized pranks on teachers, pretty much lived it up. Lol. My philosophy hasn’t changed. Life’s too short to worry about who you were or seem to be to others. Just get out there and have fun!!

  • cuddles_ndreamcuddles_ndream

    @valkyrievixen you literally described my high school days @ didn’t subscribed to any cliques! Instead cool & comfortable with all 😄 that was a great read & thanks for sharing the pic

  • LyleLuvsHugglesLyleLuvsHuggles
    edited December 2020

    I was kinda the secret villain of my High School, most people though I was the goody goody nerd. But if you needed a forged hall pass you saw me, wanted a copy of the key to the old auditorium for... reasons? You saw me, needed something gotten passed the gate screens yep me again, the answers to a test yeah I got you, the list goes on.

    TLDR y'all thought I was Dexter boy genius but I was really Lex Luthor BWUAHAHAHA

  • cuddles_ndreamcuddles_ndream

    Lololol @NightShift39 we def needed you in my high school 😅

  • [Deleted User]Mmart (deleted user)

    I was the class clown. Always tried to make people happy through humor. I pretty much hung with all types as I do now.

  • cuddles_ndreamcuddles_ndream

    @Mmart you’re definitely empathetic/ compassionate/ a people’s person/ & put others before yourself...

  • [Deleted User]Mmart (deleted user)

    @introvme
    I am 9th out of nine kids born to by parents. I learned sharing, compromise and helping others at an early age. It sometimes took persuasion. RE: The back of my dad's hand.

  • [Deleted User]kylereaper23 (deleted user)
    edited December 2020


    @valkyrievixen

  • [Deleted User]APV (deleted user)

    I was to myself unless there was a conversation in ASL to join with my mainstreamed classmates who were Deaf & Hard-of-Hearing. I never attended prom or any extracurricular activities. I was just too ill-behaved to be tolerated outside of class hours. It’s not my fault that me, my parents and my doctors didn’t know I was born with a malformed brain until after I graduated from high school.

  • [Deleted User]DarrenWalker (deleted user)

    Oh, super introverted. Same as now. Born hermit, me. Homeschooling suited me just fine except for the co-op classes, which I skipped every chance I got. Just give me a book, thanks, and I'll ace the state exams every time. No crowds for me.

  • FlyingToasterFlyingToaster
    edited December 2020

    I've always been a bit of a nerdy type. I tend to be an introvert, but I always had my group of friends I liked to hang out with and talk to. So I didn't really fell like I was alone, but I wasn't the most popular kid either. And although I'm an introvert, I've always become more comfortable with people when I get to know them, especially if I have some common interests with them (even if it's just being silly). As I've grown older, I've gotten more comfortable talking to random people too.

    Also, like @Mmart , I started to feel like a bit of a class clown in 6th grade, as I've always liked making people laugh and feel good. I felt like I got along well with my classmates then too. Then, 7th grade was when we moved on from elementary school to middle school/jr. high school, and there was (mostly) a whole new set of kids, and many of them seemed unkind, didn't seem to like my jokes, etc., and my favorite part of the day was when I went to bed to sleep. 8th grade was a little better, and then 9th grade was the start of high school, which I think was a lot better. Kids in high school seemed more mature (though of course, still not adult-level mature).

    Why I spent only 2 years in middle school - My state used to have grades 1-6 in elementary, 7-9 in middle school, and 10-12 in high school, but after I finished 6th grade (still in elementary school), my state decided to move 7th grade into middle school and 9th grade into high school, so I only spent grades 7 & 8 in middle school. I was thankful I only had to spend 2 years in middle school.

  • valkyrievixenvalkyrievixen

    @introvme and @kylereaper23 thanks! 😂

    @NightShift39 and @Sheena123 I'm jealous! I’d love to go from introvert to extrovert, and I think it’s so much cooler that you were a Lex Luther instead of a Dexter. 😂

    @Mmart Wow!! 9 kids! That sounds like a fun family reunion!! I bet you’re the family clown too, keeping smiles on everyone’s faces. 😊

    @APV Glad you’ve got things figured out more now! That must have been frustrating!!

