@lesmis33 I don’t think it is pedantic to correct a recurrent misuse of a term. Actually, if the person who it is intended for has an ounce of introspection in them, they might realize their anger was misguided because they did not think their point through all the way and thought they had only to discover they were misusing the crux of their point. And misguided anger is something everyone has done in their life at some point.
So actually you did them a service. Whether it is appreciated or not is a different topic.
Well as for myself , I'm not claiming any person owes me a reply or anything other . I am quite sure none will ever be interested . Which is not a shock or a surprise . No reason why they should be .
Amazing thing about free will is that you have the freedom to express your thoughts and the freedom to disagree with said thoughts . Not agreeing with you doesn't mean that anybody is stepping on your ability and freedom to post as you wish . Nobody here needs to agree with you or pat you on the back . It's not that deep .
@pmvines 👍
HTH- Ac/Dc
“Living easy, living free Season ticket on a one-way ride Asking nothing, leave me be Taking everything in my stride Don't need reason, don't need rhyme Ain't nothing I would rather do”
….. Then get a cuddle 🤗 or two. 👂 🐛
@SunshineHug I like your version !
@pmvines 🤣🎤. Beats there. Lyrics need a tweak. I’ll ask my heavy metal 🎸 band friends to remix for me.
You should state your requirement in your profile, so those pro's don't contact you. It's on you to be upfront, too.
10 years ago, I used AirBNB all the time. Then it gained popularity and became ridiculous with the excessive fees. So I switched back to long-term hotels that offer a flat rate {and great amenities.} I can't change the host's price or their/AirBNB's business practices {where I am the unpaid maid}. I can only change myself. No complaints needed.
{Back to my hidey hole.}
@Sooson No one's being kept out of the market when cuddling is free and is much better enjoyed when it's free. I think a lot of people here have themselves convinced that they are unworthy of affection without paying for it first which is why they pay for it in the first place. I know I did.
Thankfully after seeing a therapist they were eventually able to convince me why this was so unhealthy and I was able to get to a much better place that I wanted to be in.
Paying someone to cuddle you is a lot like visiting your local drug dealer, or eating junk food. It feels really good for a little while, but it's actually really bad practice and comes from a place of avoiding the problem rather than fixing it.
On the other hand we have the majority of pros on here who want to feel like they are doing something good for the world but instead are contributing to something actually pretty harmful by taking advantage of an issue rather than fixing it in order to make money.
I'm probably going to delete this account soon anyways. I'm asexual so I originally thought that this would be a good place to find something entirely platonic, but everyone I message on here or who messages me pro or enthusiast is someone with an ulterior motive pretending to be interested in me. The whole thing is predatory.
Traveling an hour to a cuddle session implies another hour to get back home, yes? If you're booking a one hour session for, say $120, then this means the cuddler is making $40 per hour. And she has the risk of a last-minute cancellation or ghosting upon arrival.
So yes, it's reasonable for a cuddler to charge a travel fee that is proportional to the time/distance involved.
@BashfulLoner my comment did come across wrong. I am grateful this isn't a dating site (I came here only looking for platonic touch) but the messages coming to me have sure made it feel like one. Add to that the disrespect & sarcasm in these threads and I've been disappointed. All I was saying is that Ryon55 worded it very well.
Fascinating discussion! Since I host, I haven't really had to think much about additional fees. Personally, I find the idea of charging extra fees doesn't quite align with how I prefer to operate my business. However, if I did travel to clients I would increase the hourly rate.
Interesting that most of the sarcasm and disrespect has come from the men - and the OP doesn't even apply to you. Being sarcastic and condescending is not the same as respectfully disagreeing. So a view is only correct if it aligns with your position?? You have a right to disagree with my views and I yours. And I hold to my original post. That is my view of the situation - period.
@starrynitecuds I like how you say “back to my hidey hole.” Cute.
@Warmhugs22 Exactly. And I’ve noticed the younger pros, 30 and younger, don’t drive nor host. So you pay say $100 an hour, and pro says round trip Uber is $70. Wtf. $170 an hour and you host them. GTFO
@OhioMike etc…. Where do you all find these great memes???
Also, moving companies and many other types of service providers (plumbers, foundation engineers also!) charge for mileage beyond the cost of their service. I think almost all adults know this.
@carrieanne
I'm on this platform since 2019. Average rate use to be between $60 and $80 for 1 hour now you lucky if you find someone in the $100 range. There are a lot of New pros that don't even have karma and the are $150-$200 per hour. Anyone that really enjoys cuddling knows that you need more than 1 hour for a good session and most of the parents don't Host. Start putting together the numbers 2 hrs at $150 hotel $100+ traveling fee you getting close to $500 a session that most average people can't afford.
@Cuddle20 I don't really know what average rates use to be without some sort of stats to review. However in your case, Brooklyn, I think that's a very expensive place to live as compared to where I live in Central Ohio? I think its challenging to look at pricing on CC and not consider locations as a factor.
Topic: "Pricing morales and poverty (9 years still not cuddling)"
Hi everyone! Just wana say glsd to be part of this community. Made this to put/getmore understanding for those whom can relate. Please dont respind if you didnt resd the post. If you relate by feeling generally discarded both by pros and cc mods despite their intentions to claim they are here to help you i encourage you to share you story.
