Every girl's crazy bout a sharp dressed man
I pretty much just see people giving their honest feedback. Not sugar coating with cotton candy gloves, and not treating everything with the utmost validity despite how silly the premise is, does not constitute rudeness. All the offense for the OP when he hasn't even followed up to respond to the feedback and all.
If I thought a cuddle partner would give me better treatment or attention if I wore a suit, I would never meet with that person again.
@Comet85 Bingo! I agree with a previous poster—there might be some trolling afoot.
@mauvefox oh, I know! I meant more the photos are buried somewhere in my parents' storage so I have no way of getting copies of them currently 🤷🏻♀️ they may have been tossed at this point, sadly. I had a whole plastic tote of family photos to digitalize
I have had one person show up in a suit and I was genuinely confused.
I generally don’t recommend suits or hoodies to cuddle in. Most of my clients wear T-shirts. Would I treat them worse? no. Would I show concern for their comfort and offer them a loaner T-shirt? Yes
the first five minutes of cuddling and conversation are what tell me whether this is a person I am going to get along with or not. but it's hard to impress me. we are all just humans here down playing in the mud together. metaphorically speaking (although sometimes literally but not in cuddle sessions hah)
Only if the polished dress shoes and the tie stay on. ✨
Stop using AI to make altered pics of yourself 😅 please…I love earth 🪬
Also I recommend using DuckDuckGo for your browser instead of Google. We can do this!😎
@Mmmeow agreed. Like to get unbiased search results
lol. Although I don’t over think it. I enjoy when we both look comfy. I have had some cuddles where I see them after an event or work so it makes sense. but I think if you leave your home and you put on the suit to come cuddle, it just seems odd…. Unless that’s just your style and you feel most relaxed that way
What if someone shows up in an inflatable dinosaur costume? Does that give the impression they haven't bathed since the jurassic era.? Or would it just convey the fact that dinosaurs would still be around if they had just received more hugs? 🤭😆
I like the Riddler’s dinner suit. The color is subtle.
@mauvefox
OP said he feels he is treated better when he wears a suit. I took this to mean, he shows up feeling he has put his best foot forward, and people respond to that.
Reasonable people can disagree as to what OP’s words actually indicate. But I don’t need you to tell me what he “said”. I can read fine.
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@MonkeyNeedsAHug
Pros, do you treat clients in suits better than the ones in hoodies I always turn up in business attire to my sessions, and feel that pros tend to give more attention due to my attire. So pros, does the attire really impress you in any manner?
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Nothing in there about how he feels about himself. I know you said you can read fine, but I'm going to reasonably disagree with you. 🤷♀️
anyway, moving on.
And that should be the end of Mrs. Shiplacoff.
@trysdet i just wanna help save our planet!!
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Suits are passé. They aren’t a thing in a corporate world anymore. Higher ups now a days generally wear nice dark jeans, clean sneakers and some type of branded shirt.
This is an interesting question to ask, suits are not a proper thing to wear before cuddling anyway, the goal is comfort, our profession is based on vulnerability and emotional support. Suits are irrelevant. I am wondering what compelled you to think about this and ask, or why even bother trying to wear a suit.
Someone wearing a suit would make me wonder if I am living in a simulation….also confused about someones perception of themselves.
But to put it in perspective: It would be just as weird if I wore a gown before a cuddle session….someone might notice me more, but it still wouldn’t make sense. It might look good, but its random lol.
I second @trysdet comment about enjoying a good suit. But I always tell cuddlers during the phone call screening, please dress comfortably. It is my preference, so I haven’t experienced this yet. Someone wearing a suit to a cuddle, would make me feel weird, because it gives the implied meaning of viewing this as a date? I could be wrong, open to hearing anyone out.
But tl;dr No, I don’t care….but why are you wearing a suit…its not comfortable. Please just be comfortable, this is the space for it.
I'm a little confused. 🤔 Do you stay in business attire for the actual cuddle session?
Personally, I'd be thinking, "That looks sharp... but also wildly uncomfortable." 😅
And I'd most likely wonder a little about a client's mental state for showing up to a cuddle sesh wearing a suit in almost 100 degree weather 🫠🥵
More then anything... I agree about the possibility of trolling here 😝
@Comet85
Exactly!! Well said!!
As a pro, a client arriving in a suit would not make me treat them any better than someone arriving in a hoodie.
What matters to me is the person, communication, respect for boundaries and consent, and the connection during our session. I want my clients to know and truly feel they’re in a safe space where they can be themselves and not feel judged. That includes how they choose to dress, whether they dress up or dress down.
That said, I do think there can be some psychology behind what you mentioned, though. Many years ago (about 30 😅), I worked for a company with a professional dress code, even though we only interacted with customers by phone. Their belief was that the way we dress can affect how we feel, our confidence, and how we project ourselves.
So, it makes me wonder if what you’re noticing isn’t necessarily the suit itself, but how wearing it makes you feel. If it helps you feel more confident, comfortable, or present, that energy can naturally come through and affect the interaction.
As for me, show up in whatever makes you feel comfortable. From reading your post, I didn’t take it to imply that you cuddle in a suit, but even if you did, as long as you’re comfortable and it follows the TOS, my focus isn’t on your clothes, it’s on the real person wearing them.
@Ineedahugortwo that is quite possibly one of the kindest and most compassionate way to address this question. You are awesome!
If you’re comfortable, I’m happy. If you’re wearing a tuxedo… I have questions. 🤣
Piggy backing off of what others have stated previously I think it’s rather odd to show up to a cuddle session in a suit. And certainly it doesn’t make me want to cuddle you more or “better”. As far as sessions go wear something comfortable and make sure you’re clean and be respectful that last one will certainly be reciprocated respect goes a long way. Regarding what you wear in a photo again it really depends on what you are wearing the suite from an analysis perspective a few thoughts run through my head when I see someone wearing a suite: A: They feel good when they wear a suite, they look polished, and it boosts their confidence. B: They are putting their best foot forward and first impressions matter to them. C: They are someone who puts a lot of energy in to their job and it defines them. ( the suite is their personality). D They themselves believe that people perhaps look at them with less respect or recognition than they deserve or are trying to seek validation outside themselves due to their own insecurities or they look down on themselves so they are trying to project an image that commands respect.
It could be any or a combination of these things. Usually I just think on whatever outfits someone is wearing is: ( oh they did a good job coordinating). Granted the first thing I’m looking at if there is a photo at all is their eyes and their smile you can tell a lot about someone depending on how they choose to arrange their features. Consciously or not.
So the very first thing I do at a cuddle session is change into my cuddle clothes. My cuddle clothes and my street clothes are rarely the same thing. I've never shown up to a cuddle session in a suit. It's completely unnecessary. I usually show up in a button-down shirt and slacks, before I change into my cuddle clothes.