Are there valid reasons not to post a picture of oneself?

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  • edited February 2020

    @takestwo
    Personally I don’t generally have the time to spend, nor do I feel it’s much safer for me. Especially considering I have Public photos... they would know what I looked like, and I would have no clue who they were. I can think of dozens of different scenarios, in which I end up meeting no one (best case) - or where end up getting grabbed by several people and thrown into the back of a van on the way back to my car.

    For me - not practical or safe. I’m not going to potentially risk my life because a cuddle bud does trust me, while simultaneously putting all my trust in their hands.

    If both parties were anonymous, that may be a different story... but I’m not risking my safety so that a cuddle bud doesn’t have to risk sideways looks at work.

  • [Deleted User]takestwo (deleted user)

    I understand, but there must be some public places that are completely safe, like a mall. You could park anywhere and come in any of the entries to meet in say the food court. BTW, its not sideways looks, its losing your job and being blackballed from further employment in your field - it is totally real.

  • agree to disagree. Good luck to any legit truely anonymous cuddler in finding and bonding with a quality person willing to take such a huge one sided risk.

  • @saramajara - even if someone has a photo, how do you know it's really them?

  • If you’re meeting publicly and the person is obviously not the person in the photo, you get the hell out lol

  • @UKGuy
    So true about inaccurate photos, I bet you don't actually have long auburn hair.

  • I would echo that it's a red flag if someone is unwilling or reticent to send their picture as the next step. I won't send a picture until someone has passed some of my other screening methods but I will send it once we're moving toward meeting. I would find it super weird if someone was unwilling to do that.

  • I get not meeting in private without having seen the person first. Why not just meet in public prior to deciding whether or not to meet in private in the future?

    This is something I have done in the past when I first began. Whether I request this when meeting someone new has much to do with how comfortable I feel during conversation and yes, after photos have been exchanged. In fact, I do not believe that I would agree to meet someone if I had no idea of her appearance. But I have met a number in private when first meeting without any concern.

  • edited February 2020

    Privacy in a public forum is top priority right? Nothing wrong with that. Share what you feel comfortable with sharing. Of course, others have the right to feel admirable towards it or not. :)

  • edited February 2020

    @UKGuy
    Like @Sheena123 said, if the person in the photo doesn’t match the person I meet. And then I get the hell out.

  • Yup. Deception isn't a good sign.

  • [Deleted User]creedhands (deleted user)

    @littermate if we are supposed to look like our photo in person, I'm pretty sure I would recognize you across a crowded room. Those skinny legs...

  • edited February 2020

    Which go nicely with the deep dark death in my eyes. Bwahahaha.

  • There's no way I would meet up with anyone who refused to share a photo. I agree that it's adding unnecessary risk to an already potentially risky situation.
    I'm heavily on the side of there being no legitimate reason to not share a photo. Whether it's on your profile or in your first message to someone.

  • People are getting off topic , which is ( a valid reason for not displaying a picture on profile) if someone refuses to share a picture via mail, msg , or txt ?? That's a completely different topic !!
    Privacy on a public forum 🤔🤔 yes !! I bet nobody , (other than the Pros i have cuddle with ) know what i actually look like and never will, unless they request a picture of myself and that will never be a problem for me to share privately 🤷‍♂️

  • Phone camera may be bad or not work

  • If I message a cuddler and she message me back, then I will send a picture. Some never ask for a picture. But I think that all professional cuddlers that charge a fee should post a picture of themselves.

  • @smoothest I think it’s an actual rule for us pro cuddlers. We have to absolutely have a pic of ourselves in our profile.

  • Ok, but I think I saw a few with no face pictures

  • [Deleted User]takestwo (deleted user)

    How does having a picture of someone, even once you see it matches the person you meet, guarantee your safety in any way?

  • @takestwo I agree with the thought how does it" guarantee your safety in any way?" I don't think there are any guarantees on meeting someone first time. However matching pictures to the person you meet is more of a credibility factor than guarantee. They passed one credibility example.

  • I don’t post my pic because as a proctologist once said, “Once you have seen one you’ve seen them all.”

  • @takestwo - some fake (that is, probably non-platonic) profiles have been uncovered by googling their photos, which were stolen from other social media. They may not have been dangerous as such, but it would surely have been surprising for the cuddler to be offered anything other than platonic cuddles.

  • I thought the default picture meant I had to go to a session wearing a pale blue onesie.

  • @BashfulLoner Que lo que haha if you’re Dominican 😁 Also, I have to agree with @funnycuddles it’s our decision to post or not post. There is a consequence of not posting though lol you get a lot less attention. Honestly, I wasn’t expecting attention at all. I was planning on uploading my picture in the next couple of weeks until I was ready to really start cuddling. I received a lot of messages despite not having a picture up. I was shocked. I guess the guys around here like the mystery 🤷🏽‍♀️

  • @LeahHxoxo "I guess the guys around here like the mystery"

    Honestly they are probably annoyed that you have no pic. But what they like is that you're a woman. In most regions there are roughly 10 times as many non-pro men as non-pro women. Men can't afford to be choosy on this site.

  • Imagine a man strolling through a women's prison, holding a stack of pardons signed by the state governer, needing only the inmate's name to be added.

    That's CC in reverse. 😀

  • I can respect the privacy aspect of not having a photo on your profile, but I will always require a clear picture of someone that shows their face before I meet them.

    What I really don't get is the fact that people nowadays use so many different filters and edit their pictures way too much.

  • I don't on the off chance my grown children or someone they know would see. Also, I don't want to be pursued because of my looks. That is the antithesis of what we are here for.

  • @takestwo
    Yes, see this TED talk.

    Noelle Martin: Online predators spread fake porn of me. Here's how I fought back

    https://www.ted.com/talks/noelle_martin_online_predators_spread_fake_porn_of_me_here_s_how_i_fought_back

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