Trying to be more active here, any tips to meet people?

aceinthehole7aceinthehole7
edited April 2024 in General

Hi everyone, I’m a 27 year old man who’s just started being active on this site after making an account almost two years ago. I’ve met two pro’s in the past couple of months I’ve had a positive experience so far.

Now that I’m more comfortable with the site, I’m looking to be more open and also meet with non professionals. There’s not as many on the site but I think it’d be cool to make some friends and meet people who enjoy cuddling for fun too.

Any tips for that? I’m never sure how to reach out, and because of where I live a lot of people are kind of far, like 20+ miles away.

Also, is my profile okay? I just hope I’m able to present myself well here. Thanks for taking the time to read/reply.

Comments

  • chilln74chilln74

    Sorry to say but most likely you're going to have to pay to meet anybody on this website. I've been here 4 months zero face-to-face contacts. I've done everything in my power to try to do it all people's advices still nothing. So good luck to you sir

  • SunsetSnugglesSunsetSnuggles
    edited April 2024

    @aceinthehole7 I'm glad you've had positive experiences, thus far! 😊

    When searching, set the Last Online to "Less than a week" so you're only viewing cuddlers who are active. Then start sending out polite PM's to them, preferably after reading their profiles. Brownie points for mentioning something in their profile that genuinely interests you or that you relate to.

    Unlike with Pro's, approach us enthusiasts with less of a "let's schedule a cuddle" tint and more of a "let's get to know each other" vibe.

    Your profile is fine; I always like to see a more robust About Me section, but it's not necessary. The more you express who you are there though, the more chance someone has of seeing something they click with, and returning interest.

    My only criticism would be that you started off this post mentioning that you're single. That can come off a bit like you're looking to date, so just announce that status with caution.

    You're doing great and I hope you have more lovely experiences!

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

    🦄 Enthusiast 🏞 Travel Fiend 🐘 Animal Lover

  • SunsetSnugglesSunsetSnuggles
    edited April 2024

    @chilln74 Your profile says you joined in February, so that would be less than two and a half months, at most. That is not long; it takes time, patience, the right kind of effort, as well as often a willingness to travel.

    I notice on your profile, a lack of relationship Status. For me, this is a red flag, as almost without fail, that turns out to be guys who are in a relationship whose significant other is unaware and unconsenting to their presence on this site. It could be something that's affecting your responses from other women.

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

    🦄 Enthusiast 🏞 Travel Fiend 🐘 Animal Lover

  • [Deleted User]SeriousSnuggler (deleted user)

    Hi @aceinthehole7 my suggestion for connecting with more enthusiasts is like @SunsetSnuggles said be sure that you look for people who are active and send a message indicating that you are looking to make friends.

    Us enthusiasts typically take a little longer to get to know. So be prepared to start with messaging for awhile to be sure that the vibe is right with someone.

  • Minestrone101Minestrone101

    Hey welcome. It took me a while to make connections. I would say flesh out your profile summary, post 3-5 pics, write nice intro messages to prospective cuddlers (if they have an empty profile, then talk about your hobbies, your cuddle experiences/ideas/goals, and ask about their goals), and participate on the forums. Maybe don't take no responses or slow responses personally, realize that the wait oftentimes exists bc it takes a lot of trust and risk for a woman to cuddle with a new person, and lastly it helps to respect the preferred gender that you will cuddle with. I think this thread helps too:

    https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/forum/discussion/19613/how-to-get-started#latest

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod
    edited April 2024

    It is true that it is difficult for men to find enthusiast women to meet here. It was difficult for me: from my first joining to first meeting with an enthusiast was nearly a year, although I wasn't active the whole time. However, I am now in the fortunate position where women approach me on the site, so it can be done.

    Somebody posted the other day that the most important thing is the opening message. I think that's probably right. A lot of women will read the message before deciding whether to look at the profile.

    Second most important thing is probably the image thumbnail that goes with the message. Nice clear shot of you is best.

    Here are some threads that might help:

  • panda619panda619

    Non pros don’t exist

  • SunsetSnugglesSunsetSnuggles

    @panda619 You positive?

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

    🦄 Enthusiast 🏞 Travel Fiend 🐘 Animal Lover

  • cuddlefaerycuddlefaery
    edited April 2024

    Guess we don't exist, @SunsetSnuggles 😅🤷🏻‍♀️

    Also, I can't resist....

  • SunsetSnugglesSunsetSnuggles

    @cuddlefaery Ermagersh, look at the cute picture I found of us together!

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

    🦄 Enthusiast 🏞 Travel Fiend 🐘 Animal Lover

  • MorpheusMorpheus

    I’m sure that @panda619 doesnt literally mean that non pros literally don’t exist. Of course they exist. His comment comes from the point of few of a man on this site where most men either have never found a non pro cuddle buddy or our experiences with them have been minimal.

  • TheMidnightOwlTheMidnightOwl

    Can always count on several Cuddle-incels (in-cudds?) to pop in here to drop some negativity on someone sincerely trying to navigate this space, and call people like me nonexistent. 🤦🏽‍♀️

    To the OP, listen to the good advice from others here. They got you. Nothing much for me to add.

  • KatotaKatota

    (in-cudds?)

    @TheMidnightOwl HA!😁 That's perfect.👍

    Well, I wish OP the best of luck and may he definitely take advice from the helpful commenters (and avoid the opposite) here.😁

    I'd offer some tips, but due to being an Enthusiast who doesn't EXIST...Yeah.😏

    Best of luck to ya, OP!😊👍

  • TheMidnightOwlTheMidnightOwl

    @Katota lol Glad you appreciated my humor.

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