Why?

[Deleted User]Davee101_ (deleted user)

Why is it so hard to find someone to cuddle on tis site? No one seems to reply or message and it's near enough a ghost town on this site. Am I missing something?

  1. Have you had any success with this site79 votes
    1. Yes actually
      75.95%
    2. This place is coming like a ghost town
      24.05%

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  • edited May 2023

    Hey, there! I frequent England routinely, although it's mainly in Hampshire. (Hoping I can expand my pool overseas one day.)

    I had a chance to look at your profile and some things to keep in mind:

    • You joined this month. It's going to take more time to gain traction, build a network, etc.
    • There's not substantial information on your profile. It's a relatively blank profile in an endless pool of blank profiles on this site. Let a potential cuddle enthusiast know more about you by filling out your profile and humanizing yourself: an actual welcoming photo of yourself, who are you as a person, what are your hobbies, what do you seek in cuddling, etc.
    • Some folks will heavily depend on Karma reviews; some don't.
    • I see you are willing to cuddle "Everyone." A lot of women, for instance, will feel less safe reaching out to you since your profile is pretty barren and because of internalized social norms, few women will reach out first. Additionally, there's still internalized homophobia for a lot of men who don't feel comfortable cuddling other men.
    • Add the fact that this site is heavily disproportionate of men versus women/non-binaries looking to cuddle. From my experience and talking with others, it is much easier for women to find a casual cuddle buddy than for men (almost like a dating app minus the dating part.)
    • Like any other social platform, there will be a lot of flakey people. Take every interaction, including my post, with a grain of salt and move on. It helps to reduce burnout you're already experiencing.

    Wishing you the best in your CC journey. Cheers.

  • [Deleted User]WriterGF (deleted user)

    If you're looking for something more immediate, hire a pro. If your preference is enthusiasts, it takes much longer to build those relationships, plus enthusiasts (at least female ones) tend to get buried in messages.

  • edited May 2023

    You may want to simply do a search on this topic, as this dead horse has been flogged beyond recognition already on many an occasion

  • Sister Skinny never has problem finding a cuddle partner.

  • [Deleted User]MrAdmirer (deleted user)

    No pic. No profile info.

    Wonder why nobody replies.

    Lol.

    Just another day that ends in “y”

  • [Deleted User]CharlesInWI (deleted user)

    @w8ed_blanket 👏👏👏

  • Yeah, since you barely joined you'll need to start looking and building rapport. If you plan to cuddle enthusiasts then the process can take longer. If you reach out to a pro then it'll happen faster.

    But one thing to keep in mind is to not have a barren profile. Don't be a stranger basically. Many may not cuddle for safety reasons. Things that help me is pictures of them on a profile and when you get a cuddle ask them to leave you karma on your profile. Karma helps with people feeling more comfortable cuddling you.

    But you are just experiencing a new profile situation. Be actively seeking and you'll find what you are looking for.

  • [Deleted User]feisty (deleted user)

    I would reach out to a pro to get your karma ratings up. When I started out as an enthusiast I got dozens of messages, and it was impossible to keep up. Plus I was able to be very selective about my first few cuddles. It takes some time.

  • Why is it so hard to find someone to cuddle on tis site? No one seems to reply or message

    You're a man in an activity where men are abundant and not particularly choosy, while women are scarce and very choosy. If you've ever used a dating app, it's the same phenomenon but worse here.

    I recommend using this site for pro cuddlers and ignoring enthusiasts.

    That said... If you really want to connect with enthusiasts, wouldn't making a better profile be the most obvious step to take?

  • Dear diary. I've now agreed with @CuddleWho multiple times this year, especially this wisdom:

    If you really want to connect with enthusiasts, wouldn't making a better profile be the most obvious step to take?

  • [Deleted User]CharlesInWI (deleted user)

    @Sideon

    hugs

    It’s gonna be ok.

    Something something stopped clock twice a day something something.

    Don’t let it shake you.

  • [Deleted User]therapycuddles1 (deleted user)

    I think just particular areas are busier then others. My area I know that all professionals cuddlers reply almost straight away or within the same day. I hope you can find someone amazing to cuddle with 🩷🧡

  • This person has only been here since this month.

    Give it it more time. Be patient.

    Not to mention there is no profile pic. You may not be real.

  • @CuddleWho posted: "I recommend using this site for pro cuddlers and ignoring enthusiasts."

    Not all female enthusiasts play hard to get, or go Pro on week two. Some of us are actually here for love of cuddles. 😊

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

  • Several of my clients have had great success with enthusiast. They communicate well and are very patient. But I think all of them are most all of them have started with pros. It’s nice to get karma. If I was an enthusiast and I had a huge pool of people to pick from I would be very picky, just saying:)

  • [Deleted User]CharlesInWI (deleted user)

    @SunsetSnuggles

    Yes, but you are VERY rare unicorns, and for reasons involving random chance (but that FEELS like a terrible curse) unicorns never seem to live within 100 miles of me.

    I swear, you desecrate just one ancient Egyptian tomb…

    (Kidding, never been near an ancient tomb…)

  • @CharlesInWI If I'm ever in Wisconsin, let's snuggle our little hearts out. 😊🦄

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

  • [Deleted User]CharlesInWI (deleted user)
    edited May 2023

    @SunsetSnuggles

    That would be a great joy, and a lovely kindness.

    I accept, thank you.

    (What kind of snacks do unicorns prefer?)

  • @CharlesInWI It's not a kindness if I want it, too! 😁 I like fruit Mentos and barbecue chips. 🤩 What do you like?

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

  • [Deleted User]CharlesInWI (deleted user)

    @SunsetSnuggles

    I’m not much of a snack person.

    I try to stay on an IF 20/4 schedule, with some sort of protein mid-afternoon and a veggie heavy dinner late afternoon.

    And, of course, a couple scoops of ice cream for dessert.

    Because, to paraphrase Chidi, if I’m going out, I’m going out with some yummy in my tummy.

  • @CharlesInWI I'll bring you ice cream, then! 🍦

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

  • @SunsetSnuggles are you coming to the Ohio meet and greet? If you do I know it’s all about meeting and greeting but I would love to have at least a five minute cuddle with you or an extended hug. To me you’re the poster child for great platonic cuddling, even though I haven’t met you I’ve heard so many great things about you from people that I have met, that have met you!!

  • Goodness gracious @KozyKim, you are the sweetest!! glomp hugs I can't make it to the Ohio meet and greet, though I was sorely tempted. I just have too much going on, right now. I hope you all have an incredible time! And yes I would love to cuddle with you, hopefully for way more than five minutes! You are such a sweetheart. I still feel new and have so much to learn, but I really appreciate you and whoever your friends are! ☺️🤗

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

  • @isac_ I have had great success on this site but as so many others have said, it takes time and it REALLY helps to start with pros. My first 6 cuddle partners were pros and I had been on this site for 10 months before my first cuddle with an enthusiast.

    While having a lot of good karma is no guarantee of future cuddle success, it certainly improves your odds. Likewise, as many others have pointed out, a well written profile is a MUST. I have cuddled with a couple of pros who did not visit my profile before we met (which surprised me) but EVERY enthusiast visited my profile, some multiple times, prior to our cuddle(s).

    @SunsetSnuggles @KozyKim - You are both a 10 on the JohnR sweetness scale 😊

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