@CharlieBear I am the opposite, I’m synesthetic. It helps with my memory because every thought is a picture that I can go back to and access whenever I need to. The weird thing is that I can see the picture but can’t think of the word too many times. I’m also the grapheme type, which means that I organize everything visually and in colors. Time - days weeks months, years, decades are all different colors. My life is laid out like a game board. But I’m horrible at auditory learning, which I’m sure you’re very good at. Learning differences can be a challenge. I hope you can make a picture out of a thought intentionally. Just stop take a moment and visualize. I don’t know if that’s possible?
@Katota no comment on that meme
@Sooson right😳
@dennis22554 , Reality is as it is, in most places, in most countries and cultures. In the logic of the market, voluntary exchanges are 1 to 1, enthusiasts are 1 to 1... When there is a greater demand on one side than the other, other factors arise, like pros vs enthusiasts. Don't expect this to change as long as people keep looking for pros. First of all, cuddle with whoever wants to, regardless of gender. If no one wants to pay, the number of enthusiasts will increase. If half of these 18 talk to the other half of these 18, everything changes.
I understand supply and demand..my post was intended to address potent reasons why female enthusiasts are leaving the site and potential corrective actions that could s y op the slide..nothing to do about me..did I misunderstand your comment directed at me?
@dennis22554 I know you have good intentions but this isn't a topic that is all that complex. They will stay once they start getting treated better by the men here.
I absolutely agree .I've essentially said that from the start..the discussion has drifted off topic at different points but treating enthusiasts ... and everyone else for that matter..wad the original focus
With respect
@afmaced i can guarantee you if the pros could No longer be pros the majority would not switch to being an enthusiast. They would just leave the site. The number of enthusiasts will not greatly increase of at all
@sage91436 ⬆️ I believe this also.
Actual..I was thinking a stronger push for meet and greets across the country would be helpful .the thought being .. one would be less likely to treat someone they met in person disrespectfully online
@dennis22554 it's for everyone... What I mean is, if a new enthusiasts joins and see 96% willing to pay for a pro, it's an invitation to become a pro. [How about] we all stop worrying about gender and cuddle with whoever wants it [Removed]
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That's really not at all how it works @afmaced
I think women have specific reasons for not wanting to become pro... we should make the site inviting for all women that want to join..pro and enthusiasts alike. Going further..it should be a respectful environment for all...a lot of work is required to achieve that goal
@sage91436 Agreed
@dennis22554
I doubt that those whose behavior you are attempting to correct will ever show up to a meet and greet...
So many wishful thinkings here that are out of touch with reality.
You can still wish
Not dismissing your comment..I am just an optimist
I know you mean well. My comment was about other posts here as well. Not only yours.
All good..I know where you are coming from..I do hate all talk. ..no action plan
@dennis22554 the meet and greets are funded by the people organizing, not this site. They don't sponsor them in any way, shape or form. (Most likely due to liability.) Some advertising is allowed here on the forums, as long as it's platonic and not self-promotion. Meet and greets aren't cheap or easy to put on. Venues require reservations (and need seating and bathrooms.) Party planning is definitely a skill.
Private anonymous karma that’s available to females only would be lovely. If a Cuddler has come to my home and made me feel uncomfortable, leaving a public callout karma about them might only draw unnecessary attention to myself. This could potentially escalate the situation or provoke some form of retaliation, which is the last thing I’d want. In cases like this, it feels safer and more practical to lay low, avoid further interaction, and quietly decide not to book with them again in the future. While public karma can serve as a warning for others, it’s not always accurate or comprehensive, as it often reflects positive personal experiences. For my own peace of mind, I’d rather prioritize my safety and handle the matter privately.
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A perfect encapsulation for many of the reasons why these things don’t change.
Lets find a way to bring brownglucose's s'suggestion to reality
@Katota agreed but the problem is no matter wherever you go, one can always find a moron
I could be wrong..but is karma in it's present form kind of tit for tat..you gave me good karma..now I'm obligated to return the favor...I can see karma comments for the pro or enthusiasts..not for client's..recognition for them should utilize another process
@brownglucose isn't this why the pro's have a private section?
@great_pillow08, that's refreshing to hear. By the lack of quality and enthusiasm from many pros, I'd say you're not the only person who feels this way. I think the $150+ hourly costs these days are too attractive for many to pass up. Those hefty hourly rates are probably a contributor to many of the male bad actors too, with regards to expectations etc.
You all know that there is a Professionals Only forum, right?
And that they do trade information about the abusers, and the “creeps”…
And that, because of the fundamental nature of this business, that professional only forum is effectively a woman’s forum, with the occasional overly optimistic male “professional” trying to get help before they finally give up and stop paying the monthly fee…
No..I did not..does it address privacy concerns?