Men are wired to have sexual urges. Intelligent men knows how to keep those urges to themself.
(Fun note: I ended up finding a gif of a unicorn with a lollipop 😄 but it felt too inappropriate for this site ... i think🙃; it would have been great though if i thought i could use it...)
@TxTom - Thank you for overlooking my inappropriate jab- no need to apologize in turn, but very gracious of you- mercy buckets as I say when I’m in France.
@MarigoldBloom Not only women. I've been attacked here numerous times for being the messanger.
@GuyverGordon I'll see your unicorns and lollipops, and raise you werewolves and porterhouses...🐺🥩😁
@Katota That werewolf with the rotating front leg (or is it the entire left side rotating?) is a bit disturbing 😅 .... and did the porterhouse come from the unicorns? 😜
That werewolf with the rotating front leg is a bit disturbing
@GuyverGordon Why thank you! 😊
did the porterhouse come from the unicorns? 😜
@GuyverGordon
This thread deserves a second bag of popcorn for sure 😂. Oh man, IYKYK, spot on!
The title is serving a lot of audacity and quite frankly is offensive.
I’ve been with a handful of pros, I’ve never been propositioned for sex. I’ve only come across untagged pros.
@Bear what is an untagged pro? Once they've been tagged, are released back into the wild?
I typically cuddle with enthusiasts so my experience is limited, but I have been propositioned for "extras" by pros. These have always been prior to any actual session.
@Immersedwarmth A person who charges to Cuddle and has not gone through the process of being a professional. It gets frustrating because you think they are enthusiast they talk to you and then they asked for money at the last minute sometimes.
@GuyverGordon Love the unicorn & lollipops!!
I’ve only come across untagged pros.
@Bear I have come across one of those too, yes I reported.😊
@MarigoldBloom 😁😁 ... I wanted to be sure there was at least one spot here that was unicorn and lollipops 😄
I'm glad you like them 😄
I guess the way I look at it is, if you are here for platonic cuddles, and you're convinced that the vast majority of pros and enthusiasts are not ... why stay here?
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@CaramelNotes Yeah, the title isn't the best title I do agree.😏
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@WriterGF That's a good way of looking at it too!
Woah!!!! I haven’t read every response yet but I think I’m being misunderstood. I was only opening up a discussion to see people’s thoughts on the statement from one client. I, in no way, think that I’m the only platonic cuddler left! Haha. And I don’t think most men on the site are looking for that. I don’t think that 90% of women will give happy endings or whatever else seemed to ruffle feathers. The clients answer shocked me and that accompanied by an influx of creepy messages sparked my curiosity. I want to know what people think on the subject.
That being said I do deal with a lot of cancellations once we are talking off site. Maybe it’s something I’m doing wrong. That’s a solid possibility. But the goal of the post was to hear from professionals and their experience on the subject as well as (hopefully) hear from men themselves that they are ONLY looking for strictly platonic cuddle buddies and so that new people reading the forums would see that this site is not a front and therefore be less likely to as for extras.
My intention was not to upset people and after reading it again I feel like the only people that should have been offended are those who are using the site the way my client suggested.
So please, let’s uplift and support each other!! Of course certain topics get people worked up but we are all on the same side…hopefully. Let’s try to keep our forums friendly. No one should be afraid to post for fear of being attacked by the community. Everyone has their own experiences and feelings and, as long as they’re not using hate speech, should be able to express themselves freely.
Happy Cuddling!!
When I cuddled, we were very open with each other conversationally, but we also knew and held to established boundaries. You can talk about sex and taboos and fetishes and so on, but that's not what you are there for. Cuddling is for platonic contact and those boundaries are there for the protection and safety of all involved.
Okay. I just went through and read all the replies. Here’s what I have to say:
@JackNJ - yes. I did report them. I sent screenshots to admin and ripped them a new one for being so pushy. I’m happy to post screenshots here but I don’t think that’s necessary. DM me if you want to talk about this more.
I’m not trying to brag. Idk who said that but you think I’ll come on to a forum to brag about being propositioned and harassed by someone? Weird flex.
Another weird one: I shouldn’t offer massage unless I’m licensed? This is a touch therapy service not so different from massage…let’s not go down that road. Start saying we need to be licensed and we will all be required to pay $799 for a license and cuddle training. I’d love to take a class someday but I don’t think it should be required.
And whoever pointed out that I’m almost 40…low blow!! 40 is not that far away from your twenties. Believe me. You’ll be almost 40 before you know it! 40s the new 30 tho so I not scared!!
