I deleted my earlier Body and just stamped the question. Let's see if people can answer a question without personally attacking me. 😉
I really don't like the toot my horn kind of posts. They often come off as self indulgent, self centered, and tend to shame others who don't have the means or skill set to impact the world around them into feeling inadequate. I will just say that I am mostly a good human who mostly does good things and mostly treats others with kindness most of the time. All we can ask of our fellow humans is to not harm us or others, so very small and manageable bites of change can really go a long way.
Sometimes just being visible is a powerful force.
I spent my career managing change, both technical (in IT) and process. While I embrace change and delight in it, many people don’t and are resistant to it, preferring to keep things as they were.
It doesn’t matter whether it’s big, corporate stuff or simple changes at a personal level, many of the same principles apply … and mostly it’s about communication, getting people on board and understanding the benefits. Once the new “system” is in place, you find others embracing the change as well, who were previously resistant.
It can be change that only impacts your life or change that has a wider effect. Allow the “recipient” of the changes you plan for to be an agent in that change process, not just a victim of it. PM me privately, if you wish to discuss further, but for me it is about communication and ensuring people are on board, rather than simply instigating change.
@CambridgeGuy I too have done a lot of work in the domain of large scale change management. I have found the principles of Dr. Everett Rogers (the Diffusion of Innovations) still work as well today as when he was discovering them back in the 1960s. With change management, it is helpful if you can identify the innovators in your target audience and get them to adopt the new method / system / technique because by their very nature, innovators have little regard for the status quo. Once they are on board, the early adopters will give it a try and if they successfully adopt, the early majority will follow.
@pmvines I don’t know what your saying about tooting your own horn. Everytime there’s a good bowel movement your here. You’re famous on the forums for it. Just saying.
Seriously. I understand and I’m similar. I don’t always talk about my accomplishments.
I do many things to get people to bend to my will cough cough I mean create change. Sometimes it involves a bit of moral superiority, sometimes a bit of internet trolling, sometimes if I act sad and withdrawn I get my way. It really all depends on the person and the situation. The bottom line is always getting my way, ahem, I mean creating change 😉
"A tiny bug manipulates the behavior of its hosts to ensure its unlikely life cycle."
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/see-how-a-parasite-travels-from-tiny-crustacean-to-fish-to-bird/
Scientific American, October 2022
I can see there are alot of people on cuddle with low vibrations. I always tell people that are proud of their accomplishment that people who don't strive for theirs will think they are bragging. I don't have to explain myself but i feel like if I tell people what I do, or what works for ME. THEN I'm not telling them that it works for everybody or this is what others should do but this is what I do and it worked for me. ! And I'm going to toot my own horn everyday all day. And anyone else's horns that come into contact with me. I'm sorry I'm not sad, depressed, or down on myself (any longer) and I'm sorry I use myself as examples in situations for things that worked for me. . But im not going to let a bunch of people who are trying to find reasons to be negative make me feel less about myself. That's a part of what's wrong with the world. When people are doing good, feeling happy, feeling proud, you want them silent. But LOUD in their misery. Please get help for yourselves and figure out why you would think someone being positive about theirselves. Or using theirself and what they do/did, as bragging. Or tooting their own horns etc.
I'm not sure how you Debby downers are even cuddle buddies. Your talking about therapy and all these healing things but shaming me for "tooting my own horn"
Explain to me how your helping others heal or feel good works? Explain to me how you have time to be negative on forums that's supposed help people feel good? The problem is not with me. It's with you. You have to make others feel low. To Make yourself feel good or maybe you just don't feel good about yourself at all. Maybe it's too many people here to compare yourself too and you don't add up. Either way seek help. Please.
I agree, @LexiLove25 , we should not be ashamed of our own accomplishments.
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I sit on the side and see what changes crash into each other. Sometimes it gets binge-worthy...
I feel like the less I interact with others the more good I am doing for them.
I try to lessen the isolation with social media, but even in that “space” I am withdrawing more and more.
At the moment the world is simply too much for me to connect to, especially with the people in it.
But I am also a primate that feels the need to connect with others.
Who I have learned can only be trusted to be selfish.
And often violent, or cruel.
But maybe not everyone?
Even though it has been everyone so far…
I mean, we are still killing children so that old men can have golden toilets…
@CharlesGrove there are still good people in the world. They will find you when your not looking. Isolation is lonely. I hope you find solitude.
