@Justjewels You will get in trouble for that; it's specifically against the rules. I suggest you read over your pro cuddler contract and also ask your pro cuddling questions in the Pros Only forum. You'll learn a lot about how to stay out of trouble, how to keep yourself safe and a lot of other useful information from other pros.
@a_cactus it happens all the time. Sometimes people use the block feature just to filter folks that won’t be a good fit out of their search so they don’t keep clicking their profile. Cause there isn’t a “hide” feature.
But in the forums if you were going to tag someone, you can click on their name as if you were looking at their profile and it will tell you if you’ve blocked them or they have blocked you. You can still participate in that thread. You just can’t talk directly to them.
Can mods IP ban? I would like to get myself banned so I dont have easy access to come back if I feel like it, feels like being on here is just hampering myself.
If someone sends you a message and requests a cuddle but has no photo, do you just ask? Is it no mandatory to at least have 1? I apologize if this is a dumb question. New and don’t remember seeing the answer. Thank you!
@Warmth_n_Smiles Yes, you just ask.
Face photos are only mandatory for pro cuddlers. Everyone else is free to put up anything or nothing. You'll see a lot of profiles with no photos at all. Those who are found to have stolen photos, photos of celebrities they're passing off as themselves, or AI generated photos generally get themselves into a bit of trouble over that.
What do you recommend if they don’t share any? I’d think proceed with caution or just decline?
Most people request/require a photo be provided in the first message/conversation, if the member doesn’t have one shown in their profile. I won’t meet anyone in person who hasn’t provided a current photo (that I can verify). This topic is discussed extensively in the Pros Only forum. Especially for new Pro Cuddlers, safety precautions are necessary so reading that section of the forum is important. Best of luck, be safe and I’m always happy to answer questions privately.
I will share and request photos once I know that I am leaning toward meeting up with this person. I won’t meet with anyone in person unless I’ve had a few photos that all look like the same person.
Anyone else experience profiles being deactivated shortly after they request a booking or am I just the lucky one?
@TattooSqueeze I've had that happen several times.
I have it happen all the time. I’m not a pro but people will reach out and before I can reply they’ve deleted their profile. I think people dip their toes and go running back to shore.
@TreasureHunted @mauvefox appreciate you both sharing your experience. I blocked them so they don't waste anymore of my time. I suspect they were going to break the rules and realized I'm not the one!
@Adragayle posted: "if someone communicates on the forums directly with another who has blocked them, it's considered circumventing the block which is not allowed and can lead to being banned."
@a_cactus posted: "Would you be warned if you started talking to someone in forums and you didn't know they blocked you?"
Nope, no notification is sent to your e-mail or pops up on your browser to alert you that anyone has even blocked you, let alone that you're tagging someone who has. A hole in the system... Frankly, even if anyone took the time to manually check every profile before tagging people, someone could block you before you click Post.
The only way to find out anyone has blocked you is to manually click on that specific profile, or if you have previously PM'd with them, and you happen to open that PM.
As mentioned, many people block as a means of filtering out users, because the site lacks a "don't show this person again" feature. (So if you don't want to continuously see search results of cuddlers that have a dog, or smoke, people have had to resort to blocking those users, despite lack of conflict.) It's a really lame work-around. It also results in, "Uh, why did someone block me if we never talked", "Oops, I forgot I blocked you", etc. Even Craigslist let's you remove a specific result from continuously appearing on your searches. 🙄
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Hello,
are we allowed to schedule a free 30 min consultation to decide what works best for the client for the appointment? And then once decided, we can go back to the site and do the booking?
@AuthenticLucy - Do the booking first which can be cancelled if the session doesn't take place. You aren't supposed to share contact info without a booking in place.
What guidance is available for client/enthusiasts on our obligations with regards to interacting with pending pros?
If we want to exchange contact info and connect with them, are they enthusiasts, pros, or do they have their own rules?
There is no booking interface. Can we exchange info and connect while either (a) planning to exchange no money… or (b) reporting the transaction when the pro is approved?
I was looking around and was unable to find any guidance or terms offered in the CSA, ToS, and FAQs for how client/enthusiasts are required to navigate interactions with pending pros. Is it okay to ask here?
