About me
Hi! I'm Nikki. I've been professional cuddling since July 2016 and personally cuddling since I was born. :)
Throughout my work and personal experiences, I've noticed the need for intimacy in the world and the struggle so many people have in trying to achieve it. I believe this is because society says to us that: 1) Intimacy and sex are equivalent and the same and 2) Intimacy is exclusive and can only be acquired through a romantic partner.
I've seen directly, however, that providing emotional and platonic physical intimacy to people helps them feel heard, improves their outlook on life, empowers them in asking for what they want and need, and engenders compassion and love for others in them. With a background in education surrounding intimacy and communication, I also tend to focus my sessions on education surrounding how to make safe spaces and communicate with others about desires, tough feelings, and boundaries.
As far as how I spend my free time, I love to dance, hike, climb, backpack, do yoga, travel, and shoot photography. Most of all, I love to connect with my fellow human being – their hearts and souls, the deep stuff. :)
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Cuddling is an intimate and vulnerable practice. I understand how difficult it is to let someone into your home and your heart and put yourself out on the line without knowing who you'll be cuddling with first. This is why I offer a free 20 to 30-minute initial consultation in a public place like a coffee shop so we can get to know each other first and make sure we will be compatible and comfortable with each other first before an official cuddle session.
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Note: Money Talk
I know everyone hates to talk about money, but I also know it is going to be the first question people ask me. Thus, I want to be as transparent as possible so you know what you'd be getting if you contact me.
Details:
What to expect Before a Session:
Communication via CuddleComfort to answer my and your questions. This is to make sure we are both comfortable meeting and to schedule a session. After scheduling an appointment, I will need the location I will be meeting you (your home, a hotel room, or a public location of your choice) with any apartment number or hotel room included within 24 hours of the appointment.I do out-calls, with an additional travel fee for outcalls depending on time of day and distance. I usually respond within 24 hours (unless I am traveling). I require a 50% deposit of the session amount plus the travel fee for first time bookings via Paypal.
Cancellations:
If you need to cancel within 24 hours of our appointment, I charge 50% of the session amount. If I have already begun traveling to your location before the cancellation, the full amount of the session will be charged.
During a Session:
After we take care of payment of the deposit (I accept Paypal & Cash), we’ll review the agreements and boundaries we make between each other during our session together first. We will co-create a unique experience together! I look forward to meeting you and hearing your unique story.
I do feel that my services are services and there are benefits that you won't necessarily get by finding someone who "just wants to cuddle" and isn't being paid. The reason for this is because money exchange gives you a base of safety and stability in knowing that sex or any sexual interactions are 150% not on the table - for legal and ethical reasons. This changes interactions from a potentially romantic game to a therapeutic setting of equals connecting. Instead of the typical (conscious or subconscious) question of where lines are drawn in casual intimacy, there are no expectations of reciprocity. There is more clear and professional discussion about needs and wants and boundaries and consent is clear. For many of my clients, this is the first time they have ever had to discern what they want in a physical interaction or verbally ask for it and also the first time they know it will be given without strings or sex or sexual implications or questions attached. It may be an awkward experience in the beginning as all new situations are, but I promise that our time together will provide you a sense of empowerment to ask for what you want and need in your life - with others and in other avenues of your life.
I often tell people that what they are paying for above and beyond platonic affection is a good friend. I see it as my job to create a safe space for you to explore how you relate to someone you don’t know in a sometimes more intimate way than you interact with anyone else (possibly including your romantic partner if you have one). You may wonder: Is it really possible to have a friend that you can ask to play with your hair while you discuss your personal lives? Yes. Is it really possible to hold hands or curl up together in bed and look into each others’ eyes and share emotionally and not be romantic partners? Yes.
You can define how you want our time together to look.
This is what you would be paying me $65 an hour for. If this sounds valuable to you, please don't hesitate to contact me today for your free initial consultation. I can be booked from 1 hour to 8 hours. Unfortunately, I cannot host, but I can travel with a travel fee applied. I am also open to meeting in public places to cuddle such as parks.
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Reviews from regular clients (*and see more under karma!*):
"Nikki was caring and professional. This was my first experience “cuddling” and what I appreciated most was how Nikki created space for me to find what was comfortable for me. She was without judgement when I felt more comfortable talking and just sitting face to face. She allowed me to guide the entire session. As our time moved forward, I felt increasingly at ease and then I was able to give and receive the closeness and nurturing that she provided. When our session was over I felt connected to myself, to her and felt the joy and lightness in my body. I noticed through the rest of my week how I was less reactive to stress and even found myself making eye contact with strangers. I am amazed at the changes after just one session of Nikki’s facilitated communication and caring touch. You deserve this, call her!" - Stephanie
"'It was several months ago that I first sought out Nikki’s services as a professional platonic cuddler. I had moved to a new city where I had few friends, was struggling with depression, and found myself drinking alcohol to excess more frequently than at any other time in my life. I’m sure I am not the only one who has experienced such mundane stresses in day to day life. Like so many of Nikki’s clients, I was unsure of what to expect and I felt a little awkward about seeking out her services for the first time. Nevertheless, I wanted to find something positive and therapeutic in my life that was neither drugs nor alcohol. I decided to go out on a limb and try something new. What followed was both a pleasantly surprising and rejuvenating experience.
