any way i can improve my odds of matching?

[Deleted User]allenangel (deleted user)

this is yet another of many social sites/apps i've joined by now

don't mean to complain, but i've been here for about half a year now with no matches and hardly any engagement from anyone. genuinely asking, is there anything i can do to improve that? if not i'll probably just delete at this point tbh

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  • edited December 2025

    I'm sorry you're having a hard time finding a cuddle partner. It really does take a lot of work to find a potential partner. I can attest to that!
    Are you looking for an Enthusiast or Pro? The way to approach each one is a little different so it just depends.

  • [Deleted User]allenangel (deleted user)
    edited December 2025

    enthusiasts are just regular users like myself that aren't pro, right? if so then that's who i'd be looking for, and thanks for understanding and commenting. i appreciate it. i hope you find one too

  • Yes, enthusiasts are cuddlers that aren't paid. I'm an Enthusiast and the best way to approach would be to read the person's profile comment on something that you might have in common and ask them a question to get to know them. Granted a lot of enthusiasts may not answer but if you send out a thoughtful message to a few you might be able to get a response & conversation going.

  • [Deleted User]allenangel (deleted user)

    that's actually something i've tried many times but to no avail.

  • Your profile looks fine to me, @allenangel . It may be more just down to timing and/or lack of availability in your area 🤷🏻‍♀️

    I definitely recommend trying to attend local events or any of the meet & greets that are feasible. Networking works far more successfully than sending cold-call messages. Plus you just get to make more friends with a common interest!

    If you can afford it, booking some pro sessions to build up karma and get comfortable can go a long way for some. Some enthusiasts may be wary of someone without any karma as you're essentially a giant unknown risk-wise.

    You can also try seeking cuddle partners who are further away. Some are willing to travel a bit for quality snuggles! Plus, a lot of people will list their location as the nearest metro area for safety/privacy purposes, but they may actually be far closer to you.

    Interacting in the forums more can help get you connections as well.

  • I read your profile too and it is sincere. It might simply be the fact that you cannot host.

    Have you had the opportunity for a 1st meet with cuddlers? Or ppl are just not responding to your profile?

    Unfortunately, you need to be very diligent. Try logging in several times a day every day and use the filters ( ex: within a 20 mile radius) to better match with ppl near you. Not everyone logs on at the same time so it might increase your chances if you do it more frequently.

  • Now matching in cuddling when you start out

  • @allenangel - Your profile is really nice, though I’d either crop or remove the photo in the public bathroom. Do you have one of yourself in the NASA shirt elsewhere? Great shirt, but not such an ideal location.

    Enthusiasts can be hard to book. They constantly get inundated with messages, even more so than pros. Maybe include that you could do public if it’s feasible?

    Good luck! You’ve got this!!

  • [Deleted User]Henry1371 (deleted user)

    Don't be discouraged my friend! It's not easy to find an enthusiast to cuddle with but @CuddleDuncan 's threads make for some great advice. Don't give up too easily and good things can happen!

  • I guess he got impatient. Deleted profile. It definitely takes time.

  • I think most guys who join the site don’t want to be told that when they join the site and they want to find someone to cuddle with right away, odds are they’re going to have to pay for it.

  • [Deleted User]Henry1371 (deleted user)

    I met a female enthusiast right after she joined the site and she went pro very quickly. She saw all the messages she was getting and figured if the demand was there she would make money for it. That might be a factor as to why there are so few female enthusiasts available.

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