@xandriarain Oh man, it makes it even worse that you already told him you were insulted by it, but he continued saying it because he thought it was okay. I'm sorry his remark cut so deep. I hope you're feeling better now.
There's always so much cultural pressure on women (especially young women) to look a certain way. It should be common sense that their appearance is never something to make offhanded comments about unless it's an explicit compliment. Especially weight. Holy crap.
@squeakytoy prob one of those why wont people return my messages and why can't I find someone to cuddle me for free and why do I give off red flags when I'm clearly a great guy types 🙄
@xandriarain Put your foot down with this guy. I realize business has been slow for you for a couple of weeks and losing clients is the last thing you need right now but absolutely no amount of money is worth the toll his comments are taking on your mental health.
Remember , not everyone shares this guy's sentiment. There are way more cuddlers here who appreciate some extra body weight. It's more cozy and often puts them at ease for their own extra weight and makes them feel less insecure.
Please don't let this guy get to you. It'ss not ok and the best way to lose 100+ pounds is to send this guy packing if he can't get his unsolicited commentary under control.
@xandriarain That guy is unworthy of being anywhere near you. I admire you for doing things to continually improve yourself and the experience you offer. Continue to be you and the h--l with the shallow people.
@xandriarain here’s hoping that this person is on the threads & reading your comments, they probably have zero idea how you really feel (or how they made you feel) & if this person is not on the threads or part of this community than tell them straight up, or consider not seeing this person again, the fact that they already done this more than once, even after you voiced your thoughts the 1st time means eventually they’ll do it again (either because they really don’t get it or want to have emotional control)
Thank you for your support @Envie, @squeakytoy, @pmvines, @Mmart and @cuddles_ndream. I am feeling better now. I am going to let this client know that I am not going to see him anymore.
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@xandriarain You poor thing! You are providing comfort to people in need, and this jackass insults you. You should tell him exactly how you feel, and why you are cutting him off. It will make him think twice before opening his mouth again.
No cuddle pro should fear losing male customers due to age or weight. No man in history has ever refused to cuddle a woman simply because there is a little bit more of her to cuddle. So, you don’t have anything to worry about.
Quality matters! Most men would rather cuddle a 50 yr old Elizabeth Taylor than a 20 yr old Miley Cyrus.
@pmvines This is very likely
And @xandriarain, I'm so glad to hear you won't be seeing that dude again. Good on you for protecting your emotional well-being.
@xandriarain sweet girl, we need to talk. You need to STOP THIS SHIT TALKING TO YOURSELF RIGHT NOW. Those comments were no reflection on you but on the person who made them. F*ck him and the a$$hat horse he rode in on.
And yes what @pmvines and @Gallowglass said. Talking about your shape is overtly sexualizing the experience. As you noted, I would never tell my massage therapist she was too big or chubby (she is and that women can RUB ME lol). As long as you've showered and brushed your teeth, you're good to go. It seems to me like his culture may also "value" emotionally abusing women... red flag and dump him.
PS, I was so incensed I did not read all the posts before commenting. YES @Envie! And @xandriarain good for you for dumping him--don't let him sway you and don't look back.