"I'll be only an hour away tomorrow night, how about an overnight cuddle?"
How about we meet somewhere in public first to get to know each other? Oh, you've blocked me.
Actually, that's not the response I give. Usually I give no response because they clearly didn't read my profile and their profile is empty.
@IronicMaiden I feel like there should be a minimum requirement for filling out a profile greater than zero lol.
@ProfHermes There's usually something, a short sentence that says nothing. "I'm nice." Yeah, prove it.
@ProfHermes OMGoodness, why do you know me so well already?! It really depends on who's asking because the response must match the asker or it doesn't hit the same. I'll give you some examples of the types who have asked this question in the past not necessarily on this platform that I may or may not have used. Buckle up, you're not ready for these responses.
TechBro: Do you have a pitch deck for this opportunity? Only if the benefits package includes a 401(k), health insurance, and paid vacations. I prefer relationships with equity, not investors.
Wealthy Older Oil Tycoon: I'm holding out for someone who strikes emotional oil, not just crude oil. Only if the benefits package includes mineral rights and a ranch. I'd rather drill for compatibility.
Royal Prince: I'm looking for a kingdom built on mutual respect, not an allowance. Only if the title comes with emotional availability. I'm more interested in character than the crown.
Cartel Boss: I'm looking for a partner, not a person of interest. I prefer my relationships to be low-risk and drama-free. I'm attracted to green flags, not wanted posters.
Movie Director: Let's see if we have good dialogue before discussing the budget. I prefer partnerships that don't require an NDA. I'm interested in character development, not character casting.
Pros feel free to copy/paste these if you receive that question. While I don't wish this question lands in anyone's inbox, I hope everyone got a good chuckle out of my cheeky replies!
Thank you kindly for asking the question @ProfHermes. You get a fist bump, HIGH-5 and a hug around the neck for being brave enough to ask it! I think I may be having too much fun in the forums.
that is a rad acrylic painting. How long did it take you to complete?
@TattooSqueeze Oh no, I didn't paint anything. I just poached it from the Internet. Lol 😆 I thought it was pretty and wolfy!😍🐺
Wait you don't love the "How do you feel about a Sugar Daddy type of relationship?" question?
Nah, but a Dudebro is gonna Dudebro. Right? 😏
There is always at least one that has to ask.
For me, it's been a lot more than one. 😆👍
Yes of course, let me drop everything I'm doing and be right there. You better have my Liquid Death Mango Chainsaw chilled, Rold Gold Thin Pretzel Twists, clean Egyptian cotton 1200 thread count sheets, the room temp at a perfect 67 degrees and showered with your teeth brushed by the time I arrive!
HA! You know they won't have any of that together, especially the teeth brushing part. Lol 🤣
Of course can't forget about the all too common "Can we meetup tonight? I can pay you!"
Which I find to be a pointless response, as I am a CUDDLE ENTHUSIAST not a Cuddle Pro. 🙄
Ok so I’ve come to the conclusion that I instantly get the ICK when someone asks me “so how affectionate are you”….
Not sure if it’s just me and I’m just weird AF but I immediately feel triggered. Could just be a genuine question but I feel like a good cuddle in itself IS showing affection. You’re laying close with someone, holding each other etc… Am I making too much of this question 🤔
@Katota that groovy piece is definitely wolfing! We don’t expect anything less from our Dudebros. I said at least one, but we know it’s more like one bijillion. Mind boggled that some can’t grasp that fresh breath is a non-negotiable. They know you are an Enthusiast, BUT they’re special so you must oblige.
@GroundingLight your feelings are always valid. That questioned asked in this scenario would immediately alert my Spidey Senses. I think depending on the moment and tone, it’s most likely being asked to push boundaries.
Flirty tone = is more often a coded nudge to see how sexual or physically forward things might get.
Anxious tone = they are looking for reassurance that you are warm and expressive.
Concerned tone = they are checking your comfort level, maybe wanting to hold you tighter
What their eyes are saying when they ask questions will speak louder than words. When you’re unsure just communicate.
Triggered is not a good feeling when you are cuddling. Your introspection is good, but too much is detrimental to your health.
I would encourage you to dig deeper, what about the question is triggering: •Who’s asking it? •When it’s being asked? •Why it’s being asked?
If your partner who you’ve been dating for 7 months asks, would you feel the same way?
If this was asked while being seater across from you while drinking tea, would it feel different?
What is the intention behind the question?
Women are conditioned to believe we are too emotional, too sensitive and too bossy. So to answer your question, NO you’re not making too much out of the question. Your body reacted but your mind is challenging it. Hope this is helpful.
