"I'll be only an hour away tomorrow night, how about an overnight cuddle?"
How about we meet somewhere in public first to get to know each other? Oh, you've blocked me.
Actually, that's not the response I give. Usually I give no response because they clearly didn't read my profile and their profile is empty.
@IronicMaiden I feel like there should be a minimum requirement for filling out a profile greater than zero lol.
@ProfHermes There's usually something, a short sentence that says nothing. "I'm nice." Yeah, prove it.
@ProfHermes OMGoodness, why do you know me so well already?! It really depends on who's asking because the response must match the asker or it doesn't hit the same. I'll give you some examples of the types who have asked this question in the past not necessarily on this platform that I may or may not have used. Buckle up, you're not ready for these responses.
TechBro: Do you have a pitch deck for this opportunity? Only if the benefits package includes a 401(k), health insurance, and paid vacations. I prefer relationships with equity, not investors.
Wealthy Older Oil Tycoon: I'm holding out for someone who strikes emotional oil, not just crude oil. Only if the benefits package includes mineral rights and a ranch. I'd rather drill for compatibility.
Royal Prince: I'm looking for a kingdom built on mutual respect, not an allowance. Only if the title comes with emotional availability. I'm more interested in character than the crown.
Cartel Boss: I'm looking for a partner, not a person of interest. I prefer my relationships to be low-risk and drama-free. I'm attracted to green flags, not wanted posters.
Movie Director: Let's see if we have good dialogue before discussing the budget. I prefer partnerships that don't require an NDA. I'm interested in character development, not character casting.
Pros feel free to copy/paste these if you receive that question. While I don't wish this question lands in anyone's inbox, I hope everyone got a good chuckle out of my cheeky replies!
Thank you kindly for asking the question @ProfHermes. You get a fist bump, HIGH-5 and a hug around the neck for being brave enough to ask it! I think I may be having too much fun in the forums.
that is a rad acrylic painting. How long did it take you to complete?
@TattooSqueeze Oh no, I didn't paint anything. I just poached it from the Internet. Lol 😆 I thought it was pretty and wolfy!😍🐺
Wait you don't love the "How do you feel about a Sugar Daddy type of relationship?" question?
Nah, but a Dudebro is gonna Dudebro. Right? 😏
There is always at least one that has to ask.
For me, it's been a lot more than one. 😆👍
Yes of course, let me drop everything I'm doing and be right there. You better have my Liquid Death Mango Chainsaw chilled, Rold Gold Thin Pretzel Twists, clean Egyptian cotton 1200 thread count sheets, the room temp at a perfect 67 degrees and showered with your teeth brushed by the time I arrive!
HA! You know they won't have any of that together, especially the teeth brushing part. Lol 🤣
Of course can't forget about the all too common "Can we meetup tonight? I can pay you!"
Which I find to be a pointless response, as I am a CUDDLE ENTHUSIAST not a Cuddle Pro. 🙄
Ok so I’ve come to the conclusion that I instantly get the ICK when someone asks me “so how affectionate are you”….
Not sure if it’s just me and I’m just weird AF but I immediately feel triggered. Could just be a genuine question but I feel like a good cuddle in itself IS showing affection. You’re laying close with someone, holding each other etc… Am I making too much of this question 🤔
@Katota that groovy piece is definitely wolfing! We don’t expect anything less from our Dudebros. I said at least one, but we know it’s more like one bijillion. Mind boggled that some can’t grasp that fresh breath is a non-negotiable. They know you are an Enthusiast, BUT they’re special so you must oblige.
@GroundingLight your feelings are always valid. That questioned asked in this scenario would immediately alert my Spidey Senses. I think depending on the moment and tone, it’s most likely being asked to push boundaries.
Flirty tone = is more often a coded nudge to see how sexual or physically forward things might get.
Anxious tone = they are looking for reassurance that you are warm and expressive.
Concerned tone = they are checking your comfort level, maybe wanting to hold you tighter
What their eyes are saying when they ask questions will speak louder than words. When you’re unsure just communicate.
Triggered is not a good feeling when you are cuddling. Your introspection is good, but too much is detrimental to your health.
I would encourage you to dig deeper, what about the question is triggering: •Who’s asking it? •When it’s being asked? •Why it’s being asked?
If your partner who you’ve been dating for 7 months asks, would you feel the same way?
If this was asked while being seater across from you while drinking tea, would it feel different?
What is the intention behind the question?
Women are conditioned to believe we are too emotional, too sensitive and too bossy. So to answer your question, NO you’re not making too much out of the question. Your body reacted but your mind is challenging it. Hope this is helpful.
I would think that someone would include their pronouns in their profile. If not they could just convey them to you when you visit.
Most profiles I read include those questions if it's relative to him or her.
If it isn't on the profile I assume those questions are not a problem or something I need to be concerned about, unless of course it's brought up in communication while scheduling.
You might want to try and connect with a question about their profile..likes or dislikes and if you have something in common.