I had a guy recently ask me if I wanted to "Netflix and chill". I don't think he realized what that term is code for. π I figured I'd write out what pros (and I assume amateurs too) generally look for in conversation before booking a session. A lot of the time what can be misperceived as rejection is just us protecting ourselves when someone's intentions aren't clear. I respond to almost everyone but when I don't respond to someone it's typically because: 1. They have either bad karma or no karma. No karma isn't necessarily a deal breaker but it is more of a risk. I'll still cuddle with someone who doesn't have karma as long as I feel it's safe to do so. 2. They message in the middle of the night for last minute sessions. I don't know if other pros feel the same way that I do about this but I usually see this as a red flag that someone is looking for a hooker for a quickie. 3. Their profile says something along the lines of "Single, looking to meet women" or anything else that would give a pro the impression that they think this is either a dating site or an escort site. 4. No introduction. I've had people just send me random requests. It kind of goes back to number 2 where these to me seem like someone's just looking for a quick hook up as opposed to platonic cuddling. I've done last minute sessions before on occasion. That's not the issue. Just simply message and say "hey, nice to meet you, can I book a cuddle session with you?" That's it. There's no need to over think it. Most of us pros are understanding. We know that men on here can be shy. Some men are completely new to this. And we're here to guide you for those that aren't familiar with how all of this works. But at least just send a casual introduction first and then we can go over availability, location, etc. I can't speak for every pro but I'd say most of us are pretty laid back and easy going so there's no need to be shy. 5. Prostitutes and their clients typically use code words such as "open minded". If I see this on someone's profile, I'm cautious. 6. And of course there's the obvious ones such as asking us what we're willing to wear right off the bat or anything else that gives off the impression that you're looking for something sexual or romantic. 7. Being pushy and impatient. I usually check messages on here a few times a day but if someone is getting really pushy and impatient because I didn't respond five minutes after they messaged me that kind of gives off "I'm going to turn you into a skin lamp shade" vibes depending on the severity of it
β¨β¨β¨β¨β¨β¨β¨β¨β¨β¨β¨β¨β¨β¨β¨β¨β¨β¨β¨β¨Am I missing anything? Anyone want to add to this? Over all I would say most pros are friendly, empathetic, and laid back. I feel like that comes naturally with a job like this. You have to be extroverted and genuinely enjoy talking to people and getting to know people and cuddling to be completely successful here. We just also have to protect ourselves. I live in Sacramento and trafficking is huge here so as a pro cuddler I definitely have to be mindful when meeting new people especially if they don't have karma.