I would think that someone would include their pronouns in their profile. If not they could just convey them to you when you visit.
Most profiles I read include those questions if it's relative to him or her.
If it isn't on the profile I assume those questions are not a problem or something I need to be concerned about, unless of course it's brought up in communication while scheduling.
You might want to try and connect with a question about their profile..likes or dislikes and if you have something in common.
I don't think there was anything wrong with your questions, in fact it was a good litmus test to screen someone out if they are immediately that reactive.
Myself the question that really bothers me is asking if I can meet right now. My profile states no last minute scheduling, at least 12 hrs preferred. I have had people in the past contact me repeatedly for last minute, each time I politely tell them no, I don't schedule last minute, then they contact me again later asking if I am available right then. And again. And sometimes again. So I end up blocking them.
I literally have a whole life outside of cuddle comfort, like everyone else here. 1 time is a mistake, multiple times is pushing boundaries to see if you will go against your own rules (especially if they can see our whole prior convos in the chat).
Outfit request.
@CuddleYogini https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/forum/discussion/comment/35091/#Comment_35091
@CuddleYogini 😭. This is one I've never come across.
@Suzie_Q 🤗
One of the worst questions ever...
What's a "fun fact" about yourself?
😑🙄😒
I dislike questions asking me my dislikes. I like to keep things upbeat
"Interested" (without question mark, so it might as well be a statement, who knows?)
"(Are you) free/available (now)?"
"How are you?" (in a first message)
I dislike questions that have already been answered on my profile: age, body type, height and relationship status.
“What are you wearing?” I find this question odd given in the TOS both parties agreed to wear a minimum of shirt/tank top and shorts. When someone asks this question, my Spidey Senses immediately thinks what boundaries are they trying to push.
I’ve read that clients make outfit requests. I haven’t received any yet but that is a hard no, report and block from me.
“Can you share any other photos of you alone without your adorable dog?”
This one struck me as very odd, because it was very specific. I have 7 photos on my profile, including ones that show my body type. Not sure why they would request more, especially when they have zero photos on their profile.
I’m not interested in swapping photos. Are requests to share more photos common?
@TattooSqueeze , I just peeped your profile, and yes your dogs are so adorable. Together y'all look like those heartwarming commercials they used to have when I was a kid
@TattooSqueeze That person wants to see the body parts that are covered by your dogs on every picture, if you know what I mean. I hope you blocked the women objectifier 🤮
@TattooSqueeze "Are requests to share more photos common?"
Not "share" so much as a male would-be client asking for more pics, and yes it is fairly common. Either they want to see if your body type is attractive to them, they are picture collectors or ... (my imagination is now going to places because of things I've seen on reports). Most of the pros I've seen who have reported this shut it down fast, and it's very common for this to be part of a pattern of a client you don't want.
@Suzie_Q awww thank you kindly. Dogs are the absolute best! Glad we could bring you a little nostalgia.
@Krisha that's what my Spidey Senses immediately thought. I had half a thought to send photos of me covered in other random objects instead of my pups but that would require energy I don't entertain.
@BlueIris appreciate the clarification, given I have photos of my body type on my profile I don't feel the need to share more. I don't feed picture collectors or entertain any other negative intentions.
This was my response, "If you need to see more photos of me to book a session, we’re not a good match."
@TattooSqueeze Here's my 2 cents - take it for what you pad for it.
I'm a guy who hires pro women on this site. Aesthetic appearance does have some importance to me (as you mentioned, body type). Your photos, dog and all, are more than adequate to inform someone like me what your appearance is like. So there's really no obvious need for someone to ask for photos that don't include your dog (unless maybe we delve into the idea that the person gets triggered by dogs or something like that).
Stick with your spidey senses.
@Jubal appreciate you sharing your perspective and confirming what I already knew. I understand the need to know appearance before booking a cuddle session, that is why I included a variety of photos. I like to approach most questions with curiosty before judgement. This community has been awesome about sharing feedback, which I am grateful for!
Asking me for a picture when you have not shared yours.
@TattooSqueeze can you send me pics of your dog without you in them?
@TheFunCartel my dog does not consent to me sharing solo pictures of him.
Great, I creeped out the canine.
this development of asking pronouns caught on very quickly over the last decade. it's a weird one too, because when exactly would you be using their pronoun in their presence? you could always refer to them by their name.
In a certain hospital, a part of staff training is asking pronounce when introducing yourself to patients. imagine doing that with an 80 year old person.
fine, ask about pronouns..if they get offended, don't get offended that they get offended.