I generally take the following precautions (though note that I am not a paid cuddler):
A cuddle is nothing more than a prolonged hug. There's nothing wrong with hugging someone in public.
A cuddler asked me to send her a copy of my photo ID. I can black out any number and address. They want my name to be visible.
To each their own @RScarf1, I wouldn't do that personally.
I wouldn't do that either
That will also be a little off putting to me. I wouldn't mind cuddling in public until she feels safe. I did it with the only pro I saw so far. It was at a public park and we had an amazing time. I get no responses at all when I message any non-pros which is typical.
I like the talking face to face, via Whats App Skype etc at least two or three times like someone said or a meet an greet somewhere public. As a guy I am just as concerned with my safety as well. I had an incident a few years ago where I ended up with someone with some mental health issues that I wasn't aware of that caused a who lot of drama that I wanted no part of. Luckily we never met at my place.
I'm curious to know what women cuddlers do when they live alone and don't really have anyone they can notify of their comings and goings. That's my situation. My closest friends are many states away or in other countries.
Same thing any guy should do also in my opinion meet in public first. Guys and girls both take risks if meeting in private.
@BlueIris perhaps you could notify a friend or neighbour?
Sunflowerfield, I don't know my neighbors, and I have no friends in the area. I could email my friend 3,000 away, that's about the best I could do. I suppose it's better than nothing. At least she could give the police a clue as to where to find my body!
@BlueIris, maybe get to know some neighbors. Try a neighborhood website like nextdoor.com. (Just visited nextdoor myself; there's not a neighborhood association yet, where I live, so I'm starting one -- it's free). Or, knock on doors & introduce yourself; even if you meet someone who's not overtly friendly, they'll at least understand that you're well-intentioned. And, even if they're not sociable, the worst that can happen is you're kind of back where you started.
@BlueIris Your plan of action as listed on your profile looks great to me. Yes, you should notify your long distance friend, or better yet make friends with someone here who lives in your area to notify. A lot of professional cuddlers use each other for that kind of notification. Maybe one of them wil do it for you.
Thanks, Poly. That's exactly what I thought of. I just met a professional cuddler, and he's agreed to be my check-in buddy. Thanks, everyone for all the good advice.
To be honest, I am quite scared to meet someone I don't know in general and even more so if I were to cuddle with them.
That might be linked to that whole being gifted thing going on for me.