I’m in Connecticut. I feel like it’s hopeless
Everything has a price. I have many lonely nights too. I’m sorry if you are hurting
There are 3 non-pro women and 79 men within 50 miles of you who've been on the site in the last week. So yeah, it is kind of hopeless. Don't beat yourself up over it or waste more time on it; the deck was stacked against you from the start.
The good news is there are a couple pros near you. Why not message one of them?
On the contrary, there's 41 people within 150 miles of you. Broaden your search to other websites and check back here occasionally, especially if you don't mind a quick drive. Message further out
Please dont take it personally. This site is an amazing idea but as 1 of the non-pro women on here I can say from experience that I have to be very careful to weed thru the odd messages and personalities. Recently was offered $100 compensation for the cuddle session which I thought was very generous untio.he started dry humping on me. Not why I am here at all. I am lonely too but I prefer to be alone than traumatized 😳
Sorry to hear that! I can imagine it must be super frustrating. I hope you find what you're looking for, whether it's through CC or another website.
@dnbfilmmaker it's not personal, as has already been mentioned it's just a matter of statistics.
Meet a professional, if you can. Hang out on the forum and make connections with people further afield. Maybe have some online chats. Anything. Everything. It's unlikely to get you a cuddle buddy, but in several other ways it will help.
Best to reach out to a pro - that's what most of us do on here so hope you don't take it personally, I'm sure that 80% of the guys here have gone through the same thing. If you want to commit to meeting an enthusiast, you might consider filling out your profile as it's pretty empty. This is so that can you generate greater initial interest if someone checks out your profile. When there are so many men's profiles you'll want to stand out somehow, and with so many choices a blank profile might be one way women filter out the barrage of messages they get.
Just keep in mind the numbers game does not favor you in the slightest.
See if you can get invited to a cuddle party. I know somebody in New York who runs them.
Covid silly
@dnbfilmaker: There are about 1.8 million women in Connecticut. In my opinion, you'd have a far greater shot at getting a cuddle partner by just engaging with them in real life, one on one, with sincere, genuine interest than on the internet.
@MrFirefighter Yes, very yes! Sadly we are in covid time and meeting people in real life is particularly hard right now.
True.
It’s true that if you expand your search radius to 150 miles there will be more women. But you’ll also be competing with more men. I don’t know exactly how many; I stopped counting at 600.
@CuddleMeLater Yes, if you expand your search will find more women, but then you just compete with that local population group, so in effect it's increasing your numbers, without increasing the rate of message response (unless you can find an area devoid of men)
My suggestion is to use this site more passively. If your effort to reward ratio is bad the best option is to put less effort in here. You may find it's better to redistribute effort elsewhere.
@dnbfilmmaker ~ I'm going to suggest a simple modification to your thread title...
Nobody will cuddle with me 😓 YET! 🤞
And a suggestion that goes beyond search radius, other sites, in person, etc. There is Covid to consider... so while waiting for that to pass, spend some time beefing up that profile of yours! It's nice that you are, "Kind and attractive." but surely there must be more to you than that.
Additional considerations... You've only just joined... Give it time! Check out other's profiles for ideas (especially those saying they've been successful here), participate in the forums, and keep in mind some of us here are nutty enough to hop on a plane, train, bus, etc. and travel thousands of miles (during a pandemic), just to cuddle ~ lol! So don't rule out long distance connections too ~ you just never know and sometimes people move...
Good luck & Happy Holidays!
Hey I resemble that remark @quixotic_life lol
Somebody will eventually if you know how to go about it
How do I expand my search radius? Which buttons do I need to click? Are they visible on Android?
@Chesserroo2 When you're searching for cuddlers, click on teh magnifiying glass. Then, under "Location near" there should be a dropdown menu to change your search radius. Atleast that's how it is on desktop, not sure if it is a different process on mobile.
It’s much easier for men to get cuddled. All you need is cash.
Money is all you need...😔 not sure I want to stay in This internet obsessed world where the only way to touch a female is if you pay her... sorta feels like there is nothing sacred or genuine anymore... also why should I pay? I'm not without value... would honestly rather cuddle no one than pay you.
Fortunately for @Yujujo69 (69? ooh), cuddling no one is an option!
@Yujujo69 not all females on this site charge for cuddles so just seek these specific females if you don't wish to pay a pro. And pros don't charge you because you don't have value but to either make extra cash or for some it's their income. Cuddle therapy is an actual job too where people usually do training and all sorts of things too. For me it's just to make extra cash but I'm not there to watch the clock and leave right away when the session is over. We do things for free too and offer discounts just to show we care too. Just like doctors help but get paid because it's there job and they do care. I also work in healthcare so at times we care too much and it hurts us even because we've no time to care for ourselves. Another option is to also get a girlfriend. My SO always gets free hugs/cuddles and all my friends get hugs. So please don't ever think you don't have value or that pros who charge don't think that you have value because you do. Some may actually be money greedy and not see value in someone but that's not everyone and you'd usually tell by how the person acts. Actions do always speak louder than words. There are genuine people.
Well, like always, these threads devolve into pros being vilified and then us needing to justify the work we do. Unfortunately @Yujujo69 your comment is more of a reflection that you don’t understand professional cuddling, or you have met some bad pros who were dead fish and didn’t care about your needs being met. There’s much more to understand about platonic touch practitioners than men paying women simply because they’re starved for touch. I hope things go well for you in the future wherever you decide to look and that you’re able to take off the black-and-white blinders.
This internet obsessed world where the only way to touch a female is if you pay her
@Yujujo69 that's simply not true. I'm guessing you're having a hard time at the moment, but it's not the 'only' way. Sometimes it's the fastest way, or the easiest way, but that's not the same thing.
And no, you wouldn't rather have no cuddles than paid cuddles. The truth is that a good paid cuddle is, in many respects, 'better' than an mutual cuddle. (The converse is also true, obviously.)
Find a good professional. Have a good cuddle. You will feel better for it.
Nobody owes you a cuddle, with the possible exception of your parents. If you want one, you have to earn it. Paying circumvents part, but not all, of the earning process. Until you accept that you are not entitled to cuddles, you won't get any.
@dnbfilmmaker You are not alone. Did you try an Online Dating site ? OLD I have luck with the worst on of the bunch POF Plenty of Fish. Its very time consuming . Go through most profiles and check if they are into cuddling. One has a name of I Like To Cuddle. ( seriously ). Then send them a message. I got 2 out of 12 message Reply s. Here I got ZERO out of 5 for reply's One turned out on POF . You have to go for Volume of available people . You may know this but . Caution most OLD sites are full for fraud Fakes and scammers .
@dnbfilmmaker
I’ve found cuddlers who don’t charge and get as much out of platonic cuddling as I do.
You might want to fill out your profile more. Besides your photo(s) and stats, the only thing a potential cuddler has to go by is what you say about yourself. You only have 3 words in it. Take a look around at the profiles of men who have had good luck. I’m not say thing you should steal what they’re saying but see how they do it.
Your profile should reflect your personality and charm.