What makes a good enthusiast host inviting a pro to a hotel?

myeyesmyeyes
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What makes a good host? Particularly, if the host is an enthusiast inviting a pro to a hotel for a long cuddle session that is 3 to 4 hours?
Of course you take care of payment up front. Do you bring refreshments like water, snacks etc..? How do you handle music? What other etiquette things do you recommend?

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  • ImmersedwarmthImmersedwarmth

    @myeyes I typically cuddle enthusiasts, but have cuddled pros. I've never had to pay up front or even send a deposit, but that is between you and the pro. Most of the time I've hosted and got a nice hotel room. I bring bottled water, have nice "spa instrumental" music playing in the background, and for extended cuddles (4 hours or more) I offer to bring a meal (usually a prepackaged salad of her choice from my local grocery store). Sometimes I have energy/granola bars available. I also ask if she would like ice available.

  • Sheena123Sheena123

    For me, if I’m going to a Cuddlers hotel for a cuddle and I’ve never met them before, I like them to meet me in the lobby first. And until I really get to know my cuddlers, I never accept food and water for safety reasons. I usually bring my own water and my own projector and lights and music. In terms of etiquette that I appreciate with my cuddlers, just do whatever makes them feel safe. That’s number one. For cuddlers I have that I’ve gotten close with, at that point I feel comfortable accepting snackies and a drink. When some of my cuddlers are coming to me, they will bring me an iced cap. Each person is different so just have a conversation with them and ask.
    It’s sweet of you to want to extend your kindness to pros 😄😄😄

  • pmvinespmvines

    I require dinner theater,.preferably finger foods and a period piece about 1800s Berlin.

  • AdentoAdento
    edited May 2025

    I never thought to bring refreshments! That's something I'll do for next time. (obvs sealed package kind) I personally don't eat right before because I don't want to be dealing with all the digestion related stuff. (I don't want to spend a chunk of our session in the bathroom LOL)

    • try to get a nice hotel. Nobody wants to be in a dirty motel.
    • book it at least an hour before the session to minimize friction. (I already know where the room is, where the amenities are, and how to get in. I should be there waiting for them.)
    • Bring your dental care
    • dayuse/resortpass at your own risk! My first and only time was a success, and I got a wonderful Tampa bay view for half price but... watching all the hotels fill up the day of your session is a nail-biting experience. I loved the room, I would not do it again, the stress was real. You can pay for early check in but the best thing to do is just avoid sessions after 11 and before 3.

    The pros I had my session with played their own music which was nice. I think it's polite to ask if they rather do that. Some might use playlists as a way to set a timer that's less abrupt than an alarm.

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    Being you and treating your partner how you want to be treated is the golden rule. I wouldn’t assume anything extra though. Snacks are appreciated by most people but for someone on a diet it may cause them anxiety to refuse because let’s face it—weight loss whether it’s for health or appearances is not easy and many people internalize their frustrations with this issue and can lead to anger and self-loathing. So communication and consent are vital. Some people like projection lights but for some it might be a distraction or irritation. So ask EACH partner what they want in advance. It could save each of you embarrassment and awkwardness.

  • biancalovecraftbiancalovecraft

    Greet them in the lobby so they don't have to wander awkwardly searching for you and knock on the wrong door like somebody 🤦‍♂️😅

  • pmvinespmvines

    @biancalovecraft

    Or, er, wander at wrong hotel 😬 ✋

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    @biancalovecraft I wander quite a bit and it’s never my cuddle partner’s fault.

  • ImmersedwarmthImmersedwarmth

    @biancalovecraft I had a pro get lost in the hotel's parking garage. I told her just to stay where she was and I'd come find her. 😊

  • myeyesmyeyes

    @biancalovecraft great idea regarding lobby. Very classy!
    @Immersedwarmth paying up front is a requirement of the website terms.

  • ImmersedwarmthImmersedwarmth
    edited May 2025

    @myeyes Then someone needs to inform the pros I've cuddled with, because I've never paid up front. Ever. It's always been at the conclusion of our cuddle. I'll check that out. It would be good to know.

  • penguin34penguin34

    It's a very interesting point, but I have had way too many people disappear without paying. Therefore I am now very strict about payment at the beginning of the season, get it out the way, then I can relax 😄

  • AdentoAdento
    edited May 2025

    I like to pay up front personally.

    I don’t like carrying wads of cash around and I’m always nervous about bank fraud triggers, so if there’s an issue I don’t want someone to think I’m trying to get a freebie.

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod
    edited May 2025

    Cuddle sessions, particularly with somebody new, should be paid up front. Clients should offer payment after the initial introductions and settling in, and before moving towards cuddles.

    Clients must be squeaky clean from head to toe. If necessary use the room facilities to shower and change. Modest use of deodorant is very strongly encouraged: aftershave or cologne is forbidden without explicit permission from the professional. Similarly smoking or vaping. And no drink or drugs, obviously.

    Arrive at the hotel in good time, check in, inspect and prepare the room. Text the professional that all is well, and give the room number. It is usual to meet in the lobby. The hotel does not care what you do in the room providing you don't bother other guests, don't damage anything, and don't sneak in an extra guest overnight.