  • FlyingToasterFlyingToaster

    I'd think going from introvert to extrovert (or vice versa) would be quite a change. One aspect of being an introvert is that you can tend to feel drained after spending time interacting with people, but an extrovert gets energy from interacting with people. Is it really possible to go from one to the other?

  • cuddles_ndreamcuddles_ndream

    Yup it is very possible ... ive see. It with others, & one of the early commentators on this post proved so : )

  • LyleLuvsHugglesLyleLuvsHuggles

    @valkyrievixen it came in handy often.
    School security: "You actually expect me to believe poindexter here STARTED this fight?"
    Kid I totally decked: "BUT HE DID!!!
    Me: "Officer hes TWICE my size, why the hell would I pick a fight with HIM!"
    School security: You go on to class and you, you little delinquent let's go see the principal."
    Kid I decked: aaarrgh!!!! I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING!!
    Me (trying to keep a straight face): "Yes officer, do I need a hall pass?"

    Now to be fair I hit that kid for bullying one of our resident door mats but the point is he really didn't start OUR fight lol

  • [Deleted User]DarrenWalker (deleted user)

    @NightShift39: That is excellent. I actually laughed out loud.

  • LyleLuvsHugglesLyleLuvsHuggles

    @DarrenWalker Thanks glad to be of service, I can honestly say most of the trouble I've gotten myself into was on someone else's behalf. My shrink says I have one HELL of a case of Paladin Complex lol

  • valkyrievixenvalkyrievixen

    @NightShift39 That's hilarious! 😂 A mischievous do-gooder. Lol

  • FlyingToasterFlyingToaster

    @NightShift39 Chaotic good :)

  • LyleLuvsHugglesLyleLuvsHuggles

    @valkyrievixen well when you follow Coyote AND Raven a little mischief is literally "Demanded by the gods it is" lol

    @FlyingToaster Ah I see you are also a gentleman of culture. Lol. I'd say I've bounced between CG&CN a few times over the years lol

  • [Deleted User]DarkLordChungus (deleted user)

    I briefly attended a public highschool. I was the quiet kid who read lots of books. I also wore tons of black, vaguely-militaristic clothes, primarily due to my interest in rivethead subculture and post-industrial in general. In regards to popularity, my manner of dress and preference in music might have served me better a decade earlier; emo was on the rise, and I despised everything about it.

    Fortunately, I didn't really care too much about popularity, or fitting in with any of my peers. After half a year or so of attending highschool I departed, opting for a homeschooling program that enabled me to graduate two years early.

  • ElleCuddleMiElleCuddleMi

    I was a cheer leader but I was more of the quiet one. A goodie two 👠👠 never drank or smoked never did drugs did attend parties. I played baseball, volleyball, basketball and tennis. I think people knew me but maybe not in a "popular way"

  • pmvinespmvines
    edited December 2020


    Prom haha no beard and a pony tail

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod

    I understand the intent behind the original question, but I'm pleased to see that most posters have not answered it directly. Instead, they have given narrative descriptions rather than labels. I'm not a fan of labels: they cause division, misunderstandings and narrow the human experience. And on a more personal level, no matter what group label you choose, it almost always excludes me.

    Once, when I was in high school (at the time the largest school in the UK), I was discovered in a Ladies staff toilet by a female teacher. It was during lesson time, and although I knew who the teacher was I had never been in one of her classes and in fact I don't think we had never spoken. She said, and I quote precisely, "Oh, I'm so sorry, Duncan, should I come back later?"

    What group or label was I part of?

