It's been said before; men on this site outnumber women, connecting with women enthusiasts is a rarity, women are bombarded with messages, some people are here for the wrong reasons, Cuddle Comfort is not the place for romantic connections or sexual touch or connections.
In the short while, three months, I've actually connected and cuddled with men, I've learned what can be helpful for me and I'd like to offer some encouragement and advice:
Don't use language to enthusiasts as you would pros
I am not a pro, it's not a booking with me. I really dislike getting messages that were meant for a pro. While some pros may feel comfortable with same on next day bookings, I, as an enthusiast, am drawn to getting my physical touch meter filled and that is my priority. It's solely in my free time that I get to spend time cuddling with someone, and I invest a great deal of time getting to know someone before agreeing to meet. If anyone is agreeing to meet with you, it is a risk. You are a stranger from the internet, it's not personal. In an ideal world I would love to have more time for cuddling, but realistically I will only be able to commit to regularly meeting with a few cuddle buddies on a regular basis. Your average enthusiast will likely have the same capacity
The time you invest into conversations is not just in your inbox
For those who actually use the forums, your personality can shine and speak to who you are as a person. I am not one to answer all of the messages in my inbox, unless the opening truly stands out.But I've gone back and messaged enthusiasts who seem appealing to converse with when I've seen their contributions to the forums and I have made some great connections 🙂 Be active and positive when you can
Fill out your profile
I prefer a novel of a profile over an empty one. Give me the reading juice, I likea da juice. Stand out in a sea of stale profiles. I've gone through my inbox after months of not responding to some messages when I do have the capacity. I've messaged with enthusiasts who had dropped a line in my inbox months ago when they've had a good profile filled out and have had great conversations from there. It's not personal if I don't respond. If you're not nearby and your opening intention is just about cuddling, I might not respond. Idk lol it might also depend on the day for the last bit.
Knowing yourself and your needs is vital
You're here for a platonic good time and being able to hold good conversation will deepen your connections with others. What are you passionate about? How does cuddling enhance your circumstances rather than become a pedestal of your healing? If you have a lot going on in your personal life and you are depending on physical touch or romantic connections not found on Cuddle Comfort to resolve your internal/emotional balance, you are trying to put a bandaid on a bullet hole.
I've seen previous posts about resources that I will try to link here, recommended by others to help you work on yourself. Consider cuddling as one of many tools in your toolbox for being the best version of yourself. I've never known anyone that would not benefit from therapy, and just like finding a cuddle buddy, it might take some shopping around until you find the right therapist. I started actually meeting up with enthusiasts about a year after I had made a profile, and two years into a personal healing journey. If I had started back when I first made my profile, I might not have had the great experiences I have had so far, for the sheer fact I wouldn't have been as open with what I needed. We can't change the past, we can only move forward and choose to make different choices. No one reaches perfection in this life or is without flaws, but that doesn't mean that you don't aim to question self or motivation and attempt to grow. Consider that you may need to exercise muscles that are underdeveloped or have never been used, and be thankful for the opportunity to start growth now. You never know what may come of working on yourself, both here in the cuddle-verse and out in the real world.
I might have more thoughts but these were the pressing ones. Big ol' shout out to the mods and folks who helped create this community to be what it is today.