Does a cuddle buddy cure insomnia?

cuddling-in-bedJoni Reene from Opposing Views has written an article on the degradation of her health as a result of lack of touch.

She was fortunate enough to know a friend who she could approach for pressure-free intimacy. It was only after she got herself a cuddle buddy that her insomnia was cured and general well-being improved.

An opportunity arose for a guy friend to come over that evening. I made sure we snuggled for an hour, just chatting about our day. I thought, “I’m going to sleep well tonight!” and voilà. For the first time in three months, sleep encompassed me the moment I lay down, and I awoke refreshed. I did not have a desire for sexual relations with my new snuggle buddy, and made that clear. So the space was clear for us to comfort each other with no other agendas. The next day, we watched a movie and cuddled. I felt fantastic for weeks.

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Survey reveals America’s most cuddle-friendly states

Nevada has the highest demand in the US for no-strings-attached intimacy, according to a survey by, which came out of beta today in the United States. West Virginia claimed second place, while Maine proved to be the state least in need of affection, at 94% below America’s average.

Over a period of six months, monitored 300 visitors from each US state to determine their average time spent browsing for a cuddle buddy. The results from each state were then compared to the national average.

Although some regions are clearly more interested in a cuddle buddy than others, there are certain scenarios that lead to this desire that are universal. One example is a difficult relationship break-up, which can leave people feeling desperate for affection and in a mentally vulnerable state. Our website helps to prevent unhealthy rebounds by essentially providing relationship rehab.

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cuddleAs we prepare for our official launch, we’d like to briefly talk about our audience and what we’ve learnt so far.

A social networking website for cuddle buddies is admittedly an unusual concept and therefore we essentially went in blind with this project with very little understanding of exactly who we should be targeting as potential users.

In our beta period, which is soon coming to a close, we’ve noticed three leading scenarios that have caused people to take an interest in our free networking service.

Relationship Rehab
Have you ever had a difficult break-up? It often leaves you craving affection and intimacy. We believe that one significant element of this heartbreak is oxytocin withdrawal. Oxytocin, also known as the ‘cuddle hormone’, is a hormone released into the body which creates a natural high – its release triggered by tender touch. If you’ve been enjoying a close long-term relationship with someone, your body comes to expect its regular dose of oxytocin.

When a break-up occurs, that frequent oxytocin release comes to a halt. Depending on how affectionate your relationship was, this can cause a serious shock to your system. Oxytocin withdrawal increases the feeling of post break-up loneliness and leaves you feeling desperate for that missing warmth. It’s this emotional impact that can lead to unhealthy rebound relationships as one urgently searches to fill the void without a clear head.

We’ve noticed that many sensible people in this scenario are seeking cuddle buddies to help deal with that sudden lack of oxytocin. We’re very pleased to provide a platform for this situation whilst simultaneously preventing unhealthy rebound relationships.

Choice of Singledom
Many people have joined because they are not ready for a relationship. These people have consciously chosen to live the single life while it suits their lifestyle – but that hasn’t changed their innate need for affection. This is where we happily step in.

Always on the move
Our website isn’t just attracting singles. We were initially surprised to see a significant number of joinees who are in a relationship. We then discovered that many of these members had jobs requiring frequent travelling around the country. This meant they were geographically prevented from getting the needed affection and intimacy from their partner. Our website has given these people the tools to contact cuddle buddies in the regions in which they are intending to travel so they can organise a cuddle while they’re there.

At, we can’t wait to find out more about our audience and the reasons behind their interest in our service. Make sure you let us know your story on our Facebook and Twitter pages.

Cuddle hormone can make you angry

New research shows that oxytocin, the hormone that makes us feel good from cuddling, has a darker side.
Couple fighting
Andrew Kemp of the University of Sydney who co-wrote a paper in Current Directions in Psychological Science with colleague Adam Guastella, has discovered that oxytocin can actually promote negative emotions.

They found that oxytocin can increase gloating, envy and even anger. Salespeople may have to think twice now before spraying oxytocin on themselves in the hope of increasing trust from their customers.

Kept said,

If you were to take a convicted criminal with a tendency towards aggression and give him oxytocin to make him more social, and if that were to enhance anger as opposed to suppressing anger, then that has very substantial implications.

This research is really important because we don’t want to go ahead and attempt to treat a range and variety of psychiatric disorders with oxytocin without fully understanding the impact this may have on emotion and mood.

Any angry cuddlers out there?