Has anyone ever met with someone in public that seemed embarrassed to be seen with you?
Maybe I’m tripping, but this was bugging me. I meet someone at a cafe. It’s our first meeting. I mention I only meet in public places on my profile. When I first show up I thought they just couldn’t find me. I mention what I’m wearing and so do they. I think I see them, but they’re wearing a mask. I message I’m behind them one table over. They sit at another empty table, but their mask is off now and it’s definitely them. I wave put they seem to be looking everywhere but at me. So I get up and walk over and they have the most unenthusiastic expression. I know I’m shy and awkward too, but this was beyond what I was expecting. They had positive reviews (but have since been banned). They tell they didn’t have their glasses on so they couldn’t see me. I guess they can drive without glasses. They then proceeded to say of a relative was texting them for an errand they needed to do and how they were tired from work.
So maybe this is a trigger for me, but I just wish people would not agree if they weren’t a 100% feeling to it. I feel like I was inconveniencing them. I don’t want someone to feel like they have to be there just to be nice. I said, hey if you need to go take care of that, don’t let me hold you up. They said it was fine, but body language said otherwise.
I’ve had a similar interaction before, but not as bad. How can I better screen? Am I missing something. Would cancel the meet if you showed up and the other cuddler seemed tired or uninterested? From the first one I already don’t contact or meet with those that don’t have pics or are obscuring their faces. I totally did not expect this after the positive reviews and them being eager to meet. I try to show accurate pics and personality descriptions so I feel I’m showing/telling people what actually to expect. Should I ask more direct questions about their expectations? Should have more grace for shy, awkward first meets?