I set up an appointment via email and met Nikki on the front porch of my house. Hesitant to jump into cuddling with a complete stranger, I asked if I could just talk to her for a few minutes about the services she offered. Her demeanor was friendly, calm, and open. It was only a few minutes before I felt at ease and invited her into my home. I explained to her that I had several roommates and that I would prefer to cuddle in my room, on my bed. She said she was open to virtually any kind of position or touch, provided they were platonic and non-sexual. For instance, I asked if she would be comfortable stroking my hair and she happily agreed.
Within the first 10 to 20 seconds of the experience, I felt awkward and unsure of myself. It had been years since I’d felt the warm embrace of another person, beyond a friendly hug or a handshake. Surprisingly though, within seconds the awkwardness was gone and I felt my body and mind begin to relax. Looking back on that experience, I really had no idea how much I craved that kind of simple embrace. It was as though an emotional and psychological burden was being lifted off my shoulders. Even though I was at a very negative point in my life, I began to feel some very surreal, yet positive feelings stirring inside of me. It seemed almost supernatural. I wondered, ‘how could someone just snuggling up next to you be so profoundly comforting?!’ It was similar to the feeling I had after drinking three or four beers but it required no drugs or alcohol whatsoever. It was a health, natural high. Tensions inside my body and mind seemed to ease.
This is not just my own personal opinion on the experience. There is some very serious science that backs it all up. Oxytocin is a chemical produced naturally by the human body and very often, something as simple as cuddling with another person can trigger its release. Many studies show it can drastically reduce stress and anxiety. This was precisely what I was looking for when I contacted Nikki. A 1999 study showed oxytocin reduces the cravings human beings have for addictive substances from alcohol to cocaine. Indeed, after Nikki left my home that day, the prospect of getting drunk later that night seemed far less appealing. I simply didn’t need it.
“It’s uh… been a long time since I’ve cuddled with anyone.” I said.
“Really? Why has it been such a long time?” Nikki asked in an innocent and friendly tone of voice.
I told Nikki about my previous relationship and the unpleasant breakup that ended said relationship. At first, I thought that Nikki was simply asking questions because it was her job to appear sympathetic to her clients as a professional cuddler. In retrospect, I realize that she has a natural kind of emotional empathy, even for strangers she has only just met. She asked about my life because she was genuinely interested and fully prepared to listen with an open and non-judgmental attitude.
Looking into her eyes, you can see that she empathizes with what you are feeling in that moment and takes a genuine interest in what you have to say. Nikki is neither a psychologist nor a psychiatrist but I dare say that many of the benefits of her services are the same that one might reap from seeing a licensed therapist. Neither Nikki nor any human being, has the power to magically cure depression overnight. Even so, spending time with her that day offered a big break from the most severe symptoms of depression. Sometimes to get on the road to recovery, we just need to remember a time in our lives when we were happy. Cuddling, and more specifically oxytocin, has been shown to serve as a link to such memories. Sometimes, we also just need someone to talk to about our problems. Because I had paid Nikki for her services, it was much easier to open up to her. Normally, social anxiety of some sort might creep into my head. “Am I sharing too much?”, “Am I boring this person by talking too much?”, “Maybe I sound self centered talking so deeply about my own petty problems?”
Of course, none of those questions mattered to Nikki during our time together. It was a simple business arrangement where I was paying her for her services. As such, she was all too happy to listen to what I had to say and give me her full attention. This is her business after all, and she is very dedicated to giving her clients everything she has to offer in terms of comforting therapeutic, platonic touch… not to mention an ear to listen.
“I think people pay me to be a friend to them.” Nikki whispered, holding me in her arms. It was indeed touching to see that Nikki was genuinely interested in offering friendship and wanted to hear what I had to say. Yes, it is technically a service that she is providing for a fee. And yet, she gives you her complete and undivided attention for the time that you have scheduled with her. For single guys like myself, it’s sometimes easy to feel lonely and depressed. We might occasionally feel like we’re all alone and no one cares what we have to say. Sometimes; all you need is for someone to sit down, snuggle up next to you, look you in the eyes, and take a genuine interest in YOU as a person. I can attest that Nikki really does care what you have to say and can be a much needed friend in your life.
I walked Nikki to the door of my house and even though our time together had come to an end, she offered me a smile and a warm hug to say goodbye. I closed my front door and went back inside. “You look happy.” my roommate said as I walked in.He seemed almost surprised to see the shy smile on my face. Perhaps he hadn’t seen a smile from me in quite some time? “It’s been a nice afternoon.” I said. Afterwards, I did some work on my computer and watched Netflix. Yet the positive vibes from my hour of talking and cuddling with Nikki stuck with me for the rest of the day.
I know that for many people today, money is tight and Nikki’s services might seem like a luxury that they can’t afford. For me though, it made all the difference. Within days, I scheduled another appointment with her and when we met again, it proved to be just as beneficial as the previous one. Her subtle and comforting cuddles, not to mention her friendly company, are worth every single penny! If you are on the fence about trying her services, I say go for it! You’ll be glad that you did. In fact, if anyone reading my review has any questions or concerns about what they can expect, I’d urge them to text me. I’ll be happy to answer them." - C. 303-570- 1642
“Wow, Nikki! This is so amazing. Tension I’ve stored in my body for years – so long that I just assumed it was an integral part of me – has just dissipated. Wow. Thank you, thank you!” -Jim
“Thank you so much for helping me see myself in a different light. You are very kind and insightful and that’s just what I needed at this point in my life.” -Josh