Disclaimers: I'm a guy myself, and obviously not all guys are like this. I'm referring to specific actions of men that other people talk about in their experience. If you don't do these things, then I'm not talking about you. Also, what I say here applies both for this site, and other sites meant for dating - the same interactions happen.
I was reading another thread about inactivity on this site. One discussion lead to male enthusiasts vs female enthusiasts, and why there are much fewer females than males. From personal experiences, women talk about men who were anywhere from rude to just awful to them; being demanding, inflexible, and inappropriate, among other things. Hence, women leave and/or don't respond to messages as often.
Why is it the standard for men to be awful? Like I get that no one is perfect. But like, you tell me that your only availability is Tuesday afternoons, and I'll try to figure out a way (and say, sorry that won't work, if I really can't). You want additional photos, or to talk on the phone to know I'm who i say i am, sure! I can't travel easily because I don't drive, but like, I'm not going to be rude about it if someone else couldn't or wouldn't either. Nothing that I hear complaints about is something I would ever consider doing.
I'm not going to send pictures of my dick, because that's disgusting - why do so many other men do that? I get uncomfortable even saying it out loud because it sounds inappropriate and downright insane to me, yet it's something that happens all the time. I wouldn't feel even remotely okay doing that.
I'm not going to be inappropriate with someone I meet, because again, that's awful. A friend at work talked about how someone they met on a dating app said out loud, on their first date, that they were going to have sex with them (in some euphemism I don't remember). What the fuck? Nevermind that this is a site for platonic things; I would never do something like that at all, anywhere, because it's fucked up.
Why do i care about this? "When you help others, you can't help helping yourself." (Avenue Q)
I do think/talk about this with a selfish motive (like, it sucks and I feel bad for people that go through this, but I wouldn't write out a post just to say it); the fact that my chances of meeting up with someone are hindered because of the overwhelming majority of shitty guys that women meet. I really hate it, because it limits my own ability to meet people and I can't do anything about it. It's hard to know if most people I reach out to are just buried in messages, or if people look at me, my bio/pictures, and aren't interested. (It's probably some of both). (edit: also the fact that it's a numbers game to begin with, naturally more guys than girls anyways)
Honestly, why do guys think it's acceptable to behave in those ways? And is there anything I can do, as someone who isn't perfect (but isn't like that, ffs) to meet people? I'm pretty sure I can already guess why guys do it, but no harm in asking. And thank you to people who behave normally.