@LexiLove25
My post was not in any way directed at you. The criticisms I stated refer to how it can come across as if not careful, which I don't feel is how you came across. If you took that personally then I assure you it wasn't meant that way. Not sure who you are referring to about low vibrations etc, but my comment is genuinely based on how I feel and is my opinion on why I personally don't have a need to post about my accomplishments but that often just being a kind human makes incremental changes one small bite at a time. Which is an important message because often people don't think anything they do matters because they feel like everything in life is so macro they forget about the mezzo and micro. Your responses seem a bit personal. I wasn't shaming your post just offering my personal thoughts about myself. The comments about low vibrations and non inclusivity etc over not being in alignment are not necessary. My comment may have been taken out of context, but your comments are decidedly personal. No need for that.
I use my power to manipulate the stock market so my buddies can get richer.
I apologize for my comments. It's not what your intent was it's about how others may take it. I am still learning that even in my own life. You may have not meant to offend me but the way you said it did. But then again you didn't say it, I read it and things can get miscommunicated through reading text. So I apologize. And what I said about low vibrations I said that because I have been reading through alot of the discussions and for this to be a healing space, or a place where people come to find comfort I read alot of mean, ugly, judgemental, not so comforting things.
Well, my approach to “change” is often deemed radical.
I believe that the legal age of 18 - give or take a few years depending on jurisdiction - is more-so for parents than children. It essentially relieves parents from having to take legal responsibility for the actions of their child. The parents are, therefore, emancipated, while the child - on the other hand - gets inducted into a merciless, heartless, and devouring system. Oftentimes, this fools the child into thinking that it has the fortitude to go in to and affect political, cultural, and religious systems. But, these systems - like every other system in this world - are just as merciless, heartless, and devouring as the legal/judicial system.
For these reasons, I personally do not look at 18 year olds as adults. Hell, I barely consider most 20-25 year olds adults, because people tend to look like their parents’ decisions well into their 20’s.
With that being said, I believe that the change many wish to see lies in the dark places they wish not to venture in to. It lies in confronting childhood traumas and unresolved issues with our parents, which incessantly manifest themselves in multifarious ways throughout our lives if left unresolved. For there is no way - NO FREAKING WAY - that our parents and or legal guardians have had complete control of our lives - directly and indirectly - for the first few DECADES, but once we turn 18 it becomes the fault of whoever is the sitting president — or black people’s fault — or white people’s fault — or immigrants fault — or men’s fault — or women’s fault — or fill in the blank. No! All of these things are - in my opinion - cop-outs. Because, in comparison to the paradigm shifting change that happens when a man challenges the darkness within his own soul, all of those other things become utterly meaningless and inconsequential.
@BR123 I agree. In MN we have youth services up to age 25. We work on bills where from 18-24 you don't get charged with certain crimes you get services. Right now it's still at the officers discretion but we do offer services for up to 25.
Everything you said I agree with. As when we are 18 most of us still don't realize the consequences to our actions and we are still reacting out of trauma, and alot of other things.
These days we are not even taught alot of the life skills we need to know. We are not getting help for things that we experienced that traumatized us. We are not fully aware of what it means to be an adult and have adult responsibilities. We do not know about credit. Or other things that will affect us in our life journey.
Everything you said is accurate for me. And most of the people I know. I'm still affected by things I did when I was just turning 18. Or things I did my whole life that I thought was normal that was absolutely not normal but I only knew what my family or people around me taught me or was doing. I have been in services since I was 11 years old and all of those places has never taught me what I would need when I was 18 and aging out of services etc. And the same goes for most of the people in my community. So "Radical" is correct getting at the root causes and intersectionality that creates the circumstances that we find ourselves in. And people affected the most( lived experience) need to be at the table with significant power in social justice movements because it provides firsthand knowledge and insights into the systematic issues leading to more effective, relevant, impactful, change creating more equity and justice while empowering our communities.
I believe if we use these five phrases daily, we could (help) heal all relationships.
Please Thank you You're Welcome I'm sorry I forgive you
It really is that simple. Try it this day!
They appear to be words. But they are vibrations. They have healing power.
@Dance_Culture Thank you for this! Will do!
It would be really nice in the forums if upon reading a post---that people took a second or two to breathe before immediately attacking! I seriously doubt that anyone (rare exceptions) submits a post with the intent intent to piss others off, to be hateful, and/or otherwise to be disrespectful. Many times if one just took the time before immediate responses-a better interpretation of what has been posted can be understood. Its true some posts can be better worded---but still not reason for disrespectful replies. For a forum striving to be welcome to all---it can be a hateful place on occasion.
@Dance_Culture---well said!
@dennis22554 I agree. I usually ask for clarification 3 times (unless it's someone with a history of problematic comments). Though when the person refuses to explain what they meant, then I consider it reasonable to assume it's as bad as it looks.
@LexiLove25 no need to apologize. You articulated your thoughts eloquently.
@BR123 Thank You! I appreciate you letting me know that. I felt really bad afterwards. 😑