    Sealed water for the professional is a nice idea in areas with crappy tap water, just in case they need it. Anything more should be discussed in advance.

    Assuming you are a man meeting a woman professional, position yourself such that the professional is always between you and the door, i.e. you are not between her and the door. (I used to believe that this point was too basic and obvious to be worth mentioning, but I've been on this website long enough to have discovered that it is.)

    Offer use of the bathroom to the professional. If anybody needs to get changed it should be done in there with the door locked.

    If room service or the like is ordered, it is all for the account of the client. Similarly the minibar.

    At the end, ask the professional if they would prefer to say goodbye in the room or would they like you to walk them to the lobby. In that case, return to the room to tidy up before checking out. In any event, make sure that the professional's departure is unobserved by you: you should not know which direction they take. If there is a risk of you walking out together, announce your departure plan and method clearly and early. This is to ensure that there is no suspicion that you are trying to follow them.

    Professionals are thinking about their own safety the whole time they are with you. You should be thinking about it too. You should also be thinking about your own safety. When two strangers meet in a hotel room there is a risk to both parties, but when it's a mixed sex meeting the balance of risk lies with the woman.

    A thank you text that evening or the next day is not required, but it is nice.

    These threads may also be helpful:

    Relevant to the previous stage:

  • ImmersedwarmthImmersedwarmth

    @myeyes I went back and looked at the Client Agreement and right you are, payment prior to, or at the very start of, a cuddle is required. As I said, no pro with whom I have cuddled has mentioned this. I totally support a pro insisting on this on their profile, and I understand why they would, but I did not realize it was in the actual be agreement. It's something I'll have to consider in the future. Might be a deal breaker for me. I can think of no other service that I have personally is used that requires full payment before service rendered. Again, I understand the reason for it - to protect the pro - but it leaves me vulnerable. Hmmmm 🤔 Interesting.

  • disneysamuraidisneysamurai
    edited May 2025

    It really comes down to who I’m cuddling with. When I host at my place or at a hotel when traveling, I always like to ask ahead of time if they want me to get anything like snacks or drinks. Some pros are fine with just water or they bring their own tea to brew and others like me to get things like juice, spicy Doritos, or even airheads. Last cuddle I did, we enjoyed a homemade charcuterie board. I don’t do music that often but sometimes I’ll play generic spa music on my phone especially to block out outside noise. Beyond that, really depends on the flow of the session.

  • Sapio8469Sapio8469

    This is such a thoughtful inquiry. I can tell you the session is SOOOOO good when the professional feels their comfort is important. I know the site states payment at onset. I’ve never requested payment up front. I don’t want the session to feel transactional. It’s an element, but there’s so much more to the session. There’s no specific rule of thumb, but I can tell you, for me, the offer is very much appreciated!!

    Happy Cuddling!

  • ImmersedwarmthImmersedwarmth

    @Sapio8469 yes, I believe that is why the pros with whom I have cuddled did not ask for payment prior to the cuddle. I actually appreciated that for the very reason you noted - to help it at least FEEL less transactional. By the time we actually cuddle, there has been a lot of communication, so they feel comfortable with me, even at the first cuddle.

  • AdentoAdento
    edited May 2025

    I wonder, what importance is the quality of the room to most pros?
    hypothetical tradeoff: fewer hours in a more luxurious room, or more hours in a regular room.

  • btc13btc13

    The room should be safe, comfortable, and clean. Even if the pro doesn't say anything, I do not want anything about the room to be distracting from the relaxation of the cuddle for either of us. I don't know what area you are from, but those standards are typically in the $125-$175 range in my area for a decent quality chain (Hilton, Marriott) with an 8+ guest rating.

    And what you pay for the hotel changes nothing about what you pay the cuddler, so if the cost of the cuddler's time is $100/hr, that wouldn't change if you get a $150 room or a $300 room. It's just up to you to figure out your budget accordingly.

  • AdentoAdento

    @btc13 You misunderstood. I'll simplify the proposition to make it easier to read

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel
    edited May 2025

    @Adento Yes, some pros would barter hours for the room if it had spa amenities as well. Just ask a pro, they are human too and some will wheel and deal but not all.

    I mean I was at a resort hotel in Florida (I deal with a lot of resorts on my job) and they had a spa and massage room on site that the pro knew about. I put a massage and pedicure on my room and got a three hour session for the cost of one and she received the princess treatment.

  • AdentoAdento

    @TheFunCartel that sounds nice haha! great job for this kind of thing.

    I don’t want to barter, but like… I guess I’m curious how many appreciate a luxurious experience vs just having more time.

    I live in FL. There are plenty nice hotels near me. I default to hyatt because all of them have been nice for me. Recently though, I hosted at a nicer one and the pro seemed to appreciate the view a lot. I was thinking of whether it was worth it to have a nice resort or if it’s better off saving that extra on more/longer sessions later on 😆

  • myeyesmyeyes

    @adento I feel the resorts charge too much for the extra resort fee for things like the gymn and pool which you're not going to use.
    I've used dayuse.com which give some flexibility and you can find great discounts on luxury hotels. Nice and clean are key.

  • _marC_marC

    Thanks for thr tips cuddleduncan! A lot of those I had never thought of

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