@JojoGriff, I believe they should be forthcoming to you about their intention on becoming a pro and charging a fee if they are pending. Then, they should not exchange contacts with you until they are approved and can book you through the booking system.
If they want to cuddle as an enthusiast with you before they turn pro, I think they should complete that prior to applying to pro status.
@ProfHermes Thank you, I appreciate you taking the time to provide your feedback. To confirm then, to the best of your knowledge, the rules for interacting with pending Pros is simple:
Client/Enthusiasts are not allowed to cuddle or exchange contact info with pending Pros.
If those are the rules, it seems odd to me that they wouldn't be in writing somewhere... for the sake of clarity, could we get confirmation on that from a moderator?
Keep in mind as well: if they are still pending, they are not allowed to charge. So until they are fully approved, they are enthusiasts. If they try to charge, report them.
@Sheena123 Thanks for providing your input as well! But what I hear you saying is different... again to confirm, you're saying:
We are permitted to treat pending Pros as fellow enthusiastists. We can exchange info and cuddle, but no money may change hands.
I'm just trying to gain some clarity, because I haven't found our guidelines clearly spelled out anywhere. And to me, what you've provide is as clear and simple as what @ProfHermes provided.... but also quite different...
And anyone is welcome to share any additional info they've gathered in their time here, as we wait for a moderator to (hopefully) let us know what our specific guidance is regarding the requirements for how us client/enthusiasts should interact with pending pros...
@BlueIris can you provide any feedback on this one. 😁
@JojoGriff because they are just pending, and are not considered pros, it should be fine to send contact info back and forth because she’s not a pro. If no money is getting passed, I don’t see why you can’t exchange info and have a cuddle.
I’m just reiterating the whole “they cannot charge until they are fully accepted as a pro and have a pro badge on their profile” because I’ve heard way too many stories of people charging for cuddles while pending.
I was just merely reiterating and driving that fact in for more emphasis. That’s all.
If they are not a full-fledged pro they can’t ask for money—even if they are pending. Report them. They may not get banned but they will have to wear the Scarlet “S” on their clothing the rest of their days.
@Sheena123 Your reasoning and emphasis is understood, makes complete sense to me, and I am grateful. 🙏 But I have also heard the opposite from others, which is why I asked the question here... as much as I appreciate for all the guidance we have... and the safe space it has provided for our culture to be nurtured and embraced... I was kind of surprised to realize that for these forums vast breadth and depth on so many topics... that there was nothing definitive, that was readily accessible, on the status of... and guidance for interacting with... pending pros...
While the immediate conversation and situation which drove my interest has resolved itself, I would like to know, for future reference, what exactly my choices are if it comes up again... 🤔
@JojoGriff "I'm a pending pro so my fee just isn't on my profile yet" is a scam some people who have been declined from being pros will pull. The longest anyone goes between application and approval is one week. If it's been longer than a week since they said it, they were declined.
I've had several clients say that they messaged an enthusiast who would then send them a price list and say they were pending. That's completely against the rules. No money should be exchanged with enthusiasts. But yes, if it's an enthusiast you can exchange contact info. If it's a pro, you have to do a booking through the site first, and then we can exchange contact info with you in the conversation.
I’m a pro masquerading as an enthusiast. Don’t report me for refusing your money.
@Mark can you give your final answer here and give clarity for future questions like this so no one is left wondering of your policy?
A member who has applied to be a Pro is signalling that they are here to offer paid cuddling. I think that intent is strong enough that they shouldn't be considered an enthusiast in the interim while they await a decision.
They are allowed to make connections with prospective clients and discuss plans in anticipation of approval. However, we ask that they wait until their Pro account is active, then confirm any bookings through the booking panel before exchanging contact details and meeting up.
There hasn't been an official policy for this transition state, but internally we have taken a lenient approach with moderation in this area because we understand that this limbo stage can feel confusing.
@Mark Thank you for taking the time to not only provide clarity on this topic, but also explain the reasoning behind your position. And so the rules for interacting with pending Pros is simple:
Very grateful to you all the effort you put into creating and maintaining this amazing space for all of us. You've made the world a better place. 🙏
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