BooGP

I'm a good listener and very empathetic, and often catch the most subtle physical manifestations of emotional strain and point it out, to the surprise of the person who feels a relief and a release in being able to then freely talk about something, or cry, or remember something instead of keeping that gut-punch contained. I am entertaining with a great sense of humor, and I am very open and sharing, able to dole out and gain trust as a gift, only withholding some to be further earned.

After losing my wife to cancer (Dec 2013) I lived in a world for years devoid of all human physical contact, save maybe a couple of handshakes at work. I met a woman for friendship only, unable to allow myself to move beyond my wife, unable to give myself to someone, and it was a beautiful friendship, devoid of romantic and physical expectations, but with a level of trust and closeness that was soothing. Over time our structured activities grew to include sitting on the couch watching movies, then sitting shoulder-to-shoulder leaning on each other, or leaning against the other person's torso, or on their lap, or held in arms in , with the nights growing longer like that. It was so therapeutic and humanizing after such a long time of contact starvation, and yet, so simple, so innocent, so basic of a thing being so incredibly powerful.

The power of being held, of a hug, of a cuddle when some days, everything was wrong and ached and I thought 'all i need is for my wife to hug me, and this will hurt less' and it did; and that grew more true when she was no longer around to make it hurt less, which made it hurt more.

Having my friend given me this gift and remind me /show me of how incredibly powerful such a simple thing could be, with no other strings to worry about, and just focus on the humanizing feeling, it is something that I wished to still continue to feel after she has exited my life, and as well something that I can share with someone else who may also be in such a dire state of need -- if I can help someone like that, who would truly honestly understand and appreciate the significance of such a simple thing, pay it forward .... that's worth trying.

I have met with a handful of professional cuddlers from here since ~Jan 2022, alternating between a few between repeat visits, and have a few current regulars that I have seen an average of once per 4-6 weeks each over that time, each person bringing something different to each session, a different quality of cuddling, a different experience of feelings during and after (ie calmness or energizing, soothing or comforting, tranquility vs clarity) and am always looking for other people to add into the mix. I am really hoping to find some cuddlers who is are enthusiasts near by soon to help space costs out -- I don't regret a penny that I have invested in my wellbeing through cuddling sofar, but do need to start spacing out the expenses a bit better.

**I grant permission to my cuddlers to talk about me with other cuddlers (pros or enthusiasts) openly and honestly to answer questions, advice **