@cudbud64 thank you for sharing your thoughts and insight. You provide a lot of valid points on cuddling, but it also makes me think on how I should navigate and approach this cuddling thing.
@coffeeandtea157 glad to be helpful 🫡
Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
@cudbud64 You are a good bird and deserve another round of Cheez-Its.
@Charlie_Bear found some very excellent cheeze it themed gifs. Plz enjoy
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@cudbud64 😂😂😂 excellent
@Charlie_Bear do I get kicked off my own forum post for getting it off topic? Asking for a birb.
@cudbud64 Hmm, if you do then I am probably kicked off right along with ya 😅
@TruePower it's no wonder belgians are a failed people. also therapy is a just a meme, and I would say it is even worse than "putting a band-aid on a bullet hole" it's literally taking a morphine to forget the bullet altogether. and sometimes it fires more bullets in your life https://www.youtube.com/c/Seraphobe
just because something is popular does not mean it's "right" and for some people cuddles work better than therapy.
but you do what you want with your life in the end.
I would also recommend talking to a real friend who understands you over outsourcing a conversation. and also hugs but that should be self evident ^^
Hey @hikikomorichan -- great point. Also thanks for getting us back on topic lol.
You're right, not every person sees the same results from therapy, unfortunately not every therapist is made the same. But consider that therapy can be a great tool, a resource to point you to potential other resources, unfortunately not always an option people can tap into, and can take some time to find the right fit, just like it takes some time to find the right cuddler to spend time with, depending on where you live, and the general ebb and flow of a site like ours. I definitely agree that leaning on your support system can be a great tool in your toolbox, which was the main driving point in my fourth point; putting all your eggs in one basket, specifically cuddling, to solve all the imbalance you may feel is not going to fix everything. An assortment of things to lean on to get you through tough times is essential.
Best of luck to you out in the cuddle-verse 🤗
What a thoughtful, caring post! I found it through cudbud64’s profile, and am glad I clicked the link. Having read a good number of messages from female enthusiasts and pros (mostly enthusiasts), I am a bit more thoughtful when initiating communication. That’s not to say I was unthoughtful before - compassion and active recognition of others’ humanity are qualities (and actions) I take pride in practicing - but I have improved my use of language in messages, thanks to the generous vulnerability of many enthusiasts who have posted.
Many thanks to the mods who work to maintain the spirit in which this community was created and continues to thrive!
Interesting post. I have been guilty of cut and paste in the past, but more recently have put conscious effort into being more personal and following most of the suggestions. Same result, which is few replies and no cuddles. Very grateful to two pros I met. Unfortunately one of them left the site and the other one takes frequent breaks. I appreciated the pro who left, who specifically wrote karma to help me find cuddle partners. Didn’t help much, but it was a thoughtful thing to do. Pros put up with a lot of crap from entitled men who think that just because they are spending money, they can be a-holes and/or push boundaries. Do better! Treat people well!
@JL_Borges sincerity is definitely more helpful to swing the odds in your favor, having a thoughtful, well written profile is also awesome. Keep truckin'!
@KansasDad it also is very dependent on how active your surrounding CC cuddle community is... keep putting yourself out there, the next message could be the next one that leads to cuddles 🤗
I happened upon you through a mutual friend - and I'm glad I did! You really said it- it's why I try to offer paid video calls. The site does deserve it's dues, but actually booking immediately is not always logical, safe, or doable. If I could change one thing here- it'd be the client pays a fee for contact info. We're here to offer services, meet good people, and make money- not spend it so you can harass me in my dms later. Or that paid video calls would just be the standard vetting process for everyone. Site gets it's fee, pro gets maybe a little gas money (or whatever), and no hassle later since any payment kinks have been worked out ahead of time.
Also I've had some truly wonderful conversations with some very beautiful souls on here✨
I've been feeling fairly frustrated, and you, I suppose, said somethings I needed to hear. It's hard and unsafe meeting people so candidly online. As a woman, I have so many landmines and red flags to be wary of... Especially concerning traveling for this- another really good reason to break the ice via video calls first... Just wish people understood that a fee for a video call isn't unreasonable - it's entirely logical for this site and set of circumstances.
However, I think the majority of the men who say they wouldn't do so- have issues with their pride. It's not pathetic to pay someone for their time or to be generous in general... I think way more of the people who agree it's a solid idea, and go through with it. Me being the person I am, I talk a lot- okay? I'm very candid, amusing, and artistic. The people who do video calls never complain, because we always have a good time. I don't do dry conversations - I am the conversationalist. I can make a dry or nervous person smile and laugh. Feel comfortable on a video call even if it's not their forte. Thing is- I've been told I have a magnetic personality (I don't see it of course- much) but people don't get that from here when being poor communicators.
So I rest my case We Pros are a brave bunch- please abide by our rules and boundaries. That's how you make us feel comfortable enough to go through with a booking. Also kudos to you if you read all of this💖
@Abigailsvision I respect what you're saying regarding paid video calls. However, I have a few concerns regarding video calls in general. I realize it's rare, but there may be the odd person who simply doesn't have enough data or internet speed to handle a video call. Another concern I feel I must point out is that for people who are totally blind, we cannot see your video. Further more, speaking for myself here, I would have absolutely no idea how much or little my camera may be showing the person on the other end. I feel this puts people like me at quite a disadvantage. I would have no problem at all with an audio call. This would be concern enough, but adding on payment with such a high risk of things going wrong, I just couldn't do it. Also the risk that I could pay for this, then be ghosted. This all has nothing to do with pride, but security.
Or that paid video calls would just be the standard vetting process for everyone.
I don’t mean to be argumentative, but I simply don’t see paid video calls ever being accepted as a standard practice on CC.
I have undergone multiple, extensive background checks that involved investigators contacting my college professors, neighbors, and co-workers from many years ago. I know those background checks are necessary and expensive but I was never once asked to pay for my own background check.
On CC, I have done video calls with both pros and enthusiasts prior to meeting them in person but again, I have never been asked to pay for those video calls / vetting process.
If a pro requires a potential client to pay for a video call before an in person cuddle, then she decides during the video call she doesn’t want to cuddle him for some reason, would he get his money back? If not, then many clients may view paying for the video call like buying a lottery ticket. They may “win” or they may be throwing their money away.
Asking a client to pay for their own vetting also sounds a lot like the recruiting scam where “employers” charge job applicants for an interview for a job (that usually doesn’t even exist).
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/four-reasons-why-you-shouldnt-pay-job-interview?
Ps, I'm aware that I live in a world where the majority of folks are sighted and may have no problem at all with video calls. I have no objection to paying someone for their time. However, some of us have limited incomes, and have to choose carefully how we spend it.
@JohnR1972 Very well said. I totally agree with you.
@hifigeorge Out of curiosity, how do you navigate the website? Are you using a screen reader?
@GuyverGordon I do use a screen reader to navigate this site. That technology is built into most smart phones these days. I get around, but I'm probably not as fluent as some. There has been a great deal of improvement to these screen readers, to the point where one can get a brief description of a photo or image. Much of how well this all works is still dependent on how the site being navigated is set up. Thankfully, this site is quite good. At least a lot of the links are labled.
@hifigeorge Cool! ... I'm in the web development world; I am always interested when people browse websites in alternate ways.