Since I've been mentioned: If I hire someone to go to dinner at a restaurant with me, I am hiring an escort not a cuddler. I'm not saying that anything sexual is involved. You can't cuddle in a restaurant unless you want to look like two sixteen-year-olds. You are supposed to eat. So the lady is an escort not a cuddler. Nothing wrong with that, but it ain't cuddling.
@BJC Yeah, and since people associate escorts as being sex workers, it's easy to see why pros here are offended at the comparison. Where I'm at (California), being an escort is legal and they are people that are paid to spend time with you; though they need a license to do it. Prostitution is illegal here, however, so escorts (here at least) are not providing sexual services (or at least they shouldn't be.) There are different laws everywhere, so we just need to avoid being associated with escort services.
Escort is not the right term since one of the definitions is sex worker and the term is strongly associated with that kind of work. Rent-a-friend is not an escort agency, and neither is CC.
Platonic companionship is a wonderful service and I applaud pros who offer this as well as cuddling.
I don't usually do this but y'all give @Charlie_Bear a break ! He's a good dude with good intentions,.and doesn't deserve to be piled on for a word choice error. Be nice !
@pmvines Thank you sir 😌 What I would give for this to have been a p**p or b***r thread right now.
@Charlie_Bear Thou shalt not mix thy forbidden threads or you end up with Reese’s P**p B*%#r Cups.
@Charlie_Bear Hugs!! You’re doing a helluva job moderating!! 👏🏽
@FunCartel Yes you are right. I need to be careful what I wish for 😬😅
I never understood the Karens here who would take time out of their day and voluntarily report profiles. Don't you have something more productive to do with your time? Everyone here are consenting adults. Nobody forced you to sign up to this website. Either 1. Make this site explicitly for physical platonic cuddling. None of this virtual BS or dinner dates or company outing etc. 2. Open up the flood gates and just have a ala carte menu of options to pay for, minus the sexual stuff obviously because thats illegal in the USA.
@Charlie_Bear frankly, your comments aren't the ones that concern me the most, both as a pro and as a sex-positive person. This website seems to be going too far to the extreme to avoid being associated with sex workers to the point of being prejudicial with its policies.
Beyond the site policies being a vague and conflicting mess, the community toxicity in general has just really been wearing me down. Like MissAdventerous I'm seriously considering deactivating again. On the one hand, I enjoy healthy good-faith debate and interacting in the forums has increased my business inquiries as a pro. On the other, it's shed a rather unflattering light on the community and ripped off the rose colored glasses. At this point, it's feeling like my energy would be better spent cultivating relationships through local communities as I was before rather than trying for faster growth and broader connections.
I'm personally very supportive of the sex positive movement and if I were to guess, I think the rest of the team is also.
Please consider that as a website it is natural for us to strongly push against these type of associations when we regularly see members of various sex forums debating whether this website is what it says it is. That is highly damaging to this movement and website's value proposition. This is a cuddling website for cuddling and anything that stretches that definition and purpose is at our discretion on a case-by-case basis with our public image as the primary consideration.
@FunCartel
Oh, I’m not outraged ~ Not even a little. I’m just confused. Terribly, terribly confused.
Hence, standing by. Awaiting further information. lol
It's interesting to me that companionship in person is questionable to some, however virtual companionship is not. Let's not be so narrow minded that we etch out those looking for a safe space to find connecting with others safe, and those courageous enough to provide it. The world abounds with unsafe places where human connection cannot be met, let's not judge our way in that direction! I believe it's more important to have a place that offers positive human connection and comfort than perfect the defiinition of cuddling. Webster does a fine job of that, lol.
It’s a travesty that, once again, women are being investigated, vilified, and persecuted for men’s inaccurate assumptions and bad behavior.
Thank you, @FunCartel and @Mr_Cuddle_Bear for getting it and being strong allies willing to speak out on behalf of women.
Banning dinner dates does not discourage sex work, it only creates euphemism. Men do not push boundaries because women go to office Christmas parties, they do it because they think they are entitled to women’s bodies—that’s a product of patriarchal rape culture.
Policing women for men’s bad behavior does not make women safer, it only makes it harder to see the problem for what it is. This new policy is a misdirection cultivated to provide legal cover to owners and admins.
They’re allowed to enact such policies, but should have the courage to call them what they are and not use volunteer mods as human shields.
I often like to do cuddling and an activity like cuddling and then going on a hike or cuddling on the beach (fully clothed); when I do my eight-hour sessions, taking a meal break is essential, and sometimes it is nice to go on a walk and stretch our legs. Generally, when I share a meal with a client, it is either delivered or at a casual restaurant; I am not getting dressed up and going to a fancy restaurant on a date-like experience. With longer sessions, it is almost impossible to exclusively cuddle the entire time.
Everyone on this site is an adult. If everyone is getting paid and NO ONE is doing what they shouldn't be "romantically',' what should it matter. I get it is a slippery slope, but honestly no matter how they meet up and see each other, if there is something brewing between them, there is nothing going to stop them. I don't think we need to be policing them.
Reported and reviewed. Leaving intact though it should be noted that when it comes to pros (primarily since there is an exchange of money and laws are different everywhere) we take action on anything non-platonic. We don’t police enthusiast cuddles, though anything non-platonic is expected to be avoided and we do take action on anyone that pushes boundaries or otherwise violates the other person’s consent. [Charlie_Bear]