It seems to me that since this is a purely voluntary environment where everyone is looking for cuddling wrapped in their own particular "package" of requirements whether they choose to admit it or not.... that it behooves us all to make our "package" needs known to all however we do that. It is generally acknowledged that a death knell to any type of relationship are unspoken / unmet needs.
Make your needs known and just pass over those who don't fill your "package" needs. Don't complain ad nauseam ( or even some : - ) ) about those who choose not to mold themselves to your "package" needs.
I have met a couple of personalities in these forum topics that make me think "thank goodness they are not in my area" and others that I think " awwww...too bad they are not in my area". I prefer emailing at least a bit to feel people out before meeting because I also like to see a how a person represents themselves in the written word...that is my very valid preference, but just MY preference. Does that mean that I may miss a rare gem that doesn't pass that gentle vetting? Yep... but that is how I do it for myself. I came to this web site seeking ... cuddling. Not correction, excoriation, or pressure from others.
As always, just my thoughts. Y'all be safe out there....