Thank you @Littlefaile you made some great points. I was randomly told by a client that there are multiple forms that talk about sexual experiences they have had with women from this site in particular! They ask which girls will do what and post about what they’ve done and with who. So this is an issue and it does need to be discussed! I have the site somewhere in my text threads if you’re interested in seeing it. 0/10 would not recommend!!
@xandriarain and @Jubal You make some good points. I’ve assumed similar things. Some men are just creeps. Wouldn’t it have been nice if nonprofessionals just responded with “Hey! I’m here and I’m ONLY looking for snugs and hugs!!” Instead of getting upset or making jokes about something they clearly don’t understand.***** As a man you will never understand being aggressively propositioned even after you have clearly stated your boundaries. This doesn’t happen here and there. It happens a lot. On this site and in our daily lives. Now that’s something to get upset about!!*****
And lastly @MarigoldBloom GO OFF GIRL! No need to apologize! These are the words of a woman who knows what’s up and is not afraid to speak her mind. She supports other women and doesn’t bring them down. You’re amazing! Never apologize for speaking the truth!! I’m glad you were able to resolve things nicely though.
I really just want the integrity of this site to improve. We have amazing admin that do their best to keep it friendly but the burden shouldn’t be all on them. Love you all and I pray for the safety of professional every day. Be safe out there ladies!!
Happy cuddling!!
@lilhugdealer I'm glad you haven't met women who aggressively proposition men but a quick trip to Google News and a search for "female teacher arrested" will show you what can happen.
I may be nuts ....and many may agree......but I find upselling to solicit a larger tip is quite a turnoff ..not. to be confused as a sexual reference ....when I book a session..I have no expectations other than potentially forming a connection..I aways tip but if I were solicited for a tip......it would deflate the purpose of originally booking the session......to everyone's point there are plenty of SWs availble...id like to think most of the women on this site truly are driven by wanting to share the gift of touch for unselfish reasons...thats why I love Cc
@cde123 Talk To me when it happens to you multiple times a day EVERY DAY. Respectfully, you could never understand what women deal with when it comes to men being inappropriate with them normally. Being a professional cuddler unwanted advances are multiplied even more than usual. Recognize your privilege as a man and please don’t minimize the experiences women have to put up with all the time.
I think I’m done responding. Some people just don’t get it. I’ll pray that hopefully someday they do.
@cde123
Your what abouts and minimizing is all apples to oranges.
@lilhugdealer ...I agree that everyone should have a voice as long as they are respectful and do not use hate speech..I think you would agree yor title could have been rewritten
Someone made fun of OP for being 40? Hope they banned that guy thats not right.
@lilhugdealer I see that one of your latest replies says you were wanting to hear thoughts and experiences from pros. I’ve been a pro here for about 6 years. I wasn’t bugged by your title because I do get the frustration, but it does make it sound like you’re the only “good girl” left 😅 I don’t proposition for anything sexual. I know a lot of my cuddlers were probably hoping I did considering I have over 200 reviews but nope, they can leave disappointed. 😂
I know there are quite a few spicy people on this site but that’s always going to happen. We just have to be diligent with cleaning up those messes. I talk with a lot of my clients about “pros” that solicit. I tell them all the time that they need to report these women but they don’t want to. They either enjoy what these women offer or they just don’t think it’s an issue. 🤷🏻♀️ I can’t force them and I can’t report FOR them. It’s a “he said, she said” thing. I need proof if I’m reporting.
And as a side note when someone mentioned offering massage: In some states, it IS illegal to offer massage without a license but the main reason the site says no to offering massages is because that means clients are getting naked or nearly naked. That’s against the terms of service. If you’re just massaging them through clothing or stating you do light massages and caresses throughout, of course that’s ok, but if you’re whipping out the oils and giving an overall rubdown of a massage on their naked backs and getting them to take their pants and or boxers off, that is not ok.
I totally agree with lilhugdealer. I'm in it just platonic as well. I don't offer any other services outside those lines. I feel you're 100% right ppl with different intentions should def look for those services at the sites or places that offer those services. I do know this site has been around for many years, to my surprise. I'm new to it, going on about 2yrs. I get amazing feedback & all my clients are very happy with my sessions & tell me in very professional. Think at the end that's all you can do, make sure you're doing the right thing. We can't control other persons actions, just being straightforward since the beginning of your services will save you much time.