CuddleNerdle

What do you need from your cuddle sessions? Safety? Warmth? Strength? Confidence? Healing? Nurturing, judgment-free compassion?

I'm especially interested in providing cuddles for neglected populations. If you are elderly, disabled, or otherwise marginalized please reach out. I will absolutely offer discounts if possible. All genders and orientations WELCOME.

My style is best described as transgressive kindness. I can be either spoon, we can chat or be quiet, and I'm always happy to affirm your humanity with whispered honesties. I will never judge any personal situations, and discretion is guaranteed if needed.

My day job is as an engineer and teacher. My hobby is singing (karaoke and choir).

Truthfully I was lacking touch throughout my life. I'm finally in a place where I can lend my time and confidence to others, so I'm thrilled to do so if it helps you heal, relax, or otherwise match some unmet need.

The important thing to remember is that our paid sessions are about you first. I absolutely get positive feelings from cuddling clients, and I will always end a session early if I feel unsafe or that my services are no longer appreciated. But it's my job to worry about those things. If I'm in a session, rest assured that I am there because I want to be.

Your job when we cuddle is to worry about your own needs. Feel safe. Allow your body to relax. Ask yourself what surface and deeper level needs were being unmet and how we can help you on your current healing journey.

Consent, even when cuddling, must be 100% enthusiastic. If I sense you feel uncomfortable in the slightest we will talk about it. While I want to ultimately resolve any feelings of discomfort and resume the cuddle session, failure to communicate will cause me to end the session. This is for both of our safety. But I will make every attempt to resolve the issue before I have to cancel.

My goal is for you to leave our sessions feeling restored, safe, and validated. You are a whole person and I want you to feel that way.

I will NEVER initiate, hint at, or otherwise suggest anything beyond cuddling. Friendships between a cuddler and a client may naturally form over time. I also will never identify you in public unless you identify me first. If you do greet me in public, I will follow your lead to ascertain what level of information you are comfortable sharing in that public setting. I normally love speaking with clients in and out of sessions. I would be thrilled if you wanted to say hello! The people I spend time with in public are either aware of my professional cuddling or are the types of people who would be understanding about it, so don't feel obligated to try to keep anything secret on my account.

I am married for the past 5 years, we've been together for 15, and we have two dogs.

My rates are flexible and I offer a sliding scale when able. This includes potential pro bono work. My goals are to provide healing and safety, to spread word of mouth about my services, and to foster community. A sliding scale helps me do that, and offering a slightly higher base rate allows me to offer a sliding scale. Please don't hesitate to reach out regarding pricing.

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Safety!

Some notes regarding safety. Especially for a first time meet, consider meeting me in public (a park, a movie, etc). If you are hosting at a private location, consider having a chaperone (room mate or family member) available if you are comfortable with it. They don't need to be in the same room, but it's okay if they are! Your safety and comfort is paramount.

If we are cuddling in private (the more common situation) then consider having a check-in friend who you send a code word to periodically or at the end of a session. I use the check-in system on my end.

For extra safety, we also may consider swapping IDs before I enter your space to verify that we are who we say we are. This can be coupled with letting a friend know my name ahead of time.

100% here ONLY to cuddle. No sexual advances, hints, or suggestions given or accepted from any gender. If you are looking for sexual services there are easier ways to find them than this site. Any sexual suggestions immediately reported. This is for my safety as well as yours.