    (I was recording the sound of every toilet in the school, to find the right effect for the school play. No internet in those days, and sound effect records were expensive. I had armed myself with an offical note - it was even real - but I never had to use it. The teacher didn't know any of this specifically, but she did know who I was and that any confrontation with me was certain to end in her defeat. Yes, I did do the headteacher's private toilet: he was simultaneously disgruntled and proud. Any toilets that were locked I let myself into with the pass key to the school that I happened to have in my custody.)

  • MGKelly63MGKelly63

    I was well known throughout high school, but not so much in a popular way, as I was extremely reserved and shy, my senior year I was voted most shyest guy. Fast forward 20 years at my class reunion everybody kept saying wow you’re not shy anymore. There I was voted most changed guy, and now I can strike up a conversation with most anybody, and feel comfortable just about in any crowd setting.

  • [Deleted User]Mmart (deleted user)

    @ElleCuddleMi

    What a cute photo

  • TheMidnightOwlTheMidnightOwl
    edited December 2020

    Something worth noting... People don’t really change from introverts to extroverts or vice versa in our lifetimes. What we do change is our life skills and adaptations to expectations. We live in a world dominated by extroverts (not because there are more of them but because introverts tend to not prefer everyone’s attention), so introverts who would prefer more alone time and freedom from uninteresting social gatherings learn to adapt to that expectation of associating being outgoing with acceptance. There’s also a major difference between where we get our energy (alone or with others, aka introversion vs extroversion) and desire to socialize. I’m an introvert and need tons of alone time, but I’m also very social and have a huge circle of friends. Introvert does not equate hermit.

    While we’re on the topic of corrections, it’s “etc.” which is an abbreviation for “et cetera.”

    With all that said, I was extremely quiet and shy growing up, but had a lion inside me that roared against suppression. I was a nerd by proxy since I was raised in a large, fundamentalist religious family with no value on being current with styles and the like or even relevant. I had to learn how to dress myself which was an awkward evolution.

    I defied all stereotypes and still do. I was into “boy stuff” like sports and played varsity softball and all girls football (🏈) but didn’t fit in with the jocks. I was selected (by teachers) as a mentor to freshmen, elected (by students) as junior class representative, and a teacher’s aide but didn’t fit into the nerds or STUGO groups. Orienting as bisexual, in a time when that brought bullying, hate, and harassment far more than now, I also didn’t fit in with straights - or gays.

    I was me. Plain and simple. I hate grouping people into categories. And films like The Breakfast Club, and other coming of age nonsense, drive me insane.

    I was into photography, depressed poetry, classic Hollywood, American history and literature, and the history of women’s rights. I was known for my intelligence, maturity well beyond my years, monotone adult voice, attention to detail, military garb, preciseness, quips, sarcastic humor, wisdom, loyalty, observations, confronting people’s ignorance and stupidity, saying what others are thinking but too afraid to say, and advocating for the vulnerable. And being very much an individual.

    I had a handful of acquaintances from every “group” in school, and just three actual friends - all of whom I’m still in contact with and visit in person despite two being in different states. My nickname was Daria. And I identified very much with Kat from 10 Things I Hate About You.

    I’ve evolved and grown in so many ways as I undo so much unhealthy childhood training, but the foundation of me is still here. Simply improved and more confident.

    As an aside, one thing that has massively changed is my physical affection and cuddliness. As a kid/teen/young person, I was completely touch aversive. Touch was associated with violation, pain, and fear. And now, I’m basically a baby joey that needs touch daily and on a level higher than average or I wither. Making up for so much lost time, I suppose.

  • bekah_cuddlesbekah_cuddles

    I was the everything girl, as in I participated in as many activities as I possibly could (theatre, band, choir, speech team, cross country, track, recycling club, book club, Spanish club, etc). As far as kids I hung out with though, it was often the weird ones, the outsiders. I always tried to make friends with the quiet ones I saw sitting alone. They always ended up being the most interesting people. Everyone knew who I was, but I wouldn't consider myself "popular". Many considered me a teacher's pet.

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