1️⃣Background: I was aware of the website for 5 years and when I 'finally' turned (18 4 years ago now) i started using it. In that 9 years or legaly 4 i only paid for two half hour sessions and was kindly given have a free one. I grew up with high standards on spending and saving and had a rough life
2️⃣Morale delima: (so personally anytime i feel like taking $200 out of my savings it shouldnt be for me but my brother mother or something related to my morales. ) (i get healthy spending on oneself and think lowely of the way my lastest coworkers spent their money, hookers drugs daily resturuants overpriced low quality thrill scams, overpriced concerts)
3️⃣My experience here: I've been on this website almost daily for years and years. Without much to shows, its embrassing and strange habbit?.. I've met alot of really really cool men and mostly women and had great conversations, life chanaing ones here but about 40of the 50 proffesionals I talked to just didnt seem like a good idea to get something to work. either for a variety of reasons (traveling, flakes, banning the person, lack of authenticity/too transactional, ghosting ect) but mainly because 400-800 dollars not to mention fathoming a repeating session is too much for me.
4️⃣Costsegway : [Not all men of course, not saying thr money isnt worth it vecause its relative of course] [i personally think it takes away from the exp and i dont know what im going to get or how I will feel]
4️⃣B main ideas. someone thats young broke depressed and independent like me cant go 9 years here and just ignore the price without inner confliction disturbing the mind while cuddling. So i accept all this for what it is. I just want some pros out there that may feel strongly against me to at least understand this is the majority of the lurkers or people that dont even bother with the site. 3.2 k salary a month + volunteering then -1300 rent -450 other bills -120cargasfoodclothes and inbetween jobs family support and travel and suddenly a $200 (standard in the places i live now) an hour fee to have someone hold you for 1 hour in your almost entirely alone life just kills the mood before it begins. I've been lucky enough to have friends that I love amd love to cuddle but most in my case dont. And i would be lost without them.
5️⃣ more personal blahblah skip this. If i could make more money? Yeah true that! Sounds fine, Its more likely I will have other developments in life that will release desire to be held alternatively however. Depression can be harsh but when a young guy is ready least for me its more easily trick girls into cuddling that want sex (even if you dont want romance or sex) as this is the sad reality for someone with trauma that has reasons he may not be ready for romance and or sex. and although i value authentcity most girls I've meet just dont understand or believe u for cuddling.
Disclaimer yes this is all entitled and not meant to be dramatic of course but when i first joined the people around were far better characters and average prices were $70 in mybarea now its more than double and the quality less than half.
TLTR? Dont bother 😮💨
Comment from "Pricing morales and poverty (9 years still not cuddling)"
I’m gonna give you a harsh reality check: 1) times change 2) nobody cares 3) cuddling isn’t a necessity 4) once you’ve learned those 3 things you can focus on other ventures that can bring you some joy and happiness
Unfortunately, hiring a professional cuddler isn't feasible for everyone. Being young and broke isn't conducive to hiring that kind of service. I get it. I've been young and broke and have had to go without a lot of stuff that would have been really good or really helpful for me, and it sucks not to be able to afford those things.
I don't think you're telling anyone anything they don't already know. Yes, pro cuddlers are fairly pricey, and yes, they're somewhat out of reach for people without a decent income.
With pro cuddlers you're making a tradeoff - you're paying money to get a shortcut through the normal process of meeting and getting to know a woman to the point where she's comfortable cuddling with you. For someone who's got an established career and a relatively high income, that tradeoff may be worth it. For someone who doesn't have those things, that tradeoff is likely not worth it. So you can instead do it the old fashioned way... meet women organically, and progress the relationship to the point where you can cuddle. It takes time and effort, but it's doable.
girls into cuddling that want sex
I do sympathize with this point. It's ironic in a way, given longstanding stereotypes, that it turns out it's way easier to have sex with women than it is to platonically cuddle with them. Still, though, it is in fact possible... just takes time.
There’s been an influx recently of $200-$300 an hour pros in the Southern California area. The average has become somewhere between $100-$150 an hour. The escalated rates of $200-$300 an hour are in the realm of prostitution. I really think the site needs to either investigate this or do something about it. This may sound overly dramatic but I think this is the beginning of the end for cuddle comfort. To pay $300 an hour for platonic cuddling is insane. Either this is just going to turn into another escort site or clients are going to just stop paying. Opinions?
If you want a fun side project, see how many pros in your area show up on a sugar site search. It's like 35-40% in my area.
@Morpheus I agree with your concerns I’ve just stopped paying anything over $100
Agreed. I won’t pay $150 an hour for glorified hugging, let alone $200+
I’ve noticed this for a while and my thoughts were the same, prostitution. I ran across one pro asking $500/hour. I love cuddling but I’m not paying more than $120/hour. Even then I can only cuddle once a month.
No need for concern, nor do I think CC needs to do anything about prices.
If Pros experienxe a drop in business, they'll likely lower their prices. If Pros experience an increase in business, they'll likely raise their prices.
The free market will work, if we let it.
...and soon the usual cheerleaders will flock in to meticulously and passionately opine to the contrary. They are still asleep its early.