No luck on booking
What methods have you tried?
Keep trying. You seem like a nice guy. A few suggestions:
More tips below. Best of luck!
https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/forum/discussion/19613/how-to-get-started#latest
@letshang1 are you talking about booking with pros or enthusiasts? If you mean pros, you’re in SoCal, you shouldn’t have a problem so you just mean enthusiasts. In that case, I wish you luck.
I used to live in Pasadena. Plenty of cuddlers and pros in the area.
I wish you luck too but be advised there is an under current of judgement on this site. Despite everybody’s statements of being warm, welcoming and know the power of touch. Pros will see something and think, “never with him.” You will never know why.
@Seeker864 Your being married could be part of the problem. Age can also apply. Have realistic expectations. Try to imagine the pov of many (especially young) women on CC. Hope you have also read discussions here about age and marital status, there are a lot. Demographics matter for such intimate activities and - people get to choose the company they keep. 🤗
@LetsHang If you are talking about enthusiasts it's complicated and requires a lot of patience. If you can't book a sessions with a pro, then unfortunately you are doing something very wrong, but it fortunately it can be easily corrected. Feel free to PM me a few of the conversations you sent out if in doubt
Then they should be more specific of who they want to cuddle with. When a profile says “everyone” it should mean just that. You want a friend young stud to pay you just to cuddle. Say so. This “I create a stress free environment because I am a cuddle therapist. Is actually not true. Some profiles sound very close to being an escort but without the sex. Be honest in your profile.
@letshang1 if you are speaking about enthusiast, that could be one of the reasons you're having issues. Enthusiast are not for booking. You're not hiring them and a lot of them have complained in the forms about being treated this way.
If you are talking about pros, then ask them why they are not booking you since that is what they are here for.
@Seeker864 That "everyone" comes with a caveat. Some people who try to hire pros make it clear or imply that they are looking for something more than platonic. A pro is not going to agree to cuddle with someone like that. Nor are they required to book with someone who they feel threatened by or that they feel might violate their boundaries. To imply that somehow pros are only interested in "young studs" is insulting, since this is purely platonic and not about getting with someone you are physically attracted to.
@Seeker864
It is true, with genuine-hearted Pro's. It sounds like you may have been coming across the get-rich-quick type of Pro, which is unfortunate. But there are wonderful, caring, highly-educated Pro's out there who are absolutely worth sticking around for.
"Some profiles sound very close to being an escort but without the sex. "
Yes, they are providing companionship, AKA rent-a-friend. Also, some of them actually are escorts and sex workers. If you have reason to believe the latter, report them.
"Pros will see something and think, “never with him.” You will never know why."
What happens when you ask them why? Are these people who don't respond to you at all, or who ghost you, mid-cuddle planning? Also, are you positive they are Pro's, because as I mentioned in the other thread, Pro's and enthusiasts are completely different.
Lastly, be aware that Pro's must be "accepting of all races, ages, genders, and sexual orientations." If you believe discrimination on any of these points is occurring, report the person. It is true that Pro's may accept or deny clients at will - this typically surrounds safety concerns or doubts about a client's platonic intentions. But discrimination is a separate, legal matter.
~ Sunset Snuggles
🦄 Enthusiast 🏞 Travel Fiend 🐘 Animal Lover
So many times here, someone will complain that they can’t get what they want, what they think they’re entitled to, complaining that they can’t control someone else and decide what another person “should” do for them. How on earth have you gotten to your current age without recognizing your (our) tiny place on this planet?
How on earth have you gotten to your current age without recognizing your (our) tiny place on this planet?
@carrieanne Willful ignorance is probably the answer. Or a lack of empathy.
Of course @BoomerSpooner That doesn’t forgive it. It was a rhetorical question. It’s somewhat human nature but at least some are evolved enough to recognize that way of thinking and acknowledge that it’s useless and counterproductive.
And you know it’s also human nature to subconsciously believe the world revolves around you.
Do y’all ever feel like every thread are all the same people saying the same things?
@Morpheus Yeah I do
My hot take is that some of these threads and posts are similar.
lol same whining, same explaining all day long.
@WriterGF I was not talking about those who maybe a threat or those who really want sex. I am talking about the pro who really has an age range in mind and I am sure a particular look. I don’t think my comment was insulting at all but realistic. My point is if in all reality you have requirements, age for example, say so. Some do. Asking for a picture in advance may be valid for a public cuddle. But the pic for host or guest is one of judgment of looks. In terms of some of the pros calling themselves “therapists,” they should act on a need a secret set of requirements. After all, they are getting paid and it is only an hour.
@letshang1 and @Seeker864
Both of you have zero karma......and when I advise/mentor pro cuddlers, especially when they are just starting out, I always recommend not scheduling with someone lacking karma. One of the best parts of CC is the karma piece, even though there are certainly challenging aspects of it too. However, most pros feel a little more comfortable scheduling with someone who has some experience on this site. They can also contact one of the pros who reviewed one of the potential clients to further vet them.....allowing them to feel more comfortable.
I also recommend to pros who are considering being the first to schedule with a client that they offer a free 5-10 minute video call to get a sense of their energy, smile, voice, etc. That can also help to feel more safe in scheduling.
And @carrieanne, as to your comment to @Seeker864 regarding him being older and married.....yes, that could factor in, but I think the lack of karma is more significant. I happen to be older and married too......and have no problem securing a cuddling session. Sure, over the years there have been some pros who don't get back to me, and it could be due to my age and status, but for the most part, I get responses, and even enthusiasm, from most who I contact.....for which I am very grateful
@Seeker864 Im.kinda sorta trying to take a break from the foe room but just chiming in to let you know that the silent majority agrees with you 100%. and just for s&gs I will also agree with what other conveniently pretend you said or meant to say.
The OP hasn’t replied back confirming whether he’s trying to sees pros or enthusiasts. My assumption is that he’s talking about enthusiasts and it’s well known among the men on this site despite what any female wants to say, it takes an act of god to get a session with an enthusiast. As far as pros, I’ve never had an issue getting sessions with pros and I’m older and married. The sample size of these boards who say they won’t see older men or married men is very small. It’s my personal option and experience that pros will see just about anyone so long as they’re polite and approach them in a way they deem as proper.
@Seeker864 posted: "Asking for a picture in advance may be valid for a public cuddle. But the pic for host or guest is one of judgment of looks."
This is entirely an assumption on your part, and almost entirely incorrect. People ask for a picture for safety reasons. It is, in fact, especially vital when heading into a private cuddle. The picture isn't about judging your looks, it's about having identifiable information.
You have been on this site since July of 2022, and it seems that in nearly two years, you haven't spent much time reading these message boards. They are invaluable in understanding how this community works, and why people do the things they do. Did you know that many of us send the picture and the details of our cuddle plans to a safety contact? That is why we ask for pictures.
beau kiss you couldn’t be more wrong. I have karma, in fact I have a two karma garage. How about the word chemistry. We used it in the olden days. It meant that two strangers could mesh together after talking and getting to know each other. Sorely lacking here and obviously lacking in your knowledge. Your judgement of me and Carrie Anne is baseless because you don’t even know us.
Sorry about the misnaming of you. Spellcheck beat me to it
Silent majority? Sounds like a clique gang
Same poops, different day
Maybe I’m reading it all wrong but it seems like @beaubliss was being polite and trying to be helpful
Or shoud we call them the silenced majority?